~Thinking Back To My First Days on MyLot~

Lenox, Georgia
October 2, 2016 7:51am CST
When I first joined MyLot I didn't know what to expect because it was the first site I was on where I could write and share my opinion about things. I was young and naive about certain things. I assumed (stupid I know) that everyone would like me and for the most part agree with me on things. I remember one discussion I wrote, I don't remember the name of it or what it was about but I DO remember I had some harsh comments on it. I literally cried over that discussion because I felt attacked personally. At that time I didn't realize not everyone would like me or even agree with me. I mentioned I was young and naive, right? I still had this thinking that since I was a good person everyone would treat me as such. After that discussion I left MyLot for a month because I thought everyone hated me with the comments I got! I couldn't get the concept that it wasn't personal toward me-it was just their opinions. Now looking back I feel silly for the way I reacted. But then again, it was a learning experience like everything else in life. I am very grateful MyLot taught me not to be so naive and that it's okay if not everyone agrees with me or likes me! This is one more thing MyLot has taught me and I am grateful for it. Have you changed your thinking because of MyLot at any point since being here? The photo is of my youngest daughter and I when she was 2 weeks old.
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@Mike197602 (14058)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 16
I had massive arguments with people when I first came and that went on for years but that was back in the bad (good) old days when you could argue with someone and stuff wasn't removed. Now if you have an argument it's likely to be removed. So mylot has taught (forced) me to be nicer or get thrown off, also I don't want to be all blocked up again now I'm more or less totally unblocked.
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@topffer (38949)
• France
2 Oct 16
They could be removed but it was less easy than today. We can still argue, but only with people fair enough to accept to debate.
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@Mike197602 (14058)
• United Kingdom
2 Oct 16
@topffer admin was around way less than he/they are these days and you could get away with some really massive abusive fights over the weekend and they'd all be taken down on monday...I miss the weekend trolls too.
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@topffer (38949)
• France
2 Oct 16
@Mike197602 Somewhere I miss also a few funny trolls, but since we can delete any aggressive comment or response we do not see many.
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@LadyDuck (250072)
• Switzerland
2 Oct 16
I am no more young and I have learned from real life not to be naif. People can be very rude, but most of the time it's only because they have different opinions. I love your photo.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@LadyDuck I have definitely had to learn not to be naive in real life as well. Being homeless and such does that to a person. But as far as writing sites I'm no longer naive about people and their opinions. Thank you! I love this picture too. =)
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@LadyDuck (250072)
• Switzerland
2 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies You have beautiful kids and you are very nice too.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@LadyDuck Thank you very much! Your very kind as well. =)
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@LoriAMoore (4632)
• Louisville, Kentucky
2 Oct 16
I am surprised by the wide array of opinions and have been blasted once or twice over things I didn't think were that big of a deal, but it's a fun place with nice people.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@LoriAMoore Yeah, there are a lot of different opinions here and if were not careful we can take things personally without realizing it. I don't do that much anymore but when I first came here I did it all the time!
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@Bluedoll (16930)
• Canada
2 Oct 16
Both in the picture are beautiful and should be what this world is all about.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@Bluedoll Aw, thank you so much. =)
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@Corbin5 (162877)
• United States
2 Oct 16
I now think that some posts of others could cause distress if certain opinions expressed by me in a response may not be taken kindly even if my response is nonjudgmental . I skip those posts. Love the photo!
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@Corbin5 Yeah its hard to tell how some people mean something when it's through text on a computer. I know your comments are not meant to be hurtful or harsh in any way. =) Thank you!
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@Shiva49 (15818)
• Singapore
3 Oct 16
Sometimes we are misunderstood too.@Corbin5 There was one instance when I made a positive comment to one post of an acclaimed writer on YCN, but another gave a negative spin to it and the author of the post went by his comment. I told her to kindly read my comments again. She profusely apologized for her take and admitted that the other person was quite negative and nasty! siva
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@Corbin5 (162877)
• United States
3 Oct 16
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@marlina (85587)
• Canada
2 Oct 16
We can't expect everyone to agree with what we write 100% of the time.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@marlina Your absolutely right but back then I was young and more immature.
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@marlina (85587)
• Canada
2 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies I understand.
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• Agra, India
2 Oct 16
I'm new to mylot... I hope to stay consistent so that one day I also recall my first day just like you
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@amitkokiladitya I hope you stick around as well. =)
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@Juliaacv (47873)
• Canada
2 Oct 16
I was the very same way (minus the new born baby) when I joined my first writing site. That's a great picture, you both look beautiful. And I agree, its hard not to take comments personally, the original post was written by a person, as was the comment, right?
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@juliaacv Yeah looking back I realize now how young I really was through my thoughts and actions. Thank you! =) I love this picture of us. I have an easier time dealing with comments now than I did back then.
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@moffittjc (63115)
• Gainesville, Florida
2 Oct 16
First, I've got to stray off topic for a second to let you know that the photo of you and your daughter is absolutely gorgeous! You are both so cute! Okay, back to the task at hand! As far as handling disagreements, I had already developed "tough skin" from my job working in local government, and having to deal with citizens who are not always the happiest when they interact with government employees. So, even on this site, I expected to encounter negativity every now and then. Although I haven't had anyone be downright nasty with me yet on this site, I know it is bound to happen sooner or later. I try to approach everything with a good sense of humor, and I think it often shows in my posts and comments. I also try to show kindness when I can, even when I disagree with people, and as a result I think the favor has been returned. Over time, we all build up rapport with people on this site, and also build up relationships with many people whom we eventually start to count as friends. That helps soften the "blow" of having to deal with negative people. Anyway, I'm glad you didn't run screaming from this site after your first bad encounter, and that you decided to stick it out and keep writing!
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@moffittjc Aw thank you so much! That made me smile. =) Approaching things with humor is a really good idea and definitely helps. Wish I had more of that in me. I have never learned to have tough skin until I came here. Then it was eye opening for me. I'm also glad I didn't stay gone for long. Thank you, I have many great friends here and I'm so grateful for all of you!
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@moffittjc (63115)
• Gainesville, Florida
2 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies And likewise, we're all grateful you are here too!
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@moffittjc Thank you! =)
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@celticeagle (123508)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Oct 16
Mylot has taught me some things too. To rely on others for what I make was a weird concept for me. Never did that before. I'm glad you have realized that it is others opinions. I get hurt by what some say on here at times too. I think that is just human and it just happens anywhere we are. I'm glad you are here and I certainly enjoy our interactions here.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@celticeagle Yeah it wasn't what I expected when I first joined but I do better now. I don't take it as personal as I once did. Sometimes every now and then I catch myself being bothered by a comment and I have to calm down and let it go. Thank you, I enjoy our interactions as well.
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@celticeagle (123508)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies ......Sure. I think some like to get our dander up too.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@celticeagle There are some like that but I'm glad most of us arent. =)
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@jstory07 (83493)
• Roseburg, Oregon
2 Oct 16
You look very beautiful in your picture. Yes everyone has their own opinions and as long as they are not being mean toward you or anyone else .Than it is ok to say what you want.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@jstory07 Thank you so much! =) Yes I completely agree.
@ms1864 (6927)
• Bangalore, India
2 Oct 16
It is awesome you grew from your experience... Just being here 2 months i have already had a few disagreements.....but i never thought of it as a personal attack. I still comment on the posts of people who i once had a almost argument with...and they always respond back.... i actually like people who can stand up for themselves in a topic and then move on from it...knowing that it was just a discussion. We are all adults here....well most of us are ( i think there are a few teens here too)...we should be able to discuss topics with maturity. I am glad most do. I do learn things from people here too.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@ms1864 Yes I realize now that it's not personal but I had to learn that when I first joined here. Now I can move on without any issue but it took me a little bit when I first came here.
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@JudyEv (177798)
• Bunbury, Australia
2 Oct 16
I can understand that you could have been upset by comments. As you say, it was probably a good thing in a way as you learnt an important lesson from it.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@judyev Yeah I did learn that not everyone will like me or my opinions but it's not personal. =)
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@JolietJake (50849)
• United States
2 Oct 16
I remember when this young hawt chick joined and I wanted to...wait...this is a family-oriented site now, isn't it? Never mind...
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@JolietJake Yes we must keep it G rated. Lol. Thank you for the compliment though love.
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@NJChicaa (71140)
• United States
2 Oct 16
No this place hasn't changed my thinking.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@NJChicaa I think with me it was because I went from being young and immature to getting older and becoming more mature - all while being here. =)
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@SIMPLYD (90657)
• Philippines
3 Oct 16
First of all , i would like to say that you don't look like a mommy already . Slim and pretty for a mommy . And just like you i also feel silly when i wrote my very first post and didn't have any response at all . But the next ones gathered some until i have many friends already and enjoyed seeing their comments .
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• Lenox, Georgia
3 Oct 16
@SIMPLYD Well thank you. This picture is my third child and I. I already had 2 before her. Now I have 4 children and one more on the way! Yeah it definitely takes time learning and growing on a writing site. =)
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@SIMPLYD (90657)
• Philippines
4 Oct 16
@LovingMyBabies I envy you for having 4 children and soon another one . I had only one child , now a 25 year old lady doctor .
@akalinus (30416)
• United States
2 Oct 16
I have changed the way I write. I am much more aware of how others see things and that I am not always right. If you wonder if everyone agrees with you, just mention who you want for president. No matter what your choice is, it will start an avalanche of name calling and nastiness.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@akalinus Oh no thank you! I don't discuss politics anywhere. Lol. I don't want to find out or be called names and such.
@quantum2020 (10755)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
2 Oct 16
SInce the first interaction I did online, I felt something similar. It was not until I gained more experience that I learned to cope with the differences of opinion. Whenever I encounter that someone does not agree with me, I only try to be understanding and open to opinions. We all learn from interaction on the Mylot site.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@quantum2020 Yeah it's hard when it's your first time writing and sharing opinions online. Glad I'm not the only one that had to adapt. =)
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@EddieHands (37631)
• United States
2 Oct 16
Never changed my thinking I am still a wizard and a cat. Meow. I wish I could make topics to get people angry and reply so I could make more money. My lot. Is money land.
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@EddieHands Lol, I realize what your saying but I didn't care about the money as much as the friendships.
@Morleyhunt (20872)
• Canada
2 Oct 16
Do you agree with everyone else opinion? Did you at that time? If you don't agree with everyone else's opinion, you should not expect the to agree with you. Disagreement can bring good discussion. I often just keep my opinion to myself....
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• Lenox, Georgia
2 Oct 16
@morleyhunt No but I was younger then as I said and I took it personally more than others did. I didn't realize really that it wasn't a personal attack. And I do think some were very harsh in their opinions - more so than now a days. =)
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