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@GoAskAlice (5841)
May 20, 2025 9:00am CST
It has recently been brought to my attention that some users here have chosen to begin discussing other users, by name, quite often in a derogatory manner, in responses and comments.
I have deleted posts (responses/comments) from a few different people lately after they were reported to me.
This behaviour simply will not do and I am requesting that everyone please stop this immediately.
If you do not like someone here, that is your own personal business. It is not business that needs to be discussed/shared here with other members of the site in the public forum.
Even if you do not directly mention names, gossiping about other members is not something that should be done in the public discussion areas.
Ideally you should not talk about other members here at all, but if you feel you absolutely must, this should be done in a PM.
Thank you.
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31 responses
@garymarsh6 (23473)
• United Kingdom
21 May
How sad to read this as the first post after logging in. It used to be such a nice friendly site. I totally agree with your request.
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@ptrikha_2 (48124)
• India
24 May
Good to see Gary after a number of days. Hopefully, would see more of you soon.
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@Ineeddentures (8265)
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22 May
Hi Gary.
Long time no see.
How are you keeping these days?
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@FourWalls (76280)
• United States
20 May
I only joke with people who KNOW I’m joking, and always follow it with emojis (
and 
) to ensure everyone that I AM joking.
and ) to ensure everyone that I AM joking.10 people like this
@Ineeddentures (8265)
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22 May
I do the jokes but without the emojis.
I'm always scared I use the wrong one
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@GardenGerty (164550)
• United States
21 May
Thanks for the recommend. That sure isn't in the spirit of myLot. It is not unusual to like some people more than others, in fact it is easy to find things we dislike, BUT it is also easy to scroll on past.
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@Ineeddentures (8265)
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22 May
I think we have more that united us, than the stuff that divides us.
Scrolling on is easy.
@RebeccasFarm (95312)
• Arvada, Colorado
20 May
I have had discussions posted about me directly. I read it, but passed it by.
But is requesting prayer for a member okay?
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@wolfgirl569 (118643)
• Marion, Ohio
20 May
I agree. I have mentioned names but it was to get the persons attention when we were having fun with each other. Never as a put down derogatory thing.
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@pitsipeahie (5326)
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21 May
To quote, 'small minds discuss people'—and even smaller minds do it on a public forum. Thanks admin for stepping in and for the reminder, and to @Scarred4Lyfe for suggesting this to me, thank you. Much needed! 
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@Ineeddentures (8265)
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22 May
That's a great quote my friend.
I must remember it.
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@BarBaraPrz (49967)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
20 May
I haven't run into any nastiness here, unless about Rump.
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@LadyDuck (477969)
• Italy
21 May
Thank you @Scarred4Lyfe for suggesting this post.
Thank you for this post about members behavior, I have not seen names mentioned, but I will be sure to respect the guidelines.
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@RasmaSandra (86594)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 May
I totally agree and I have not been doing this. Thanks though for the warning in case I run across anything like this online then I will report it,
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@Deepizzaguy (111492)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
21 May
Good advice for me to heed on this site.
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@Sambriel (2250)
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21 May
Thanks a lot for the suggestion @Scarred4Lyfe although I haven't really noticed any myself but, rest assured I don't have any issues being complaint with guidelines on here.
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@celticeagle (176574)
• Boise, Idaho
20 May
Thank you for bringing this to my attention.
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@ptrikha_2 (48124)
• India
20 May
Yes, such a behavior is not right.
One might agree or disagree on certain points but that can be done in a good way.
Not this way.
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@LindaOHio (193298)
• United States
22 May
I totally agree. We don't have time for derogatory remarks or for the people that make them.
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@Melanie_Marie (2165)
• St. Clair, Michigan
22 May
I don’t think I do this.
Come on myLot members, we’re a family.
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