I am alone at home.

@sjvg1976 (30200)
Delhi, India
September 15, 2021 9:49pm CST
It's been years that I have been alone at home. My wife and kids never allow me to stay alone at home but this time it's different. As my father in law has expired so they have stayed there at his home and I have returned home today after his funeral. People like to stay alone but I am different I never like to be alone at home. I am sad as whenever I close my eyes I get the picture of my FIL. This Sunday I will bring my kids home but till then I don't know how I am going to live alone here.
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@jobelbojel (26598)
• Philippines
16 Sep
I don't want to be alone too. This happened to me in my apartment. When I closed my eyes, I saw myself sad because I was alone. So I decided to stay in my brother's house for awhile.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
That's a good decision you took.
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@jobelbojel (26598)
• Philippines
16 Sep
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@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
@jobelbojel, me too can't live alone especially I see some images or shadows and that makes my heart throbs fast.
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@DaddyEvil (58521)
• United States
16 Sep
I am sorry about your FIL... I'm surprised your wife doesn't insist you stay with them at his house. I'm sure you'll find something to do... You can always come to myLot and talk with us.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
I stayed for two days there but I had to come because of the job. She insisted me to stay there but I didn't. I will go there on Saturday.
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@DaddyEvil (58521)
• United States
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 Oh, I see... Is your FIL's house further from your job than your house is?
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@DaddyEvil yes it is far from my workplace.
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@allknowing (101287)
• India
16 Sep
When one is alone their thoughts and their work give them company
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
But not always some times bad thoughts come to mind.
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@allknowing (101287)
• India
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 You are in charge of your thoughts.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@allknowing but thoughts are not controlled.
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@DianneN (238147)
• United States
16 Sep
You must be so sad right now. Too bad you can’t stay with your wife and kids. Take it one day at a time.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Hope so I will adjust till Saturday.
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@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
@DianneN, his wife should have thought about the weariness and loneliness of her husband. Being alone in their sorrowful mood added fear and somehow bad thoughts may appear.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@cacay1 she knows it so she asked me to stay at one of my relatives home but I denied
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@peachpurple (13290)
• Singapore
16 Sep
Being alone is scary that is whatmy hubby told me when me and my daughter are working overseas and my son is in school. He is jome alone
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Yes it's not easy to stay alone.
@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
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• Philippines
16 Sep
some tmes it's nice to be alone. only some times not always.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Absolutely.
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• Philippines
16 Sep
I don't mind staying home alone. In fact, we seldom leave the house empty for safety and security reasons. It's understandable that you keep seeing your FIL, you were close to him and liked him, but maybe try to remember happy memories instead? Or try "talking to him" in your mind? (If that doesn't feel weird to you)
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
I got your point. But it's not easy to forget him when a few of his things are still at my home and have to return them (clothes, toothbrush, etc).
@maratai (8547)
• Indonesia
16 Sep
It's okay for now you are alone first. Later After the day of mourning is over, your wife and children will surely come home with you again.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Yes, they will come.
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@maratai (8547)
• Indonesia
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 Well it sure is a friend. Now you have to put your mind at ease. And imagine fun things, find activities so you don't get haunted by the face of your late father-in-law
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@maratai rightly said. I am trying to divert my mind but still, when I talk to my wife over the phone, he comes into the memory.
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@JimBo452020 (63971)
• Montrose, Scotland
16 Sep
It is sad You are sad It's sad you can't be with your wife and kids but Sunday will be here very soon Take care
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Yes it's just two days left.
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@JimBo452020 (63971)
• Montrose, Scotland
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 It's Thursday today.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@JimBo452020 yes it is.
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@just4him (255496)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Sep
I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sure you'll be okay until they come home.
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@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
@just4him, I salute you my friend you're used to be alone, but your mind always works and you always have daily routines.
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@just4him (255496)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
16 Sep
@cacay1 True. Thank you.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@cacay1 I agree. She is a strong woman. No one dares to do so.
@rakski (101693)
• Philippines
16 Sep
I am sorry to know you are alone. We can keep you company here
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@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
@rakski, he could invite a relative to accompany him. He's pitiful.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@cacay1 yes I could have but I don't like people to stay at my home. I don't have friends who would do so.
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@rakski (101693)
• Philippines
17 Sep
@sjvg1976 just listen to music or watch TV to keep you company
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@Rashnag (21153)
• Surat, India
16 Sep
So sorry to hear. Try to distract yourself by spending time here or watching something. Take care
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
I am doing that.
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@Rashnag (21153)
• Surat, India
17 Sep
@sjvg1976 ok dear. Take care
@JudyEv (255379)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Sep
It's not long till Sunday. You could spring-clean the house and give your wife a nice surprise. I'm sorry to hear about your FIL.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Yes I will.
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@LadyDuck (360113)
• Switzerland
16 Sep
I am so sorry, but it's only for a few days, your children will be back home soon.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
Hopefully they do
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@LadyDuck (360113)
• Switzerland
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 They will not stay away for long time.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
@LadyDuck my wife will stay there for at least 13 days which is a ritual here. Then she will return but she will be going frequently there now because she won't allow her mom to be alone at home now
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@FaruMesh (3825)
• India
16 Sep
Yes it's really hard to be alone in a house without the family. Hope you can bring at least your kids soon.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
I will bring the kids on Saturday.
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@FaruMesh (3825)
• India
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 That would be fine.. at least some relief from loneliness.
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@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
Me too, cannot live alone. I can't survive. Better follow them and lock your home.
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
16 Sep
I can not do that as my workplace is too far from there.
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@cacay1 (63264)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep
@sjvg1976 ay okay just tune in loud music to ignore your emptiness.
@Kanubanu (3089)
20 Sep
FIL MEANS???
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
20 Sep
Father in law.
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@Kanubanu (3089)
20 Sep
@sjvg1976 Oh I am extremely sorry to not get you
@Ghandra (208)
• Surabaya, Indonesia
17 Sep
me too...i dont like to live alone
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@sjvg1976 (30200)
• Delhi, India
17 Sep
I think it's sort of a phobia.
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@Ghandra (208)
• Surabaya, Indonesia
17 Sep
@sjvg1976 maybe yes
@RebeccasFarm (48794)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
16 Sep
I am so sorry Sanjeev my God be with you at this sad time
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@RasmaSandra (47339)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
17 Sep
I have no choice since I do not have anyone so I have learned to live a lone, Now I have 3 kittens for company but that is it, It will be all right until your kids get home,