Sorrow, putting it out there
February 20, 2021 7:38am CST
I have alluded to the fact that my son is in jail. He did something wrong, but not violent. It is possible he will go to prison for the rest of his life as he had a conviction ten years ago. I have more grief now than when his dad died. In the last few years, his marriage has kept him from visiting, and being a helper. It was breaking up and he moved here for a couple of weeks. That was such a blessing. I have likely not seen him more than ten times in the last seven years, even when we lived nearby. It was not allowed. Just giving some reference here--the person who I was "helping move" is to be my former daughter-in-law. She is not a mentally healthy and fit person and she becomes estranged from her own family and calls and texts me a lot. She thinks I need to do a lot of the removal of my son's stuff. I think her mom is going to be involved now. He tended to hoard, and so does she. She demanded to have his cat back. Now all three cats are living outdoors, and not being fed. They will not come to us, or I would rescue them. She would not give me access to his things three months ago, when it was nice. Now we are in bad weather and she needs the house cleared fast. So that you know I am not doing this all alone, my brother and my daughter are both going to come and help me next weekend. I have felt trapped as I do not always have well working cars. I drive an hour to move the stuff. I may not be here much for a while.I do not have much to talk about that I can share.I may just read and respond. I do appreciate your prayers, kind thoughts, etc. I do not know what else to say.
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• United States
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through all of that. I hope in time everything will turn out to be okay for you. I sure know how it feels to lose contact with people you love. I am dealing with that myself. All we can do is hope and pray things will turn around for the good some day. You are not alone. Believe me.
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• Inverness, Florida
I am sending prayers and good thoughts. Anything that involves our children hurts our hearts. I am sorry to hear about what has been going on. If you need someone to talk to... Keep up your spirits up, hopefully all will turn out well.
@GardenGerty I am so so sorry it sounds like a real mess. That is too bad that the cats will not come to you so you can rescue them. She does not sound very stable expecting you to clear things out in bad weather. I am glad you have help in this and are not alone in dealing with it. It must be very hard for you right now. I am so so sorry. You said all there is to say and very understandable that you need to deal with this mess and cannot come here. Just take care and I hope it all works out.
• Bunbury, Australia
My heart breaks for you. What a difficult time. I'm glad you have some help but what a shame the moving couldn't have been done when the weather was better. I really feel for you. Sending prayers and positive thoughts. And hugs.