A Mylotter !

@Icydoll (36725)
India
February 26, 2023 2:52am CST
Hello everyone hope everyone is doing fine. I Would like to tell about a mylotter . When I had joined mylot . There was an user .she Used to tag me whenever I go online. She Used to wait for me to have a conversation.As I'm new user , have no idea who everyone is .One day she shared a link to me in personal message and urged me to join there . I was in confusion to click on link and felt suspicious not safe to join lol .She told it is not a malicious link ,it is an instant room to join and have conversation smoothly. I had unwillingly joined there , if i said no she would get hurt. I couldn't able to say no. I wanted her to participate in discussions and have conversation on mylot itself. She was a nice and funny person though. She is good at teasing .I'm missing her now . Would you easily say no to anyone if you don't want to do either in virtual or in real life ?. Do you like personal messaging on mylot ?.
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
26 Feb 23
If I'm not comfortable with something, I don't do it. If someone sent me a link on myLot that I thought looked suspicious, I would contact GAA and send them the link...
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
That's fine thing to do but I'm new that time totally in confused state How are you DE?.
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@DaddyEvil (137251)
• United States
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll Yes, I understand. I'm fine, thank you. How are you?
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
@DaddyEvil when we are close we can't say no easily i think so . There are some users asking to chat in personal message. I simply said no I am just okay. I have some sinus issues. You have been missing in our gang chats as you are not feeling well . I didn't tag you much .
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@MrDenata (12181)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 23
The older i get, i learn to say NO for something that i dont wanna do.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
You already said no to me when I asked you to purchase my arts
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
@MrDenata it's alright what's your plan for today.
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@MrDenata (12181)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll I KNOW!!!
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 23
She looks like a stalker to me
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@ifa225 (14364)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll your BFF seems a nice person tough, just like me I try to watch movie like a mania today, but I am failed
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
i thought the same dear. But later she talked well . How is your sunday going on nice mama?
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
@ifa225 oh what stopped you from Mania . She was very funny lol , she used to tease a boy who had following her and share those with me not a normal girl
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@RebeccasFarm (84363)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
26 Feb 23
I do not like any of that ..but I am glad she was a nice person Icydoll and that you were safe.
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• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll I am still using these reader glasses but they are blurry..so I have to pull the laptop up to my face
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
@RebeccasFarm so hard to cope up without glasses. Is there anyone to help you at home ?.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
I'm glad about it too . How are you doing and what's update on your glass lens ?.
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@JudyEv (323672)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 Feb 23
It can be tricky sometimes knowing if someone is being honest and friendly or not. I wonder where she disappeared to.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
That's nice Judy . When we are close it's difficult to say no at times . I hope she will come back .
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@Teekaaa (11581)
• India
26 Feb 23
I wouldn't trust anybody that easily. It takes time for me. I'm that sort of individual. I think it's no way wrong to be careful and cautious. And saying no is not that easy. Virtually it might be a bit easier to say no strongly. But in real life, it's quite hard but we have to practice saying no if we are really not comfortable.
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@Teekaaa (11581)
• India
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll thanks dear for agreeing. Fortunately, I have never received such messages so far. Even if I get, I will not pay attention to such things. Even I'm not that good at saying "No". What you have stated is true. But if the circumstance is like that, we have to...or else we would get hurt.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
Completely agree with thoughts. There are some users here keep on asking for personal message. Some understand, some don't. Im learning to say no , particularly saying no to dear ones may hurts mmm
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
@Teekaaa yeah when we get hurt it's good to say no . Are you free now?. What plans do you have today?.
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@allknowing (130088)
• India
26 Feb 23
It took us 3 years to trust each other and it is only then that we exchanged emails.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
Yeah It takes time to trust someone especially in virtual world to be safe is important.
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@rebelann (110754)
• El Paso, Texas
26 Feb 23
I rarely receive those kinds of invitations simply because I feel it is too easy to deceive people online.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
Yes online world is not safe at all.
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@xstitcher (30087)
• Petaluma, California
26 Feb 23
Yeah, I would be suspicious of other links too.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
It's better to be safe Stacey
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
It's better to be safe Stacey
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
26 Feb 23
it depends. I personally message some here
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
Yeah its personal preference dear .
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@rakski (112993)
• Philippines
27 Feb 23
@Icydoll I totally agree!
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@RasmaSandra (72494)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
26 Feb 23
No one should force anyone to do what they are not sure about, I only drop a PM to someone if I want to know something or tell them something that has nothing to do with a conversation online.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
That's good rasma , not everyone prefer personal message . I agree
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
26 Feb 23
I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but if I am wary of something, I back off. I love to PM on myLot, but don’t like to go back and forth too much. It takes away from catching up on notifications and reading new discussions.
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@DianneN (246452)
• United States
26 Feb 23
@Icydoll I'm sure most of us feel that way. Done with tennis and going to relax today by reading on the lanai unless it's too hot. Thanks and have a great new week ahead!!!!!
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
Thats what my feeling too . It's time up for you run run for tennis Enjoy your weekend
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• Cuddalore, India
26 Feb 23
It's always good to maintain a distance especially when you're in online world.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
Yes it's better to be safe . What are you doing? How was your day and tournament?.
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@Adie04 (17364)
27 Feb 23
For me personally, I won't risk myself going to such extent. Cyber bulling could be pretty dangerous and it could make your life in danger as well. When I start reading from 'she used to tag me whenever I go online' until the end, I immediately see this as a red flag. For me, personally, even my close friends didn't do this in both real world and online. Although that you mentioned that the person is funny and entertaining and all, but one needs to know boundaries and when one needs to stop. Especially the part when you said 'if I said no she would get hurt'. Why did she want to hurt herself if you don't want to join her in any link she sent, or any room she invited? That's already dangerous enough for you and really a red flag for cyberbullying already. So, from here, you already can see two sides of her; one, when you entertain her, she would appear funny. But two, when you start saying no, her dark side appears by threatening you that she may hurt herself and such. Total red flag for me. And for your last part - I will definitely say NO if I am not willing to do anything they ask, even if I know the person. Usually for me, I will keep quiet, or say no, or just walk away. We are responsible for our own lives and we need to always be careful whenever, and wherever we are and whatever we do. I like personal message, but I don't force myself to enter one as well. And I don't even keep doing personal message when I or you want to get to know each other. I will do verbal communication to get to know who people really are. Sorry if my responses are long and uncomfortable for you. I'm sure that you are a female, and at least as a fellow old female mylotter, I want you to stay safe. Take care.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
Thanks for the concern and the way you explained everything is very true. From the things I experienced, somehow i learned to say no when I feel uncomfortable. Sometimes I think the close persons may get hurt when I share my opinion that makes me discomfort. Yeah being safe is better especially when we are in virtual world. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
28 Feb 23
@Adie04 that's nice, i agree as we get older we learn saying no . I could tell to strangers but not to close ones .
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@Adie04 (17364)
28 Feb 23
@Icydoll Thanks for being open too. You see, not all people are willing to receive advice especially when they are online. But, though, if you are also not comfortable to receive advice and suggestions from the mylotters, at the very least, listen to your hunch or guts. They will always tell you the right thing. When your hunch says uncomfortable, it will mean something bad, and 90-100% most of the time it will be true. I understand that saying no is something that not everyone can say it. I know a few people that are hard to say no. I was like that last time. But as years go by, as I get older, I realise the importance of saying no. And I am happy that when I practice that, my mental health gets better over time
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@GardenGerty (157027)
• United States
26 Feb 23
Some of us share links back and forth. If things look suspicious, I will just say "no, thank you".
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
That's good to say and stay safe online
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@snowy22315 (168368)
• United States
26 Feb 23
If I knew them well enough, I would certainly do as they ask.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
Yeah snowy if they are close we can't say no easily.
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@May2k8 (17978)
• Indonesia
26 Feb 23
Let's just say frankly that we don't have time to join with her there.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
It's not always easy to say that with someone close . I will try to learn to say that from now
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@Tina30219 (81440)
• Onaway, Michigan
26 Feb 23
I agree with person below if I don’t feel comfortable doing something I do not do it.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
27 Feb 23
Good for you Tina
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@sjvg1976 (41134)
• Delhi, India
26 Feb 23
I also find it difficult to say "No" to people. I would not have reacted if someone sends me the link but might not have joined until a person urged me to join it twice or thrice.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
That happened to me 3 times , right the moment I logged in, she used say I'm waiting in the room join if you are free . I agree its sure difficult to say no especially when other person is close to us .
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@andriaperry (116876)
• Anniston, Alabama
26 Feb 23
If I feel uncomfortable, I say thanks but no . No I don't care for personal messages here.
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@Icydoll (36725)
• India
26 Feb 23
I have understood my friend, not many like personal message.
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