Is a virtual friend not a real friend?.

@Icydoll (36717)
India
March 17, 2023 4:29am CST
I met one girl in a website. We both were friends for more than 5 years . She recently got married. She is in contact with me through Google chat. Few days back she told me that she was getting married and she was going to delete her Google account. She also told that she will create a new Facebook account and add me there. She told the account name that she will create.Suddenly one day I did not find her account in my Google chat .I messaged her on Facebook as i know her username. I asked her, is she the person I am searching for. She said yes dear . After saying yes she had blocked me . I'm shocked. She was the person who had asked me to give contact and want to make calls to me once upon a time. Being a friend for that long she could atleast say to me that she is not able to continue friendship and atleast the reason. I personally take blocking me as their loss . Do you have virtual friends ? How would you react to a block from a close friend?.
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
17 Mar 23
Online friends have their limitations but they give me comfort and companionship as well wisdom and knowledge like you do when we are chats and interacting. I'm sorry something like that happened to you. I hope it is just a mistake.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Mar 23
I agree there should be limitations .Most of the people cares some don't . I'm happy that i have good friends on mylot
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@yoalldudes (35037)
• Philippines
17 Mar 23
@Icydoll Oh with limited I meant we don't meet each other in person and be able to help each other in times of need in person like accompany us something like that. I am also happy I have you and our fellow mylotters. It is like we have a nice community here.
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@arunima25 (87414)
• Bangalore, India
17 Mar 23
No one would feel good about being blocked by a friend, real or virtual. I just hope that you were accidentally blocked. You are right that it's their loss. Take care
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Mar 23
Yeah , i don't think it's an accidental block . It's already been a week,looks like she doesn't care.
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@arunima25 (87414)
• Bangalore, India
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll That's unfortunate. . But then you are right. It's her loss.
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@RebeccasFarm (88963)
• Arvada, Colorado
17 Mar 23
Many marriages happen as people meet online so I would say an online friend is real.
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@cacay1 (83319)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll approve
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@cacay1 (83319)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 23
@RebeccasFarm the same with my experience with Dennis I met virtually but he's a good person in reality.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
Yeah there are lovely couple like @MrDenata
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@LadyDuck (468897)
• Switzerland
17 Mar 23
This person sounds weird. I wonder if she said a lot of lies to her husband and she now blocks her old friends fearing that the husband may learn something from them.
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@cacay1 (83319)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 23
@LadyDuck she's keeping secret that's why she blocked her virtual friend or friends.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
I have the same questions running on my mind now. When she doesn't want to long term friends why she asked my contact and get close with me. . Wish i could move on like her .
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@LadyDuck (468897)
• Switzerland
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll - I wonder why she asked you to contact her and then blocked. This is weird.
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@DaddyEvil (137232)
• United States
17 Mar 23
Yes, I consider the friends I have online as "real" friends. I know some of those people don't feel the same way. I have been blocked by some of them without reason and it hurts just as much as when a friend in the real world stops talking with me... I get upset at first and then decide it is their loss. I was blocked by a friend on myLot a little while ago and felt the loss... Then the friend messaged me here and I had to ask someone else to let the friend know they must have accidentally blocked me. The friend fixed it and told me they didn't know how anyone could block me. It's funny now...
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@DaddyEvil (137232)
• United States
17 Mar 23
@Icydoll I understand and am sorry someone treated you that way. I'm also happy most of the people I consider friends feel the same way about me.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Mar 23
I felt bad about two days i realise now they don't care . I also think the virtual friends as real friends in my life so it hurts much . I'm happy that i got good friends on mylot.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Mar 23
@DaddyEvil accidental block happens on mylot most of the times. I never blocked anyone here .
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@Teekaaa (11580)
• India
17 Mar 23
I would feel very sad & frustrated too, but as you stated it's their loss. We can't do anything about it.
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@Teekaaa (11580)
• India
17 Mar 23
@Icydoll I feel you my friend. Don't worry.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Mar 23
@Teekaaa yeah it's okay i got good friends like you here on mylot . Happy for that.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
17 Mar 23
Yes it hurted me badly and now i realise that they don't care . I don't think she did it accidentally.
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@snowy22315 (178281)
• United States
17 Mar 23
Did you ask why she blocked you? Maybe it was an accident. I do have virtual friends. I think some are real friends and some are not.
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@snowy22315 (178281)
• United States
17 Mar 23
@sjvg1976 She was able to message her so she could ask, however, apparently the person already admitted she blocked her!
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@sjvg1976 (41247)
• Delhi, India
17 Mar 23
She doesn't have her contact number so she could not ask for it.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
@snowy22315 she did not give me chance to ask why she blocked me . When I message her on Facebook by asking with her name.She said yes dear . The next minute she had blocked me. Getting blocked without knowing the reason is some thing I hate.
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@allknowing (133419)
• India
18 Mar 23
What that person did to you was mean Atleast she should have explained I have virtual friends and in fact some of my family members are now virtual as we have not met in years.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
Yes it's really mean . I hurted and sad for two days. Now i realised that they don't care . Glad you have good virtual friends
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@quantum2020 (12041)
• Ciudad De Mexico, Mexico
18 Mar 23
The only people I interact with are here on Mylot. I had some virtual friends a long time ago but they got out of my life the same way as you recount here. I think is very difficult to maintain communication with virtual friends
@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
I agree with you it's difficult to maintain communication with virtual friends. They also should put Same effort as we do to stay in relationship
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@sjvg1976 (41247)
• Delhi, India
17 Mar 23
That's a sad story. If I talk about myself I don't trust virtual friends because for me if I don't see a person in real I can't have emotions about that person. I have always kept real friends above virtual friends in life.
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@sjvg1976 (41247)
• Delhi, India
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll No one wants such mean people like her. It shows what friendship she had in her mind.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
May be I should also be with same attitude like yours. I got few friends since 8 years also . I don't want any mean people like her . Let her move on
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
@sjvg1976 when i explained all this thing to another friend. She said you should understand her situation.whats there to understand . She left my friendship meaningless.
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@cacay1 (83319)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 23
We cannot trust virtual friendship. They're behind the screen. But I have a virtual friend for 8 years now and we remain friends. It all depends on the values of the person. All you have to do is erased that virtual friend on your memory.
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@sjvg1976 (41247)
• Delhi, India
18 Mar 23
@cacay1 Unlike real friends we don't have any contact no or residences of virtual friends so there are more possibilities that they may once lose you on a site they may lose you forever. I don't believe in virtual friendship much.
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@cacay1 (83319)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
18 Mar 23
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
I have friends too who are there for more than 8 years. Yeah there are also mean people like this girl . I have good friends like you on mylot I'm happy for that .
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@aninditasen (16277)
• Raurkela, India
17 Mar 23
I have lot of friends on Facebook, mostly my school mates, seniors, classmates and my juniors. If anybody blocks me, I don't bother. I have blocked some who tried to be too personal.
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@aninditasen (16277)
• Raurkela, India
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll Yes, No one has got the right to get too personal with you that too without meeting you physically and knowing you well.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
It's good move that you took .when someone is trying to be too personal it's better to block .
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@porwest (86862)
• United States
17 Mar 23
Not sure why she would do that. The only thing that comes to mind is she may have married a controlling man. But who knows? I think you CAN have virtual friends, although I also think they are defined a bit differently. I mean, even here, I have lots of people I talk to that I may consider a friend, but it's on a different level than when you know someone in person.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
Whatever reason it might be , letting me know the reason is the minimum value to give a person who has been a friend for that long.
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@porwest (86862)
• United States
24 Mar 23
@Icydoll I think people SHOULD explain themselves. At the same time many don't feel the need to. I am not sure I would feel the need to. It just depends.
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@Adie04 (17360)
17 Mar 23
I am in line with what @yoalldudes said. But as for your title post, I believe that some virtual friend could be a real friend if one has developed a mutual understanding throughout the years and agree to meet at some point. And like Arya said, they could give comfort and companionship at times too. But for your case, I believe the answer is no. Let her be when she has blocked you. You done nothing wrong. Let her be. But I'm sorry that happened to you.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
I have good virtual friends been for 8 years also. Sometimes like this mean people also exists who dont care about relationship simply block and move on with their life . I'm shocked with her move.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
@Adie04 it has happened me before but this person was behaved close to me . I should learn from it now .
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@Adie04 (17360)
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll Well, maybe I have met this type of people before, now I don't feel surprised anymore. Yup, it's shocking when you first experience it.
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@ifa225 (14464)
• Indonesia
29 Mar 23
I have someone virtual friends.. but you know virtual friends will never be the same like in real world. Fortunatlely, I have never been blocked by a friend.. Perhaps it is because we never that close
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
30 Mar 23
I used to think virtual Or real the friendship is same . Slowly i changed my views and i learnt lesson from her
@sol_cee (38219)
• Philippines
23 Mar 23
Oh dear, why did she do that? You’re left with questions but yeah it’s her loss, not yours
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
23 Mar 23
I felt very bad and sad the first two days after she left me .later then after sharing here i some how felt good with all the mylotter support. I'm glad that i got good friends here . I still don't know the reason why she blocked me. There is no chance to find her and contact. I don't feel like contact her again. I'm done.
@just4him (317027)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
18 Mar 23
I'm sorry that happened. I have many virtual friends that I met here. I am in contact with them on and off the site. I've even called and talked to them. I would be disappointed if one of them blocked me.
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@just4him (317027)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
20 Mar 23
@Icydoll Thank you. I'm glad to be considered a friend, even a sweet one.
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
19 Mar 23
It's okay my friend I am glad that you got many friends here. I have too but some people are very mean that leaves us to get hurt . You are one of my sweet friend.
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@JudyEv (336680)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Mar 23
That's very rude. I think you are well rid of her but it must be very hurtful.
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@JudyEv (336680)
• Rockingham, Australia
18 Mar 23
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
Yes it's hurts. I wish I could move on like her . Anyway I got good friends on mylot like you
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@thebos (5964)
• Kisumu, Kenya
17 Mar 23
I really don't have very close virtual friends
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
May be good for you. There is no hurting from the mean people
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
19 Mar 23
@thebos yeah that's nice feeling to have real life friends to share
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@thebos (5964)
• Kisumu, Kenya
19 Mar 23
@Icydoll but in reality, I really love having friends to talk about funny things
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• Canada
17 Mar 23
Getting blocked by someone you consider a close friend, virtual or not, sucks. I'm sorry that happened to you. But knowing her for more than 5 years is a big deal. You guys probably lasted more than most couples in a long distance relationship. It's strange that she would block you just like that. Are you sure it was her?
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@Icydoll (36717)
• India
18 Mar 23
I'm sure it was her . When I message her on Facebook she told yes dear .The next minute she blocked me I wish I should move on like her .
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• Canada
18 Mar 23
@Icydoll That's a real bummer. What's the point of giving you her username if she'll just block you. That's cold. I guess moving on is the only way to go. Too bad you won't have that closure you deserve since you can't contact her anymore.
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