3/30/24 - Update on My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (156718)
United States
March 30, 2024 4:12am CST
What a glorious day it was yesterday. I got to visit my husband at the rehab facility. Try as I might, I couldn't hold back the tears when I first saw him. I was so happy. His godson/cousin and his 2nd cousin (our housekeeper) took me there.
Hubby told me that he took a few steps while being held up by two people; and he said that he feels stronger.
He whispered to me, "You've got to get me out of here". He said the food is terrible, the nurses take an hour to respond to calls and when they do they make it sound like it's a great inconvenience. He wants to go back to the facility he was in once before. I left a message for them to call me.
There was one bad discovery. The bathroom was disgusting; and no one had been in to clean it. Apparently my husband's roommate made a mess in there.
I brought hubby his cell phone and several other things he wanted and some he didn't ask for such as his fishing magazine, chocolate, etc.
I don't know how long insurance will continue to pay for his residence. I got a call yesterday from someone from the facility asking me if I could take care of him at home, etc. There is no way right now because he can't get out of bed on his own. I should call the insurance company and see what his coverage is.
Thank you all for your encouragement, positive vibes, prayers and continued support.
Photo Credit: Pixabay
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21 responses
@LadyDuck (458649)
• Switzerland
30 Mar
I feel sorry for your husband, that place does not sound to be a nice place where to stay.
Of course you cannot take care of him at home, if he needs two men to hold him, there is no way that you can take care of him. I hope you can find a better place until he gets stronger.
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@LadyDuck (458649)
• Switzerland
30 Mar
@LindaOHio - I hope they can find a place for him, he will recover better if he is happier.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
@LadyDuck Admissions is gone until Monday. I will call again tomorrow. Happy Easter.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
30 Mar
I'll call the other place again today.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (82051)
• Rupert, Idaho
31 Mar
Well it is good to hear how he is doing, and that he feels stronger. Sorry the place is how it is, though. That's great that you finally got to see him!
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
1 Apr
@MommyOfEli2013 What a bummer. We're supposed to get some wet s**w on Thursday...the day I have to go out.
@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
His 2nd cousin made dinner; and we're going to bring him a plate today. Happy Easter!
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@kareng (55021)
• United States
30 Mar
I am glad he was in good spirits and feels like he is getting stronger. At least they are working with him there!
The conditions do not sound like they are up to par there. This seems to be standard in most rehab and nursing homes these days. So sad! I hope you can find another place to give a try at.
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@kareng (55021)
• United States
2 Apr
@LindaOHio But does he remember it clearly?
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
Admissions was gone until Monday. I will try again tomorrow. He really liked staying at this other place. Food was good, staff was accommodating, etc.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
2 Apr
@kareng Yes, it was a few years ago; and he didn't have any mental impairment.
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@celticeagle (159227)
• Boise, Idaho
30 Mar
It's so good to hear that your husband is feeling stronger. It sounds like that place is no good. I would hate to have my husband or family member say that to me. I hope you can find him a better place. How awful! I hope you can find something better for him. Don't they have a group with your state that helps find the right place for such situations? Do you have a program manager?
I hate a dirty bathroom.
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@celticeagle (159227)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Apr
@LindaOHio .......Ugh! I wonder why they are still open. Sure that is a serious violation. It should be reported.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
1 Apr
@celticeagle They cleaned it; but my husband's roommate dirtied it again. Ugh.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
Admissions was gone for the weekend; but I will call again tomorrow. He really likes the place he stayed at before. Yes, a dirty bathroom does it for me. I couldn't stay there.
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@JudyEv (326063)
• Rockingham, Australia
1 Apr
@LindaOHio Yes, I understand that but it makes it very difficult.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
1 Apr
@JudyEv Yes it does. I'm going to call the insurance company today.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
It's the insurance companies that don't want to pay for a long stay.
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@MarieCoyle (28810)
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30 Mar
It just doesn't sound like a good place for anyone to be. I would be tempted to report them to the state medical board, I have never done that, but if I saw what you have described, I definitely would not hesitate. That kind of treatment and then the bathroom issue is just not acceptable at all.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
If the bathroom is still in the condition it was, I'm going to call the head honcho there again and complain.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
1 Apr
@MarieCoyle They cleaned it; but my hubby's roommate dirtied it again. Sigh.
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@MarieCoyle (28810)
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1 Apr
@LindaOHio
That would be a good thing to do. Dirty bathrooms anywhere are not acceptable, but in a health care facility with people with frail help, it’s critical.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
We are not eligible. We are not under the $ amount. The only way we can get on Medicaid is to put our assets in a trust which I won't do. The VA has set me paperwork to fill out to get health benefits from them. It's pretty complicated. I'll have to look up a lot of info.
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@BarBaraPrz (45542)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
30 Mar
Seems like everywhere is profit-oriented instead of service-oriented.
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@crossbones27 (48446)
• Mojave, California
31 Mar
I am encouraged you encouraged. Hope the best for you both. Their needs to be a better way to do this for both of you. More affordable, more so husband does not feel he will be a burden. That's a lot , why people never admit they are sick, but screw all that, lets just take a victory when we can get one. I am glad you hubby and you get to enjoy more life together. What its supposed to be about.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
Yep! I can hardly wait until he comes home!
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@FourWalls (62298)
• United States
30 Mar
I don’t know how long insurance will pay, either. This is where you should call the VA and see what they can provide.
SOOOOOOOOOO happy that you got to see him!!!!!! 
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
I have to fill out the paperwork that the VA sent me. It's going to take quite a bit of research to get all the info they want.
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@Juliaacv (48457)
• Canada
30 Mar
It sounds like a very sweet visit you two shared.
It must have been very encouraging to hear him tell you what he did, as you can be sure that his mind is back to what it was. Now for him to get steadier on his feet, and you will be back under the same roof again.
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@Juliaacv (48457)
• Canada
30 Mar
@LindaOHio I'm sure that he feels the same way.
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@wolfgirl569 (95469)
• Marion, Ohio
30 Mar
Good news that he is starting to walk even if it's with help. Glad you got to see him.
Yes you need to know just how long insurance will cover so call them. Ask about home health while you have them on the phone too. Then you know what to expect
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
Yes, I have several calls I need to make. Yes, he's getting stronger which is great news.
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@RasmaSandra (73569)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
30 Mar
I am glad you could visit him. Is there any possibility of getting home nursing care? I hope he continues to recover. I will continue praying for him, Many blessings to you both, Perhaps you might find this useful
https://www.nursenextdoor.com/our-services/home-care-nursing/
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
Thank you so much. I'm sure we could use a service like this.
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@snowy22315 (170245)
• United States
30 Mar
Glad you had a good visit. Call the VA. Maybe once he is walking he could be home if you could arrange some kind of nursing care or rehab at home.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
I have paperwork I need to fill out from the VA. It's going to take a while to get all the info together that they required.
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@rebelann (111228)
• El Paso, Texas
30 Mar
I know how your hubby feels, the rehab I was in was a awful but at least I was in a room by myself .... well, it was in 2020 so covid rules wouldn't allow people to double up in a room .... and the help cleaned everyday. I hated the food, it was terrible.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
His 2nd cousin made dinner; so we are bringing him a plate of food today.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
31 Mar
Definitely. I hope insurance lets him stay.
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@1creekgirl (40573)
• United States
2 Apr
I know you were so thankful he's a little stronger, but I pray you can find a better place until he's well enough to come home and that insurance will cover.
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@1creekgirl (40573)
• United States
3 Apr
@LindaOHio That's so frustrating, I know. But hopefully your husband will get transferred soon and then be coming home not so long after that!
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
3 Apr
I called Admissions twice today to see if they received the Referral. So far I haven't received a call back.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
4 Apr
@1creekgirl I hope so. How are you feeling?
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
1 Apr
@just4him I did. He can have up to 100 days as long as the facility reports that he still needs PT.
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@LindaOHio (156718)
• United States
1 Apr
Apparently a couple of people worked on it over the weekend; but it was messed up again when we were there yesterday. Disgusting.
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