What exactly is 'Rude'?
By JJ
@JolietJake (50190)
April 16, 2018 5:59am CST
I see this word pop up often describing other users here.
I was told I was 'rude' for telling someone not to call me 'Buddy'.
'Rude' is defined as being 'offensively impolite or ill-mannered'.
Being abrupt, cutting through all the bullshit and saying what a person means, is not of necessity 'rude'.
I could say that calling someone by something other than their screen-name here is 'rude'.
I could say not bothering to read the Guidelines and FAQ pages here...and ignoring people that say you might want to check them out...is 'rude'.
And not to put too fine of a point on it...yes, I can be 'rude'.
But if you merely think I am being rude...then you probably don't really understand what 'rude' is.
But I can teach you...
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34 responses
@WorDazza (15830)
• Manchester, England
16 Apr 18
Unfortunately there are far too many people around who have a massively over-inflated sense of their own importance and regard any treatment other than the utmost deference and reverence towards them as being rude!!
They are usually the same people who will balance a step-ladder on top of their toilet cistern, climb up it, hang out of their bathroom window and use a pair of binoculars to look into one of their neighbours bedroom windows and then complain they are offended by what is happening within!!!
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@JolietJake (50190)
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16 Apr 18
A much better answer than my usual 'people are just weird'. 
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@JolietJake (50190)
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16 Apr 18
I specifically asked someone a few weeks ago to not call me 'Buddy'. Their next comment began 'Buddy'. Now THAT, to me, is rude.
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@topffer (42155)
• France
16 Apr 18
Oh, well, you were not blocked as it happened to me after a comment to a new member which had nothing rude, but was probably too rude for this member.
What I found rude was not your comment, but the way your comment was quoted and used. We have a few rules here, and discussions towards other members were forbidden in the past...
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What I found rude was not your comment, but the way your comment was quoted and used. We have a few rules here, and discussions towards other members were forbidden in the past...
I am starting to see some posts pop up that are hinting in a round about way at dealing in personal disputes between members. I just want to take this...
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@topffer (42155)
• France
16 Apr 18
@JolietJake I had not noticed that. Using a photo was sneaky.
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@JolietJake (50190)
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16 Apr 18
I did see they removed the photo after I told them it was 'rude'.
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@yugocean (9963)
• India
17 Apr 18
@topffer Which photo?
I forget if this discussion had a photo.
@JolietJake was there?
@JohnRoberts (109845)
• Los Angeles, California
16 Apr 18
I looked up "rude" in Webster's and saw my photograph.
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@kobesbuddy (78856)
• East Tawas, Michigan
16 Apr 18
I looked up the word rude and look what I found!
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@kobesbuddy (78856)
• East Tawas, Michigan
16 Apr 18
If I'm doing something that's offensive to another person, something definitely needs to change. If what I'm doing is offensive to you, I need to stop doing it! Letting me know, is your part in this. Now, the ball is in my court, to stop the offensive behavior or continue to make waves. Being honest isn't being 'rude' in the least bit. Not being called 'Buddy' is your personal choice and others should respect that
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@celticeagle (175772)
• Boise, Idaho
17 Apr 18
If rude is being honest and telling it like it is I guess I am rude too. People have a right to say what they wish. Does society really know it all? Sure seem to.
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@sprite1950 (30461)
• Corsham, England
16 Apr 18
Wow JJ is it your time of the month? Just joking 
The buddy thing is cultural. I get called "dear" too which is a bit weird but I know the people who call me that don't mean to be offensive.so I probably wouldn't say anything. I agree that people are easily offended here but it is a bit like that with text,
Just joking
The buddy thing is cultural. I get called "dear" too which is a bit weird but I know the people who call me that don't mean to be offensive.so I probably wouldn't say anything. I agree that people are easily offended here but it is a bit like that with text,2 people like this
@JolietJake (50190)
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16 Apr 18
I've had people...in their very next comment...call me 'Buddy' right after I had just told them not to. Since then, I just start shutting them down at the first instance.
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
16 Apr 18
Some things that may be rude to others, perhaps others think are being polite or respectful ..
Well, the "Buddy" is something else of course... because a buddy is someone you know in person.. a close friend ...
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@epiffanie (11325)
• Australia
17 Apr 18
@JolietJake well, that is really rude, when you have already asked him not to do it and yet continue to do so ... that would be very annoying ..
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@JolietJake (50190)
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16 Apr 18
I had one user here continue calling me that after I asked them not to...which to me is exceedingly 'rude'.
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@Juliaacv (53729)
• Canada
16 Apr 18
If someone referred to me as Buddy and not my name as indicated on the site, then that is rude, no questions asked.
The use of the word buddy and the use of the word rude seem to be very popular on the site as of late, and we can really do without a lot of use of either word.
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@GardenGerty (164181)
• United States
17 Apr 18
@Juliaacv But my dear one, I should be able to call anyone buddy, or rude, if I choose to. It is my right. Free speech and all that. Okay, I did not say that, or would not say that to anyone here.
@Juliaacv (53729)
• Canada
16 Apr 18
@JolietJake Although the site is global, interactions don't always sit well globally because of the language and cultural differences. And that comes to play in a lot of aspects on the site. Everyone has to remember that comments left are visible to everyone on the site, and not everyone might appreciate some of how they try to convey their thoughts or feelings.
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@JolietJake (50190)
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16 Apr 18
I think many of these people don't really understand the concept of 'rude'.
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Duress is another one, 2 letters shy. 
@nanette64 (20364)
• Fairfield, Texas
16 Apr 18
LMAO @JolietJake . Oh yeah, if someone wants to meet someone 'rude', that would be me; except they wouldn't realize it at the time. By the time it dawned on them, I'd be long gone.
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@JudyEv (356137)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr 18
@JolietJake Definitely a handy feature.
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@JolietJake (50190)
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17 Apr 18
One of the sites I am on has an 'ignore' feature so you don't see posts from people you have 'ignored'. I wish I had that here at times...doesn't block them from anything, you just don't see them
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@lovebuglena (46762)
• Staten Island, New York
16 Apr 18
Sometimes you try to be nice to someone, try to the help them and they attack you, saying you were rude.
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. I really enjoyed it.
@ridingbet (66854)
• Philippines
16 Apr 18
so nice because now, i am not addressed as buddy anymore.
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@aninditasen (17117)
• Raurkela, India
16 Apr 18
If you don't like something you have every right to protest and nobody has the right to call you rude and force you to tolerate him/her.
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@Starmaiden (9310)
• Canada
16 Apr 18
I say you are within your right to ask someone to not call you "buddy" when your screen name is visible for all to see. Saying or doing something to another disrespectfully is "rude". Like trying to get a person's attention by calling them "Yo". That's not my name!
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