The words that scare me

It demoralizes so much

I agree...these are the words that need to be banned. Using f word as bad word or idjit as bad word doesn't make sense...because we all know we don't qualify there.

@vandana7 I agree that some words need to be banned. I don´t like at all the word "guilt". It is used too much and in many circumstances people end up with lack of self-esteem.

Aw...it is childish...I guess it is something to equate to mom...mummy..mum...what moms cook is after all loved by kids the best...it wouldn't damage psyche, would it?

@LadyDuck I couldn't want those words to be banned. Avoid...perhaps...calling another person boring or ugly or useless is more of a personal attack...

@vandana7 It's childish, I think adults should avoid those words, particularly writing on a public site.

I hate those too...because at times I am stupid. I prefer to declare myself as retarded at times...it spares me some work. LOL Seriously, I often have handful. I wish I could dump it all on others and simply listen to music. That is when I actually wish I was treated as a retard...so that no more work would fall upon me. Another time.............. when people are at meeting....fighting it out ..........I wish they would not.....but they do..........I wish I can come up with something unintelligible and really stupid...that kinda breaks the tense heated exchange.

@just4him That I do understand...I guess I say I am ignorant or I cannot understand such things because I am not that smart...somethings like that. If I put in effort, I could. Or at times, I know I can but the workload would be too much ..and maybe I am shirking the work...who doesn't...I find it easier to pretend I am not smart. Or let others think I am not smart that is why I make some mistakes. LOL Most people are quite forgiving when they think I cannot learn things as well as them. I am the one having the last laugh. LOL

@vandana7 I can understand what you're saying. Though I would never want to act or appear stupid or retarded. My parents considered me retarded until they had the school give me an IQ test. Nobody called me retarded after that. However, stupid stuck with me throughout my school life until I graduated. I'm not. I refuse to allow any member of my family to call anyone stupid or retarded.

Next time somebody says that to you....... I am not holding her, she is the one clutching on to me, so how can I loose her.

@sjvg1976 I agree. But it is also a fact that most Indians have learned the word recently. It may even be new in the US. I don't recall ever having heard it even 20 odd years ago. When I suggested that he use it like that......the idea was to give the user of the word, inferiority complex about his/her pronunciation. If it is a man...he would suffer more inferiority complex for not having anybody so madly crazy about him. LOL If either of them has to explain the word, ...well....the impact is lost. These are one word insults. If you have to elaborate, they don't hold the negativity.

No one likes to be called loser.

You want to know the truth? We all are boring at times. Depends upon which company we are in, and what mood we are in. But strangely, we don't like to admit that to ourselves.

@simplfred I have often found me useless too. Duplicating my work...had an employee of mine done it like that, I would have flared up, but because I did it, the mistake is swallowed down. LOL...honesty..LOL

@vandana7 Yeah... For me, I can accept boring but not useless.

Ahan..... this is comparatively simpler.... you gotta take 10 deep breaths, maybe 20....giving yourself time to define WHY you think you are right............then spill the beans. When there is lack of co-ordination between the brain and verbal conveyance...this does happen....brain often runs much ahead... The only time this situation can go out of hand is, when you are bound to protect somebody...else it will reflect badly on them...then it is a miserable situation...

@vandana7 but if the words come from a person close to you and acts like a perfectionist it hurts so much

@vandana7 I agree with you

@vandana7 ...........I would also consider the source.

@celticeagle Hmmm...agreed.

Absolutely. Anybody saying how boring can you get would have me worried..

That is such a profound thought...says it so perfectly.

Problem is also that we do not realize we are having fun at others expense and hurting them in process. I have a good friend..former colleague ... who was and is quite bulky. He was not before his marriage. His wife is a great cook. That is the issue. Never mind...but once he mentioned he was flying to another city in the afternoon. Unwittingly I said, which part of the plane is leaving...everybody in the room started laughing including this friend. Sporting of him. Another person would have taken it as an offense. I should not have said that...I apologized..I hope nobody else follows the same rule..it was rude of me.

@vandana7 I know that type of scenario all too well. I joke with others as well. In fact I did tell my husband when we were dating that he would gain weight if he stayed with me with my cooking - and guess what, he did . We always joked about that and still do. But some people can handle that type of joking. Others are much more sensitive and can't . . . most times we can sense that. You know your good friend - and he probably knows your joking . . . it may have been ok with him. It was mindful of you to apologize though . . . sometimes we don't know how we may take a joke too far.

But those are not bad words...technically. Schools don't tell you ...you should not use such words. myLot code does not ban such words.

@vandana7 Yes they are not bad words but if you say someone useless then that person will try to analyse what he/she doesn't have. I am sure honestly the person will be sad if he/she hears it for him/herself.

Were you seeking a compliment hero? You know your voice is great...I have told you a couple of times you have Sinatra type of voice. If you don't believe me (this you should I am not pulling a fast one on you honest), try singing Killing me softly ..record on your newly acquired cell phone...listen to it...you would know I am not lying...I know you won't send it to me...you are so scared I will fall head over heels in love with you that you will not know where to run and hide...kidding, but you do have that kinda voice. Make use of it while you still can sing. There comes a time when life goes out of the voice...muscles start giving way...then it does not sound as nice. So sing those numbers today...before it is too late.

We know we are not psycho...we know we are not negligent....LOL

@aninditasen Do we need such folks in our lives? Come on.................. If they said I am pyscho...I will say yes...that is why I am asking you to leave my house else I might murder you. LOL I have reached that stage with some type of folks.

@vandana7 We know that but some people want to drive those accusation hard.

They can be delivered in life altering way...such that the person suffers with inferiority complex for lifetime.

@nela13 True...depends upon when it is uttered too. Who utters it.

@vandana7 Some get really affected by other words.

I too work slowly and I am fat in wrong places. Nothing wrong with being who we are is there? There are no speed standards...we have the required speed in some fields. That is all that matters.

@JimBo452020 I am good at cleaning...I seem to be doing one thing here, and one thing there....kinda, no room seems to be clean...and suddenly the whole house becomes clean. LOL I like that...it seems magical. LOL

@vandana7 When I am on my motorbikes I am not fat or slow lol That's me at home in my perfect space.

@vandana7 So true.

I believe they would hurt the psyche...make the person under confident, unsure of self, and diffident. Serious damage. That kinda effect cannot be achieved with words like ugly, dumb, idjit, etc.

There are banned words...but I feel these are more damaging than the banned words.

Me too...but I won't hold it for long. :)

Nobody called you Jesus Christ?

@vandana7 - the closect ive come to being called that is, "the lord".

Nobody has called me that either..... but to be honest, I have used those words on some..intentionally. When they were crossing their boundaries.