How do I deal with Kitty's boyfriend? Standoff at the food bowl.
By The Horse
@TheHorse (238425)
Walnut Creek, California
January 18, 2021 6:29pm CST
Just now, I heard a meow that let me know that Kitty and her boyfriend were about to argue. I went outside and found Kitty protecting her food bowl, and her boyfriend watching closely.
Kitty finally deferred, after she had eaten, and let her boyfriend have a few bites. I went up to Boyfriend and let him sniff my fingers, as I was feeding him. The son-of-a-gun dared to hiss at me, so I hissed back. Kitty watched.
Finally, I chased Boyfriend off and let Kitty return to her dining.
How would you deal with a very feral Boyfriend kitty who does not yet fully understand that you are being kind to him? And where the heck is his pet human?
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23 responses
@allknowing (153529)
• India
19 Jan 21
It is best they are left alone. They will sort it out among themselves (lol)
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@allknowing (153529)
• India
20 Jan 21
@TheHorse That must be their mating time.
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@TheHorse (238425)
• Walnut Creek, California
21 Jan 21
@allknowing I don't even know if they know how to mate.
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@DaddyEvil (174864)
• United States
19 Jan 21
Uhm... he isn't a feral cat, pony. A feral cat would run as soon as you appeared. He has had some contact with humans before he met you. Possibly/Probably he was born into a human family but was abandoned later.
Are you actually becoming a cat person? Should we be warning you about becoming the local 'cat lady'? 
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@DaddyEvil (174864)
• United States
19 Jan 21
@TheHorse You do know it's getting bad when you can't count all the cats you're supporting, right? *really grinning at you*
Now, I need to know if you have some certification stating you're sane? If you can't produce any, I might need to call the local SPCA chapter to do a house check on you.
(Is that who you'd call if this was actually a concern? Obviously, I've never run into a situation like this so am not sure. 
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If you can't produce any, I might need to call the local SPCA chapter to do a house check on you. (Is that who you'd call if this was actually a concern? Obviously, I've never run into a situation like this so am not sure. )3 people like this
@TheHorse (238425)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Jan 21
@DaddyEvil I think I'm still sane. But I'm not sure.
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@TheHorse (238425)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Jan 21
@rakski In my ideal world, he would come maybe 1/3 of the way up the stairs, sing her a Filipino love song (my older Filipino friend told me that this was a courtship ritual in his youth), and then let her decide if she wants to share her food or charms with him.
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@RasmaSandra (98215)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
19 Jan 21
That is a difficult question. We have one large and I mean large boy cat that wandered over and decided to hang out here. He is a male that has been fixed so he must have had a home at one time and now he has joined all of us here. He is a snuggly as a teddy bear and meows to get food and for him, it means now or never. What I am saying is that that Boyfriend is still rough around the edges so be careful with him but if you ever decide to let him stay then fixing would solve the anger issues a lot,
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@snowy22315 (209330)
• United States
19 Jan 21
I strongly suggest you implement a BYOB..or Bring your own bowl policy...
. J/K Maybe feed him at a distance. He probably isn't going to go away now.
. J/K Maybe feed him at a distance. He probably isn't going to go away now.2 people like this
@vandana7 (102699)
• India
19 Jan 21
You should
1. Find a girl friend with cat eyes.
2. Take her out to dine.
3. Let a giant guy (6 feet 4 inches minimum ) come around and eat from her plate.
4. Watch her reaction.
5. Make friends with the guy after he has eaten something she liked.
6. Now, let the guy decide whether you need to be dropped like a hot potato or not.
The hiss is meant to tell you ..off my girl - we are a pair...now.
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In this way, the male whisker will not see her alluring presence.
@FourWalls (86993)
• United States
19 Jan 21
She’s fixed? Good, ‘cause she looks preggers. Obviously she’s just suckering a lot of people into feeding her. 
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@TheHorse (238425)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Jan 21
@FourWalls Petting her is really fun. But I'm not telling her about your comment. She might get Kittyrexia.
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@wolfgirl569 (136167)
• Marion, Ohio
19 Jan 21
I often run them off if they are too aggressive.
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@wolfgirl569 (136167)
• Marion, Ohio
19 Jan 21
@TheHorse It would be safer at first at least.
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@TheHorse (238425)
• Walnut Creek, California
19 Jan 21
@wolfgirl569 I am reminded of a goose friend who became "impronted" on (powerfully bonded to) my horse. She would hiss at me as she sat on her (unfertilized) eggs, even as I hand-fed her grain. Sigh.
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@Dena91 (17038)
• United States
19 Jan 21
@TheHorse That is why we worked so hard to get our Buttons inside and away from the other neighborhood cats. They would be aggressive to her fight her when she tried to eat when she was a kitten. Once she was in she still, even now almost 10 years later, wants us to be near her when she eats.
I say feed kitty inside
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@LindaOHio (223055)
• United States
19 Jan 21
He seems to be semi-feral as he sniffed your fingers. But they will hiss if they feel threatened. I would stay away from him. You might get bitten or scratched. Does he have a collar?
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@TheHorse (238425)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Jan 21
@LindaOHio Of maybe he's a UFO alien.
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@LindaOHio (223055)
• United States
20 Jan 21
@TheHorse lololol Could be! He's masquerading as a house cat.
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@DocAndersen (54399)
• United States
19 Jan 21
that is a tough question i suspect the easy answer is ignore him. But, the reality is that isn't possible. I would simply play the long game, keep being nice.
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