I think if I could just get a little rest !!
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50970)
Holiday, Florida
January 20, 2012 2:08pm CST
You know I was in the hospital with breast removal in September. I came home tried to recoup but because of the situation with daughter bringing her bf C here and him being an addict and alcoholic, it hasnt been easy to get calm and rest. so ended up in hospital with pneumonia in less then 6 months. both things take some rest and stress can keep you from resting. well I may end up there again if i dont get rid of them. i hate to do it but i may have to get son to throw his own sister out.
i really just cant take any more. this morning, son and daughter both went to work very early. which left me alone in house with C
i lock my door every night anyway because i dont trust anyone thats an addict. hes been off stuff for nearly 2 weeks, but still i know how they are. 5:30 am after they were gone, im sleeping but get woke up from slamming doors, and music from their room. i make myself go back to sleep, 6:20 am, it didnt work cause he made more loud noises, so Coco began to bark. im telling her be quiet, come lay back down when he comes to my door,C, and says let her out mom. He still calls me mom!
when he knows i dont even like him any more. i gave up for a while, came out to tell him leave me be. i couldnt go back to sleep till about 8:30. then i dosed off. 9:30 am Guess what? eeerrr! he knocked on my door to see if i was ok!! REALLY?? so anyway, wouldnt you say, rest is an important thing? after all the stress and trauma ive been through, ive got to have it. even if son has to kill C or at least throw him/and her if she insists on going with him, out!! just kidding about the kill thing. when son got home, he was a bit disgusted. he went and turned off C's loud music, and checked for a pulse, since he couldnt wake him. i know C's alive cause i just heard him in there coughing. poor daughter will be coming home to more crap after work. but its her own fault. im about beyond feeling sorry for her.
i really just cant take any more. this morning, son and daughter both went to work very early. which left me alone in house with C i lock my door every night anyway because i dont trust anyone thats an addict. hes been off stuff for nearly 2 weeks, but still i know how they are. 5:30 am after they were gone, im sleeping but get woke up from slamming doors, and music from their room. i make myself go back to sleep, 6:20 am, it didnt work cause he made more loud noises, so Coco began to bark. im telling her be quiet, come lay back down when he comes to my door,C, and says let her out mom. He still calls me mom! when he knows i dont even like him any more. i gave up for a while, came out to tell him leave me be. i couldnt go back to sleep till about 8:30. then i dosed off. 9:30 am Guess what? eeerrr! he knocked on my door to see if i was ok!! REALLY?? so anyway, wouldnt you say, rest is an important thing? after all the stress and trauma ive been through, ive got to have it. even if son has to kill C or at least throw him/and her if she insists on going with him, out!! just kidding about the kill thing. when son got home, he was a bit disgusted. he went and turned off C's loud music, and checked for a pulse, since he couldnt wake him. i know C's alive cause i just heard him in there coughing. poor daughter will be coming home to more crap after work. but its her own fault. im about beyond feeling sorry for her.5 people like this
14 responses
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
20 Jan 12
Your son should lay down the law. When he and your daughter leave for work, then C should be out of the house. Let him go to the library and sit and read. You don't need extra stress right now. C should only be in the house if your daughter (or preferably your son and daughter) is there. Maybe that would make having him around more tolerable?
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
thats a suggestion. i'll try that. we will talk about that over the weekend. thanks. they will likely throw him out at the library
but thats not my problem
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
21 Jan 12
Catdla, that is an excellent idea and one that I would not have thought of! It might even motivate him to break up with the daughter and go away. Maybe he'll meet someone and be their problem instead of Bunny's and son's!
If you do this, Bunny, be sure he doesn't have a key to the house or any way to get in. The advantage is that if he does try to get in you can call the cops and have him arrested!
I'm sorry for addicts but not sorry enough to think people should have to put up with this crap. I hope you'll do this!
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@WakeUpKitty (8691)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 12
If it can't be the gently way do it the hard way! Since he is still calling you mom you can't be hard enough.
Seems to me it's time you learn to put yourself on the first place (so you can get your rest) and it's time for the other to learn a lesson as well.
I wish you the rest you need so badly!
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@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
thanks hon. my problem now is when son is home and i can rest, i have insomnia. if i could time it right i'd be good huh? 
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
27 Jan 12
Aww sweety, you can't live like that my dear. C should not even be there and bad enough that he is stopping you from getting any rest, I don't think it's safe for you to be there on your own with just him. Someone like that is a ticking time bomb and you never know what will happen.
I so hope you can be safe.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
18 Aug 12
Did you finally get C to move out? I think I would have asked him to leave the first time all this started rather than letting drag out until you got sicker. There has to be something you can do to have a restful night!
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
19 Aug 12
Boy, it keeps getting hairier and hairier! I don't know what to tell you. Maybe you should come live with me for a while. You could get some rest and who knows, things may get better for all of us!
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Oct 12
thats an idea. i might think that one over. got to check again where you live. 
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Aug 12
its useless. son has been around and around with him many times and has a bit of a weak spot for his little sister. she always makes excuses and says hes leaving when she gets paid and he dont and hes good and nicey nice for a while then does craziness like this again. its j7ust like a room mate from hell that you cant figure how to get rid of. at least im saving a little money now, which helps since shes been working her poor little butt off to keep him here and contributing to the finances. as soon as everyone gets ahead around here maybe things will happen. i just dont know any more. he knows better then to fool with me these days. so its gotten a little easier. we all have it tougher in this economy i guess. youngest son has moved in with his mess so its harder to put pressure on anyone about some things now. 
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
1 Feb 12
my mom had a mastectomy so i know what you are going through as far as needing rest. i cant believe they are either that stupid or that rude to not let you have the peace and rest you need!
@celticeagle (189944)
• Boise, Idaho
24 Jan 12
My goodness, what a time for you. Rest is very important, especially if you are as sick as having pneumonia. C and your daughter do need to go. They obviously have no consideration for others. Selfish and self obsorbed. Ugh! It sounds as if you have done everything you can.
@celticeagle (189944)
• Boise, Idaho
25 Jan 12
Good for you! People aren't taught any manners anymore.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Jan 12
yes i have and now he obviously knows its not going any farther. ive told them im calling 911 next time he wakes me up messed up. 
he will end up in jail1 person likes this
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
20 Jan 12
If they cannot be more considerate, maybe that should happen. I know how it is, as my kids are staying with us and are up all hours of the night. In fact, my one son works until 3 and comes in at about 3:30. I have to get up at 5, but always hear them all night long and then they wonder why I always am needing a nap.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
thats how this one is. and son wakes him up and tells him, dont sleep all day. it becomes a habit. still it does no good.
@GardenGerty (169538)
• United States
20 Jan 12
time for C to go, so that you can get better. I hate it for you because of your daughter but it is a must.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
yes, son was shocked when i told him id rather any of his crazy ex's. at least i got some rest. 
and thats pretty bad when you think of what they put me through
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jan 12
gosh bunnybon 7 you have bent over backwards to try to get along with that jerk now its time your son kicked him out and if your daughter insists on being with a loser she will have to bo too.
'otherwise my gosh you could end up back in the hospital. Its just not fair what that jerk boyfriend is doing causing you loss of sleep['and way too much stress. you do mot need that what with cancer surgery and having had pneumonia. I know who much rest helps me as I have been lying back down after breakfast, I am on five days of antibiotics and only have two more days to go an d am not feeling a
whole lot better.The coughing has made my chest so sore. hope your son gets rid of that noisy thoughtless pest.enough already hope you can get more sleep take care bunnybon. hugs from hatley
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
love you to girl. big hugs, i do wish the coughing would get better for you. are they having you inhale anything to break it up? at least i have my inhaler of spiriva. that breaks up the congestion. hope it works for you soon the antibiotic. 
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
21 Jan 12
Hi bunny,
I don't know how can I console you. After worst sufferings you need complete rest and a calm atmosphere. Your daughter should understand your condition and your son in law has no sense, because he is drunk. Really I can feel your helpless condition.
May god help you to get rid of this odd situation.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
i have been praying about it. i just dont know. keep thinking God will help solve the situation some how. @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Jan 12
This C is really getting on my nerves. I can't imagine who he thinks he is and what he is trying to prove. It is a good thing that I am not there because making his life a living hell would become my new profession. I tell you..I know you love your daughter and would do anything for her...I know because I feel the same way about mine...but if I had to deal with that jerk..I think I would have told her it was time to go..that she could stay but his a$$ was out. I have never talked like this in a post but enough is enough and I feel like it really is getting to the point where it is threatening your health.
Take care and I hope you get him out of there as soon as possible.@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
22 Jan 12
Yes ive been trying to make him uncomfortable like he has me. but daughter does so much to make him comfortable it doesnt work its such a delicate situation with her
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Jan 12
Well, on the one hand I feel sorry for your daughter because of the man that she is with right now. But, I really do think that you need to have your rest in order to recover from your illnesses.
I'm sure that the more sleep and rest that you are able to get, the quicker you will get to feeling like you felt before you had to experience both of these illnesses in quick succession.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Jan 12
yes,Dorannmwin, dear, I know you understand all about it because of your dear hubby. Im about beyond feeling sorry for daughter. Im beginning to think shes just stupid
I mean, ive had some pretty useless men and bad men in my time, but they usually had some redeaming quality. I see none in this one!
@fannitia (2167)
• Bulgaria
20 Jan 12
Hi, Bunnybon, I'm sad and angry when I read such stories. I think that you should take some decisions because it's a question of survival. You can't stay in hospital every month and watch how your health is worsening. It's urgent to throw out this guy from your home and have a peace.
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
21 Jan 12
it is and its just like trying to get rid of a bad tenant. i just cant seem to get it worked out. hate to see daughter go,so i guess thats the hold up. also hate to see son kill him, so i just keep hopeing it wont come to that