Is a virtual friend not a real friend?.
By Icydoll
@Icydoll (36317)
India
March 17, 2023 4:29am CST
I met one girl in a website. We both were friends for more than 5 years . She recently got married. She is in contact with me through Google chat. Few days back she told me that she was getting married and she was going to delete her Google account. She also told that she will create a new Facebook account and add me there. She told the account name that she will create.Suddenly one day I did not find her account in my Google chat .I messaged her on Facebook as i know her username. I asked her, is she the person I am searching for. She said yes dear . After saying yes she had blocked me . I'm shocked.
She was the person who had asked me to give contact and want to make calls to me once upon a time. Being a friend for that long she could atleast say to me that she is not able to continue friendship and atleast the reason. I personally take blocking me as their loss .
Do you have virtual friends ? How would you react to a block from a close friend?.
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25 responses
@yoalldudes (34053)
• Philippines
17 Mar
Online friends have their limitations but they give me comfort and companionship as well wisdom and knowledge like you do when we are chats and interacting.
I'm sorry something like that happened to you. I hope it is just a mistake.
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@yoalldudes (34053)
• Philippines
17 Mar
@Icydoll Oh with limited I meant we don't meet each other in person and be able to help each other in times of need in person like accompany us something like that. I am also happy I have you and our fellow mylotters. It is like we have a nice community here.
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@arunima25 (79549)
• Bangalore, India
17 Mar
No one would feel good about being blocked by a friend, real or virtual. I just hope that you were accidentally blocked.
You are right that it's their loss. Take care 
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@arunima25 (79549)
• Bangalore, India
18 Mar
@Icydoll That's unfortunate. 
. But then you are right. It's her loss.
. But then you are right. It's her loss.1 person likes this
@RebeccasFarm (92631)
• Wheat Ridge, Colorado
17 Mar
Many marriages happen as people meet online so I would say an online friend is real.
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@cacay1 (80071)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar
@RebeccasFarm the same with my experience with Dennis I met virtually but he's a good person in reality.
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@DaddyEvil (119465)
• United States
17 Mar
Yes, I consider the friends I have online as "real" friends. I know some of those people don't feel the same way. I have been blocked by some of them without reason and it hurts just as much as when a friend in the real world stops talking with me...
I get upset at first and then decide it is their loss.
I was blocked by a friend on myLot a little while ago and felt the loss... Then the friend messaged me here and I had to ask someone else to let the friend know they must have accidentally blocked me. The friend fixed it and told me they didn't know how anyone could block me. It's funny now...
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@DaddyEvil (119465)
• United States
17 Mar
@Icydoll I understand and am sorry someone treated you that way.
I'm also happy most of the people I consider friends feel the same way about me.
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@Icydoll (36317)
• India
17 Mar
@DaddyEvil accidental block happens on mylot most of the times. I never blocked anyone here .
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@snowy22315 (151390)
• United States
17 Mar
Did you ask why she blocked you? Maybe it was an accident. I do have virtual friends. I think some are real friends and some are not.
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@snowy22315 (151390)
• United States
17 Mar
@sjvg1976 She was able to message her so she could ask, however, apparently the person already admitted she blocked her!
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@Icydoll (36317)
• India
18 Mar
@snowy22315 she did not give me chance to ask why she blocked me . When I message her on Facebook by asking with her name.She said yes dear . The next minute she had blocked me. Getting blocked without knowing the reason is some thing I hate.
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@allknowing (115615)
• India
17 Mar
What that person did to you was mean Atleast she should have explained
I have virtual friends and in fact some of my family members are now virtual as we have not met in years.
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@quantum2020 (12059)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
18 Mar
The only people I interact with are here on Mylot. I had some virtual friends a long time ago but they got out of my life the same way as you recount here. I think is very difficult to maintain communication with virtual friends
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@cacay1 (80071)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar
We cannot trust virtual friendship. They're behind the screen. But I have a virtual friend for 8 years now and we remain friends. It all depends on the values of the person. All you have to do is erased that virtual friend on your memory.
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I'm happy for that .
@aninditasen (13343)
• Raurkela, India
17 Mar
I have lot of friends on Facebook, mostly my school mates, seniors, classmates and my juniors. If anybody blocks me, I don't bother. I have blocked some who tried to be too personal.
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@aninditasen (13343)
• Raurkela, India
18 Mar
@Icydoll Yes, No one has got the right to get too personal with you that too without meeting you physically and knowing you well.
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@porwest (65089)
• United States
17 Mar
Not sure why she would do that. The only thing that comes to mind is she may have married a controlling man. But who knows? I think you CAN have virtual friends, although I also think they are defined a bit differently. I mean, even here, I have lots of people I talk to that I may consider a friend, but it's on a different level than when you know someone in person.
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@Adie04 (17497)
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17 Mar
I am in line with what @yoalldudes said. But as for your title post, I believe that some virtual friend could be a real friend if one has developed a mutual understanding throughout the years and agree to meet at some point. And like Arya said, they could give comfort and companionship at times too.
But for your case, I believe the answer is no. Let her be when she has blocked you. You done nothing wrong. Let her be. But I'm sorry that happened to you.
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@coldplay8 (2469)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
18 Mar
i do but i won't do this to you. very rude.
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@coldplay8 (2469)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
19 Mar
@Icydoll yeah.shakes you off, in q very bad way.especially, all these years. i am really sorry.
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@theinvisbleink (14)
• Canada
17 Mar
Getting blocked by someone you consider a close friend, virtual or not, sucks. I'm sorry that happened to you.
But knowing her for more than 5 years is a big deal. You guys probably lasted more than most couples in a long distance relationship. It's strange that she would block you just like that. Are you sure it was her?
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@theinvisbleink (14)
• Canada
18 Mar
@Icydoll That's a real bummer. What's the point of giving you her username if she'll just block you. That's cold.
I guess moving on is the only way to go. Too bad you won't have that closure you deserve since you can't contact her anymore.
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