It isn't as bad as it looks

@JudyEv (329109)
Rockingham, Australia
May 24, 2024 6:29am CST
My husband has been in hospital since Monday and has had major heart surgery. As you can see, at that point, he had a number of tubes attached to his body but some have been removed now. I’ve been to see him each day and with luck he will be out of the Intensive Care Unit (ICU) tomorrow and into a private room. He has been for a short walk each day and tomorrow they will get him up to walk every hour. He says that after any activity at all, he feels absolutely exhausted. We were told to expect this but he is finding it a bit hard to accept. Your prayers and good wishes have been much appreciated. Hopefully I’ll soon be able to show him up and walking.
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@BarBaraPrz (45938)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
24 May
I'm glad that it's not as bad as it looks, because babe, it looks bad.
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@BarBaraPrz (45938)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
24 May
@JudyEv Good shot.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
The tube that was down his throat has gone or it would have looked worse. One of the nurses took this photo.
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@arunima25 (86224)
• Bangalore, India
24 May
Sending prayers and thoughts. I will wait for the picture of him up and walking. I hope that you post it soon. Take care
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Thanks. It's going to be a long, slow road but I'm sure we'll get there.
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@arunima25 (86224)
• Bangalore, India
24 May
@JudyEv Yes, slow and steady. He will be there
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@snowy22315 (172657)
• United States
24 May
I have to say his color is good which is a very positive sign. I am sure he will eventually get his strength back and walking will not be such a chore
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
He's doing okay really. We always knew it would be a slow process.
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@snowy22315 (172657)
• United States
24 May
@JudyEv What is that thing on his chest that looks like a blanket folded up? Is it an 02 cannister?
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
@snowy22315 I think it is folded around the pain relief button so he can't lose it.
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@RebeccasFarm (87102)
• United States
24 May
How is he doing now Judy? Actually, he looks extremely well cared for in the pic..very comforting.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
He's okay for what he's been through. It will be a long, slow process but they are looking after him very well.
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@LadyDuck (463269)
• Switzerland
24 May
Poor Vince, I hope that by tomorrow most of those tubes will have been removed. My best wishes to him, I imagine he feels exhausted, but it is very important that he walks a bit every hour.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Each time I visit, there are one or two less tubes. They leave them lying around for too long nowadays, do they?
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@LadyDuck (463269)
• Switzerland
24 May
@JudyEv I agree, the sooner they remove them, the better is for the patient.
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@wolfgirl569 (98043)
• Marion, Ohio
24 May
No one looks good in the hospital. Glad he is doing great
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Each day I'm sure there will be small improvements.
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@AmbiePam (86637)
• United States
24 May
Yes, we’ll be praying! It’s hard to fathom the ordeal that that kind of surgery puts one through.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
It's all so complicated, isn't it? The human body? It's just incredible what they can do nowadays.
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@vandana7 (99388)
• India
24 May
Short walk every hour ..the thought itself must be stressing him. But it is needed. :( My father has stopped taking walks and he takes them randomly. Earlier he was able to climb steps. Now he cannot, and even his step gap is coming down, it is becoming a shuffle. Men...sigh. How you gonna motivate him? Of course, I will pray. Hugs.
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@vandana7 (99388)
• India
25 May
@JudyEv That is what...nagging is a must. My father scolds me when I nag, and I shut up. Indian culture...grrrrr. Yes, he is younger. You take care of you, ok? More hugs to you.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
@vandana7 Thanks very much and hugs back to you too.
@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
Thanks Vanny. Vince is probably a bit younger than your father and he is quite motivated to get better. And I'll be nagging him bigtime too. Thanks for the hug. All hugs welcome at the moment.
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@rebelann (111761)
• El Paso, Texas
24 May
This is good news, I'm sure that soon he'll be back home
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@rebelann (111761)
• El Paso, Texas
24 May
Hopefully not that long.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
We're both waiting for that day. Perhaps another week.
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@Juliaacv (49046)
• Canada
24 May
Judy, this picture says a thousand words. It leaves me fighting back the tears, I cannot imagine how you nor he feels. I will keep you both in my prayers, and I wish him only good health. Prayers for him for his continued improvement and you for nursing him back to health after he is discharged from the hospital.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
Thanks so much, Julia. Some of the tubes have gone now. They advised me against visiting the day of the surgery as it would have been worse with tubes down his throat as well and he wouldn't have known as I was there. We will need to be very patient and satisfied with very small progresses as he recovers.
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@Juliaacv (49046)
• Canada
25 May
@JudyEv Yes, I think that it was best that you stayed home on that day and that he was able to be cared for by the healthcare professionals. Oh I wish him well.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49413)
• United States
24 May
Hopefully he gets into the private room and each and every day he gets better.
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@Tampa_girl7 (49413)
• United States
24 May
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Thanks. Small steps each day and we'll get there.
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• United States
24 May
I'm really glad Vince is doing better than he looks (good thing you posted that as your title ). Hope he starts to feel better soon. Sending you both positive thoughts, good wishes and continued prayers.
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• United States
24 May
@JudyEv we've been friends for so many years and I find these friendships to be genuine. Many of us are praying for Vince (and you) even though his recovery will take some time.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
@Marilynda1225 It's nice to feel I can come here and share even bad/worrying/uncomfortable things. Certainly for some of us, our history goes back a few years now.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Thanks, Marilyn. I struggled a bit for a title. The support from you all here has been really appreciated.
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@just4him (311401)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 May
My prayers are with you for his recovery.
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@just4him (311401)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
24 May
@JudyEv You're welcome.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Thanks very much, Valerie. It's much appreciated.
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@Beestring (13640)
• Hong Kong
24 May
Afterall, this is quite a big surgery. It takes a bit of time to recover. I wish him all the best.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
Thanks. Yes, it was a major operation and will take him some time to recover.
@FourWalls (63386)
• United States
24 May
Praying for you both! And do tell him (in case he didn’t pay attention to the doctors telling him) that it is “normal” to be exhausted after minimal effort at first after heart surgery. My dad barely made it walking from the chair they had him in to the bathroom in the room for the first few days. It will get better!!!
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
Thanks for both the prayers and advice. He just rang and will be staying in ICU another night at least. The heart chambers aren't 'talking' to each other properly yet. I'll keep telling him to be patient.
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@moffittjc (119233)
• Gainesville, Florida
25 May
Oh no, poor Vince. I didn't know there was anything wrong with him. I really hope he recovers quickly. I will make sure to say a prayer for both of you.
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@moffittjc (119233)
• Gainesville, Florida
30 May
@JudyEv I will keep praying as long as you need me to. How is Vince doing?
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May
@moffittjc I brought him home today and he is doing well. Still quite a long road to go but he's out of hospital which is great and quite well, but gets exhausted quickly. Thanks so much for your prayers.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
26 May
Thanks, Jeff. All prayers and kind thoughts are very much appreciated.
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@TheHorse (209244)
• Walnut Creek, California
24 May
Sending healing thoughts.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
Thanks very much. I'm glad I've got myLot to share with.
24 May
I will include your husband in my prayers. I know it is not easy seeing our loved ones sick. My husband had a bad fall last year. I cannot forget how worried and confused I was at that time—I was confused. I could not get exact details from the doctors because most of them could not speak English fluently. The emergency medical team could not answer my questions. Fortunately, my husband was conscious. I looked for signs of stroke but it didn't seem like it. He stayed at the hospital for three weeks. He was grumpy. I felt down whenever he was crabby. He would get upset at the slightest provocation sometimes, I wanted to cry. It took months for him to get better. I cannot say that he has fully recovered because he still has persistent pain in his hips. The orthopedic told me that it is a pinched nerve,
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
24 May
I'm sorry you, and he, went through so much. And it's very sad that he still has pain. It can be very traumatic when your loved one is ill.
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@dya80dya (34872)
24 May
He has so many tubes. I hope he will feel better soon.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
They are slowly being removed. It's going to take some time.
@MarieCoyle (30852)
25 May
I know it is a very hard operation to recover from. Slow and steady...I hope he is out of ICU very soon.
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@JudyEv (329109)
• Rockingham, Australia
25 May
Thanks. In a way, I don't mind him being there as he is under constant supervision. But it's nearly time he left.