That Serves Me Right For Ranting About My Dad
By Janey1966
@Janey1966 (24170)
Carlisle, England
September 12, 2011 4:05pm CST
Some of you will know that I had a rant about my Dad a few days ago. I didn't say anything favourable about him at all.
Well, it's come back to bite me now.
Why?
My Dad is in hospital.
Mum rang earlier to say he was choking in the bathroom after some meat got stuck in his throat. After about 20 minutes, he still hadn't come out so she rang the doctors who, in turn, advised her to ring for an ambulance..which she did.
So, the upshot being my Dad is now in hospital. He's being kept in overnight and shall have an operation tomorrow. This is exactly what happened to John's Mum so I'm trying not to worry myself about it.
However, Mum needs me so I'm off to her house on the train tomorrow. Fortunately, it's only £15 each way ("cheaper than the car" John said) and it was his idea for me to travel by train..and I'm so glad he came up with it, otherwise I'd be mithering about what's going on 100 miles away. I love him so much!
I am due back on Saturday evening so I shall give everyone an update upon my return.
It never rains but it pours!
Can't we have just ONE year when everything goes right for a change?
Mum rang earlier to say he was choking in the bathroom after some meat got stuck in his throat. After about 20 minutes, he still hadn't come out so she rang the doctors who, in turn, advised her to ring for an ambulance..which she did.
So, the upshot being my Dad is now in hospital. He's being kept in overnight and shall have an operation tomorrow. This is exactly what happened to John's Mum so I'm trying not to worry myself about it.
However, Mum needs me so I'm off to her house on the train tomorrow. Fortunately, it's only £15 each way ("cheaper than the car" John said) and it was his idea for me to travel by train..and I'm so glad he came up with it, otherwise I'd be mithering about what's going on 100 miles away. I love him so much!
I am due back on Saturday evening so I shall give everyone an update upon my return.
It never rains but it pours!
Can't we have just ONE year when everything goes right for a change?3 people like this
20 responses
@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
13 Sep 11
Good luck with your trip. Hopefully your dad will be fine. I am sure that he will be.
No doubt you will fill us all in on how it all went, so I will be pacing the floor waiting until then. 
No doubt you will fill us all in on how it all went, so I will be pacing the floor waiting until then. @Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Sep 11
Awww, what a sweet thing to say, thanks Bill.
I PROMISE I will let everyone know what's happened come Saturday night when I'm back here in Carlisle.
Mum is having a tough time in her new job too (harder than the one she was potted from, apparently) so she's getting stress from all sides at the moment. With me being there it should make life a bit easier for her. I do hope so, anyway.
Obviously, I want to see my Dad and ensure he's receiving the best care. Knowing him he won't want to be in hospital for very long and can you blame him? They're horrible places..doesn't matter what age you are.
I PROMISE I will let everyone know what's happened come Saturday night when I'm back here in Carlisle.
Mum is having a tough time in her new job too (harder than the one she was potted from, apparently) so she's getting stress from all sides at the moment. With me being there it should make life a bit easier for her. I do hope so, anyway.
Obviously, I want to see my Dad and ensure he's receiving the best care. Knowing him he won't want to be in hospital for very long and can you blame him? They're horrible places..doesn't matter what age you are.1 person likes this
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 11
hi Janey yes I always thought that too as when I broke my shoulder they sent me to a rehab hospital called C are house aand it was awful, the aides were rude and only did what little they could get away with but the physical therapists were just great. so this feb. after Valentines day I fell hard and twisted my knee. again I was sent to Care house and oh my I was scared but it was under new management and everybody was so kind to me. the aides were very caring and I had the best of care too both from the aides and the physical therapists too. I also had wonderful care in the Western Medical center whee I was sent by my doctor after me waking up and losing huge amounts of blood from my rectum. I had what was called bleeding diverticulitis. a bunch of blackberry seeds had formed a hard mass in one little sac in my colon and nicked a major artery. so after four blood transfusions and a barium enema that cleared away the seeds I was sent home well again. but my care really was excellent. I know some hospitals do not do that great a job but Western Medical Center is tops in my book.
@stary1 (6611)
• United States
13 Sep 11
It doesn't matter if you aren't religious. Keeping an open mind about God can't hurt
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That is very considerate for you to be there for your Mom..I think it's easier to relate to a daughter than a son. Your Dad will most likely appreciate your being there too. I am confident you really know you had nothing to do with him being in the hospital.
Take care and Best wishes to all of you
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That is very considerate for you to be there for your Mom..I think it's easier to relate to a daughter than a son. Your Dad will most likely appreciate your being there too. I am confident you really know you had nothing to do with him being in the hospital.
Take care and Best wishes to all of you @ladygator (3465)
• United States
13 Sep 11
Janey, I am sorry to hear about your dad. I am sure he will be given a clean bill of health once they have observed him. I know it does make it worse when something terrible happens right after you were angry at him. But I am sure that everyone knows that you really do love your dad. Everyone has a day that they feel unfavorable to another person. Sometimes that person happens to be a parent. People will always have differences and get frustrated. My advise would be just to always make ammends with others before right away once you have vented. I keep that saying "never let the sun go down on your wrath" in mind whenever I am angry at someone. Its easier said than done sometimes tho.
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Sep 11
Well, at least he didn't know about my rant because I did it on the internet and not to his face..thankfully!
He can be an awkward so-an-so but he does have many positive points, the main one being his compassion towards animals and young children. He hates cruelty towards either and this is where I get mine from..my Mum is the same.
I only hope he's treated with dignity and respect in the hospital..and that he comes out as quickly as possible!
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Sep 11
Awww I think you would too, thanks.
Well, at least I've got a good deal on the train which I'm relieved about. I rang Mum about coming over and she said, "You're a star" in an emotional fashion..so I guess she's pleased I'm travelling, even though she said I wasn't to panic.
I'm hopeful the trip will be ok.
Well, at least I've got a good deal on the train which I'm relieved about. I rang Mum about coming over and she said, "You're a star" in an emotional fashion..so I guess she's pleased I'm travelling, even though she said I wasn't to panic.
I'm hopeful the trip will be ok.1 person likes this
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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12 Sep 11
Hello Janey,
so sorry to hear about your dad, but don't beat yourself up for moaning, we've all been there, hope you will be alright soon, big hugs, take care.
Tamara
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@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Sep 11
Many thanks for your kind words, Tamara. So many crap things happen to this family, it's unbelievable.
My Dad did have problems with some spare ribs whilst Mum visited me some months ago. Apparently, he writhed around the kitchen floor and managed to dislodge the food himself.
I'm wondering if it's an age thing? So many older people die of choking it does make me wonder.
At least he's OK now in the hospital. Mum said he looked so old with all the tubes connected up.
Aww!
When she told me this I had a good cry upstairs..then John told me he would fund my visit on the train. Thankfully, it was cheap but I can't let my family down...not now.
I'm wondering if it's an age thing? So many older people die of choking it does make me wonder.
At least he's OK now in the hospital. Mum said he looked so old with all the tubes connected up.
Aww!
When she told me this I had a good cry upstairs..then John told me he would fund my visit on the train. Thankfully, it was cheap but I can't let my family down...not now.1 person likes this
@hardworkinggurl (37062)
• United States
13 Sep 11
Oh Janey I am sorry your dad is having an operation. I will immediately say a prayer and have him in my thoughts. Don't feel this way sweetie it has been an overall tough year and as we know life no such thing as a good full year.
Let's just hope he continues to do well after the surgery and all goes well. I am happy to hear you are going by Mum's this will be good for the both of you during his time at the hospital. Take your time prior to traveling, be astute during your travel and hope you get their safe. Sometimes when we are worried we tend to be a bit forgetful.
Take care and do keep us updated.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
13 Sep 11
Oh yes, I know about the forgetful part. I do this even when there isn't a crisis on lol.
Many thanks for your prayers and I shall give you an update upon my return.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
18 Sep 11
It's not your fault. It happens to all of us. I have been through this alot of times too. I would not know how to act with a a full good year either.
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
8 Nov 11
i'm half irish..i don't recognize this word "luck"
crap comes in clusters it seems unfortunetly.especially if it's appliances.
crap comes in clusters it seems unfortunetly.especially if it's appliances.
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Oct 11
Haven't located your update yet, but I hope everything's ok.
@Janey1966 (24170)
• Carlisle, England
9 Oct 11
Yes, he is fine. An overnight stay in hospital (and he was hooked up to some "stuff" going round his body) was enough for the food to go down on its own. He has a follow-up appointment though as Mum told the docs (on the sly as Dad wouldn't say anything himself..being a bloke) he has trouble eating on a daily basis. As far as I know this appointment is during the coming week so I'll let you know how that goes.
Thanks for your concern.
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
13 Sep 11
Aww, sorry to hear about your father I wouldn't feel guilty about ranting, sometimes we need to get stuff off our chest, but it doesn't mean that you love him any less. I hope all goes well. Best wishes :-)
I wouldn't feel guilty about ranting, sometimes we need to get stuff off our chest, but it doesn't mean that you love him any less. I hope all goes well. Best wishes :-) @Cricket127 (548)
• United States
13 Sep 11
Hi! HUG!!!
Believe it or not, I to had problems with my Dad when he was still with us and it was ironic that I was watching one of the Star Trek series when a line really got me to listen, "...while we still have time." (((BOING!!!!!)) We had about a year left and had some issues to truly iron out. As it was easier for us both to write, we did. Pages and pages went back and forth and each of us went over many issues that had been too painful before or we just weren't ready to deal with. During his final days, my sister and I remembered our best day with him, walked into his room, and told him.
Basically my point is is that you are human--we all have issues with our parents and they do need to be addressed. I'm not saying how you did it was right, but perhaps when he is stable and is receptive, perhaps you and he could talk and I mean really talk. Why? For your conscience and his. Besides there is nothing worse than, "If only I had said this." "If only I had not done that." Remember the fun times, when he was there in good times and bad....that'll help.
Be well and good luck!
@GardenGerty (169474)
• United States
13 Sep 11
Janey, I am sure you know there is no cause and effect here. You did not cause this, it is not luck or jinx.The choices he is making made me wonder if he is having some health problems. You will go, have a lovely trip on the train, and help your parents out. I do not think there is ever a year where everything goes well.
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Sep 11
hi Janey I am sorry about your dad and hopes the operation goes smoothly and he recovers nicely. Sometimes it seems like some years crashdown ijn a domino effect and we cannot believe it just
keeps coming at us.Iam glad you are going to support your mom.I was never close to my dad after he took advantage of me at age8 cause my mom was ill in the hospital. He got away with molesting me that once as nobody would believe me and i could not tell my mom as it would have killed her.so I hated him for years until my dear hubby saw that the hatred was making me ill and not hurting him. he suggested I go and tell him I forgive him for molesting me as a little girl. so I did and asked him why.He just turned red and would not answer me.but I felt like the world had been lifted off my shoulders.hatred only makes the hater ill.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
Don't be too hard on yourseld janey, it's not as if you shove that meat in your father's throat or did you? Just kidding . I'm just trying to make you laugh. Let's jut pray for his safety and that he'll be out of that hospital soon. Maybe in the future, you can rant about him for not chewing on his food long enough . Reminds me of my niece who choked when she accidentally swallowed a thumb size fruit that got stuck on her throat, it freaked me out and out my panic and hit the back of her throat and thankfully it dislodged the fruit and out it went though her mouth. wheww close call...
. I'm just trying to make you laugh. Let's jut pray for his safety and that he'll be out of that hospital soon. Maybe in the future, you can rant about him for not chewing on his food long enough . Reminds me of my niece who choked when she accidentally swallowed a thumb size fruit that got stuck on her throat, it freaked me out and out my panic and hit the back of her throat and thankfully it dislodged the fruit and out it went though her mouth. wheww close call...
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
13 Sep 11
I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. I hope things get better. I'm a daddy's girl, so I can't for the life of me imagine if something bad happened to him. Have a safe trip and hope things will be good.
@changjiangzhibin89 (17239)
• China
13 Sep 11
I am sorry to hear that Your Dad was in hospital.I hope it is nothing serious.I am aware of how you felt at that time when your Mum gave you a call.I attended my Dad who suffered from Alzheimer's disease during several months before he passed on.Sometimes I showed signs of impatience. Now I reprove myself at the thought of that.
@ankitbhat (269)
• India
13 Sep 11
oh....sorry to hear about your dad ...its horrible that he will have to undergo an operation to get that stuck piece of meat out ....bon voyage
