2/23/24 - Update on My Husband

@LindaOHio (155469)
United States
February 23, 2024 3:01am CST
Latest fiasco - Yesterday I got a call from the rehab facility that my husband's condition had deteriorated over the past 2 days and that he didn't recognize his nurse. He also wasn't able to swallow any food or liquids. They didn't know if this was physical or neurological; so they sent him to the hospital ER to get an ultrasound and CT scan of his throat. Then I get a call from the ER telling me that my husband is severely dehydrated and in AFIB. I told the nurse that he hasn't been able to swallow and he was sent there to get some tests done. She laughed and said that he was joking around with her and drinking water. Nothing was said to her about any tests or problems swallowing. All they said was that he had dementia (this has not been verified yet) and that he had deteriorated. They admitted him and are giving him fluids intravenously. They take much better care of him in the hospital than they do at that rehab facility. Photo Credit: Pixabay
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@lazydaizee (6730)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb
I hope they can get this sorted out for him.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
23 Feb
I hope so too!
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@Beestring (13272)
• Hong Kong
23 Feb
Apparently, that is not a good rehab facility.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
23 Feb
I think they're all pretty much the same.
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@GardenGerty (157463)
• United States
23 Feb
Unfortunately he cannot live in a hospital. Insurance will not cover it. I am sure you have not had any time to look into any facilities that specialize in dementia and Alzheimers. A good program and well trained staff can make a ton of difference.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
The facility he is in specializes in that type of patient. They will have to show me much more than they are doing to convince me.
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@akalinus (40433)
• United States
27 Feb
@LindaOHio If he can't eat by himself, they will have to have someone there to help him for every meal. They can't just let him starve because it is not convenient for them.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
28 Feb
@akalinus Exactly. The hospital takes much better care of him.
@DWDavis (25812)
• Pikeville, North Carolina
23 Feb
It seems the rehab facility needs someone to go in and clean house.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
That would be a good idea.
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@Fleura (29097)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb
Well on the good side he was joking around and able to drink. The so-called 'rehab' is a joke though.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
23 Feb
Yes, he was drinking without a problem.
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@akalinus (40433)
• United States
23 Feb
@LindaOHio Why would he not drink at rehab but will in the hospital? That seems strange to me.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
@akalinus I don't know. The nurse said he was having problems eating some eggs. Couldn't get them down.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
23 Feb
Glad he is out of that rehab. They were doing nothing for him. Hopefully he will get better care now. I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
23 Feb
He is only at the hospital for a day. He will be taken back to rehab.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
@Happy2BeMe He complained about hip pain so they took a scan. Turns out he has a fractured hip. He will be having surgery Monday or Tuesday!!!!!
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
24 Feb
@LindaOHio sorry to hear that
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@BarBaraPrz (45432)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
23 Feb
That doesn't sound good at all. Somebody's not telling the truth.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
He had trouble eating some eggs the nurse said. I don't know what the problem is.
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@vandana7 (98701)
• India
23 Feb
Is it possible to get another MRI done without doctor's suggestion? Rehab people there are selfish or maybe the nurse in ER is not identifying you correctly. Whatever, being out from rehab is a better news.
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@vandana7 (98701)
• India
24 Feb
@LindaOHio Please do...
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@akalinus (40433)
• United States
24 Feb
In the US, we have to pay for every medical procedure unless it is covered by insurance. She would have to check into the finances for a second opinion.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
I will ask the doctor about a delayed diagnosis of stroke.
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@Tina30219 (81539)
• Onaway, Michigan
23 Feb
Sorry to hear this it sure does sound like the hospital takes better care of him
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@Tina30219 (81539)
• Onaway, Michigan
24 Feb
@LindaOHio Which is good.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
They definitely do.
@FourWalls (61915)
• United States
23 Feb
The sad reality is that he can’t stay at the hospital without a medical necessity. And he would get better treatment at the hospital. They’re devoted to preserving life. A nursing home/rehab facility, on the other hand, is a place where people who don’t give a damn show up to make minimum wage money while they look for another job. Sorry to sound jaded, but I’ve seen enough of how my relatives were treated there.
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@FourWalls (61915)
• United States
24 Feb
@LindaOHio — I wish there was something I could do.
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@akalinus (40433)
• United States
24 Feb
Yep, I saw people devoted to the patients (very few) and most just wanted their paycheck. Once, in the lunchroom, I heard a lot of screaming and things being thrown at the walls and crashing all around. All the people there for lunch were dumbfounded. I am sure someone lost a job that day. I saw workers asking rude questions and running away laughing. I saw people walking the halls and sticking their noses in the air if you dared to ask them something.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
I saw plenty during the few hours that I was there.
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@LadyDuck (457249)
• Switzerland
23 Feb
It is a good thing if he joked with the nurse and could drink water. I wonder what happened at the rehab, there is something wrong with that place.
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@GardenGerty (157463)
• United States
23 Feb
@LindaOHio Sometimes with Alzheimer's as the disease progresses people "forget" how to swallow food and water.
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@LadyDuck (457249)
• Switzerland
23 Feb
@LindaOHio I cannot understand at all what is happening.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
23 Feb
Yes, he was drinking without a problem. I'm so confused!
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@1creekgirl (40384)
• United States
23 Feb
That is so infuriating. That rehab place should be closed down. I'm praying your husband will improve there in the hospital. I noticed that you posted this about 3am. You're probably not sleeping well with him gone, are you. I'll keep praying for your husband and also that God will bless you with peace of heart and a restful night's sleep.
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@1creekgirl (40384)
• United States
24 Feb
@LindaOHio I am so sorry to hear that, Linda. I'm sure it must be difficult with your husband not there.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
I'm always up all night. I have a tremendous amount of trouble sleeping. After 24-48 hours of being awake I will conk out for an hour or so. Thank you for your concern.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
25 Feb
@1creekgirl Yes, I'm afraid at night now that I'm alone. And I miss my husband SO MUCH.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
23 Feb
I would be livid with his treatment at the rehab facility. I'm glad he's getting good care at the hospital. I'm praying for both of you.
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@just4him (305367)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 Feb
@LindaOHio You're welcome.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
Thank you, Valerie.
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@Dena91 (15844)
• United States
23 Feb
Mike's Dad had dementia and he would forget how to drink, talk then a little while late it was as if nothing was wrong with him. As it progressed, he stayed more to the forgetting how side. Praying for you. I know how hard this is for you.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
Thank you, Dena. If it happened gradually, it would be easier to take; but it was a matter of days.
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@Juliaacv (48246)
• Canada
24 Feb
Oh your poor husband, this has been such a long time for him. I hope that a new set of eyes see him this time around and can see what others have missed.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
25 Feb
They found out he has a fractured hip. He will have surgery Monday or Tuesday!
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@TheHorse (205160)
• Walnut Creek, California
23 Feb
I am glad he has a nurse with a sense of humor and some compassion.
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@TheHorse (205160)
• Walnut Creek, California
25 Feb
@LindaOHio Sounds like it. Can he stay there for awhile?
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
25 Feb
@TheHorse I don't know how many days they will keep him after the surgery.
@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
He gets much better care in the hospital.
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@JudyEv (325255)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 Feb
At least he is getting better care at the moment. I hope it continues.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
Much better than at rehab.
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@lovebuglena (43059)
• Staten Island, New York
23 Feb
Oh man! This is crazy! The rehab he is in sucks. I wouldn’t want him to go back there. But you probably can’t move him elsewhere. I even wonder if people at the rehab are competent at all…
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@lovebuglena (43059)
• Staten Island, New York
25 Feb
@LindaOHio is he still there?
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
26 Feb
@lovebuglena Yes. He has a fractured hip and is having surgery tomorrow.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
He is definitely better off in the hospital.
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• Rupert, Idaho
23 Feb
I am sorry that the rehab place is like that....and that he needed to go to the hospital.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
He will be having surgery Monday or Tuesday for a fractured hip!
@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
25 Feb
@MommyOfEli2013 Thank you, Courtney.
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• Rupert, Idaho
25 Feb
@LindaOHio I read that in your most recent update....sorry to hear that
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• Cloverdale, Indiana
23 Feb
I can relate to the care they do in both the hosp & rehab from all the shifting back & forth in & out of the hosp I went through in my 6 mons, I was in 3 different hosp & in & out of rehab twice, I hope things can turn around for the better for the both of you, cause it's not easy on either 1 of you going through all this, it's very stressful.
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@akalinus (40433)
• United States
27 Feb
@LindaOHio Life is tough but I think you are tougher. Just think about what would be best for him and make decisions based on that. And think about what would be best for you, too.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
28 Feb
@akalinus I think it's been tougher for my poor husband. He's been through so much in the past month.
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@LindaOHio (155469)
• United States
24 Feb
Yes it is. People from different agencies keep calling me, asking me to make adult decisions. I'm tired of being an adult. lol
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