What annoys me about Dad...

@vandana7 (98823)
India
March 11, 2023 4:45am CST
Seriously....been sick since the 7th. Cough and sore throat...fever 102 C. So...this morning recovered somewhat.......went out shopping bought him some fish since he likes that fish. Warmed it up, placed it in his plate.......he says he not gonna eat. I am still weak...and not completely out of woods. Surely as a parent he should feel...how sweet and nice is my daughter...she went out and got me something to eat...she remembers me...or something so mushy... He never does......... I expect parents to be mushy... I see others parents are ...so my expectation is not so out of place. Are your parents so childish?
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DE
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
11 Mar 23
Uhm... your fever was 102F, hon... 102C means you burned up... I hope Pretty will still be willing to put up with me when I'm 350 years old like your dad... or even 86 years old... I don't think Pretty would do nice things for me when I'm that old. *shrug*
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
Yeah...I won the war against virus or bacteria ...whichever...but I won that war...I did take Dolo 650...but only on two days and only two tablets. I am actually feeling good that with as little help as that I vanquished the microbes. There is always a chance that you could be wrong........somewhat more wrong, or extremely wrong. I am sure, the last one is true.
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DE
@DaddyEvil (137145)
• United States
11 Mar 23
@vandana7 I'm glad you won and pretty quickly, too.... I don't like it when you're sick. Maybe... but maybe not, too... She isn't always nice now.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
@DaddyEvil Is it because you left the job? Or is it because you are unreasonable and nasty enough to block me...evil grin. Come to India...if you feel that she is not treating you well. Ok?
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 23
I have a stepmom who never thinks good about me and my elder brother and my father too dances to her tune. So I don't have parents who don't think much about me.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
12 Mar 23
Aw...hugs.....at least I have an own father...sorry.....
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
12 Mar 23
@sjvg1976 I feel sorry for those who realize their value after they are gone. Then there are only regrets, nothing can be done. I am kinda happy at least he relishes my cooking. So he eats something. After stroke, people steadily lose interest in food.
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Sanjeev
@sjvg1976 (41131)
• Delhi, India
12 Mar 23
@vandana7 I know how important are parents in life.
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celticeagle
@celticeagle (159002)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Mar 23
He never does yet you still expect. He's childish? I don't get it.
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celticeagle
@celticeagle (159002)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Mar 23
@vandana7 ............He comes from a generation where men didn't show sentiment or emotion.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
12 Mar 23
Extra effort is never appreciated. And maybe I was morbid ...being sick... Yeah..I would think a person would realize the extra effort another person puts in to make him happy. Is that me being childish?
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Anna
@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
11 Mar 23
My Dad was lovely and always had words of appreciation for everything I did. Mom was like your Dad.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
I hate it when he does not appreciate the thought that went into it. After all, I was not well, and still I went out. I could well have stayed in bed, waited to recover.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
@LadyDuck That is so much like an Indian family. Are there dowries given to sons in your world?
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Anna
@LadyDuck (458006)
• Switzerland
11 Mar 23
@vandana7 I know how you feel, believe me. We drove during 4 hours to go to stay at her apartment when she was not well. Did she appreciate? NO when she talked to people she said "HER SON" was there, that made me really angry.
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rakski
@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
11 Mar 23
hope you recover well as well as your dad
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
12 Mar 23
Thank you so much. :) Yes, I am almost 80 percent out of the problem. I guess by Monday or Tuesday I will be even better. :)
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rakski
@rakski (112925)
• Philippines
12 Mar 23
@vandana7 that is good to know
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (325710)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Mar 23
He does sound ungrateful. It's tough looking after an elderly parent.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
12 Mar 23
Yeah...I was so weak yesterday...still I thought dad should not get what I got, so I went and bought him fish. I told him, there is a reason people abuse their parents. Evening he again did something like that, I told him next life you will get abusive children...go.
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Judy Evans
@JudyEv (325710)
• Rockingham, Australia
12 Mar 23
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BarBaraPrz
@BarBaraPrz (45484)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
11 Mar 23
My parents are 6 feet under... but they always thanked me whenever I did anything for them.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
My father is extremely demanding. LOL. He is thankful many times...but not mushy. Maybe because of weakness, morbid expectation was...he would be very happy. When he was mad at me, I went into self pity mode...now it is behind me. Business as usual. Tomorrow if I get a chance, I will return the favor. Evil Grin.
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OceanTiara
@RebeccasFarm (86757)
• United States
11 Mar 23
Who has been sick you Vanny? I am so sorry and I hope the fever has subsided ..? Yes I know what you mean about ungrateful..it is sad. You are such a good daughter Vanny My Mother was always loving and grateful. My Father too, but I got little time with each of them. RIP
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
Aw........not getting enough of parent/s must make you feel so helpless at times. Maybe because I was sick and morbidity rules when you are still weak, I expected better outcome. Tomorrow is another day. I might get a chance to get even. Let us see. LOL
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OceanTiara
@RebeccasFarm (86757)
• United States
11 Mar 23
@vandana7 No of course we want parent love I understand Vanny. I am sorry you were sick..I pray you are healing nicely. But you are bedgraggled with wear and tear looking after him. Yeah I was gone from home all my life Vanny, I deeply regret it now.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (95136)
• Marion, Ohio
11 Mar 23
My mom was always thankful. It depended on dads mood. But mostly he would be
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
11 Mar 23
This was completely unexpected because I had been sick. I went into self pity mode..LOL. He does thank me at times. But he also wants things his way...and doesn't bother with what I think or feel.
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Erly Maglangit
@cacay1 (83223)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
12 Mar 23
My dad didn't act childish. He's a military official. We're on martial law style, lol.
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Manuela Lopes
@nela13 (55698)
• Portugal
11 Mar 23
My parents are very autonomous, I help them in every thing I can and they always thank me. I love them.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
12 Mar 23
I get really mad at my parent when he does something like this. LOL
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Manuela Lopes
@nela13 (55698)
• Portugal
15 Mar 23
@vandana7 I understand.
LindaOH
@LindaOHio (156056)
• United States
13 Mar 23
I'm sorry that you're not appreciated. My parents have both passed away; and I did not see them since I was 21.
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vanny
@vandana7 (98823)
• India
14 Mar 23
Aw...21..................... much as I have issues with my surviving parent, there are plenty of times he has been invaluable to me too. I have felt I could not have managed without him. It is moments like those that help to keep me grounded. I am really sorry you missed out on parents beyond 21. There is a feeling of being sheltered as long as they are around. At least in India.