One of the hardest things about getting older.
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (50242)
September 16, 2025 12:20am CST
This past week, a lady I have known for years died in a horrific accident. She and a semi truck hit head on, and she died almost instantly. The semi driver had significant injuries as well, I do not know yet just who was at fault.
She was truly beautiful inside and out. She had a husband who loved her, two grown daughters, and two little grandchildren. She was so funny and loving.
In the past two years, I have lost 4 close friends. Two from cancer, one from a terrible fall, and this one from an accident. (I have lost some family members as well, but this post is about friends.)
I miss them. I appreciated and loved having them in my life. I still have several close friends, but that doesn't make me miss them any less. Our talks about life are much missed.
This has made me think more about being a good friend, as well has having them be mine, and how wonderful it was having them in my life. I hope they know how much they meant to me.
Losing those we care about, whether they are friends or family, is just not easy, is it?
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@LadyDuck (486143)
• Italy
16 Sep
@MarieCoyle At least we can hope she did not suffer.
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@LadyDuck (486143)
• Italy
17 Sep
@MarieCoyle - Dying in our sleep, as Robert Redford, is the best way to go.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
Not a good way to die,for sure. I am thankful she didn’t suffer for too long.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
So well put, many thanks to you.
Yes, it's hard to lose them, and we all hope to meet again in another life. 
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@celticeagle (181240)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Sep
That's a lot of friends to lose. I lost my BFF a couple years ago. A woman I thought was a good friend showed me she wasn't and so she is gone as well. She turned out to be a real weird bird. I know what it's like to miss a good friend. I'm sorry to hear you have had 4 passes away. It's so hard. But thank goodness for memories. My BFF was like family, and she made me feel like a part of hers. So did her family. I miss them all.
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@celticeagle (181240)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Sep
@MarieCoyle ........Yes, they are. She sure was. RIP
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
A good friend is a true treasure. I’m sorry you lost your best friend, I know you miss her so much.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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22 Sep
@celticeagle
I am sure she appreciated you just as much as you did her.
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@allknowing (154176)
• India
16 Sep
We all have to go one day and hopefully die peacefully
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@allknowing (154176)
• India
17 Sep
@MarieCoyle That is true We have this guy who is totally lost to the world and is in that state since 23 years
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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17 Sep
I think everyone hopes when their time comes, they will go peacefully. Unfortunately, it doesn't always go that way.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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17 Sep
@allknowing
Yes, we occasionally hear about people who are in that condition and it's so sad. I had a family member in a coma for two weeks one time, we all prepared for the end...and he woke up! He ended up going home and having a good life, his brain and body were fine, for several more years. I do know that doesn't happen very often.
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@RasmaSandra (90397)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Sep
I totally agree with you, I had a very close and dear friend I even kept in touch with after I was living in Latvia, He always said we would get together in old age and laugh at all we once did, For some reason he took his own life and he would have been the pwerson I needed after my husband passed on, He knew Martin and I know he would have flown to be with me in Latvia but he was also gone, I hope the two of them met up there and Martin found out what had really happened and I know he would have been happy for me to have him as support,
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@RasmaSandra (90397)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
20 Sep
@MarieCoyle it was sto strange shortly after I found out we would go to bed and I would hear the phone ringing like in or not in a dream, I would pick it up and hear my friend call my name and knew he was calling to tell me what had happened. After several tries on different occasions I never heard anything again so I hope Martin up above has found out about what actually happened. So far, no one has told me,
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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22 Sep
@RasmaSandra
Sometimes, we cannot explain things that happen. But they have been known to happen, for sure.
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@aninditasen (17722)
• Raurkela, India
16 Sep
No, it's not. It takes a lot of time to accept a friend's or dear one's loss.
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@aninditasen (17722)
• Raurkela, India
18 Sep
@MarieCoyle Yes, it was but now I have got used to my single life. My sons visit me often.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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18 Sep
@aninditasen
I'm so sorry you lost him. I'm sure that was more than hard on you.
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@GardenGerty (166219)
• United States
16 Sep
I still miss friends that I lost years ago. None so horrifically though.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
It generally takes me some time to get over an unexpected loss of a friend or family...I think it does that for everyone. We all harbor a desire of, when it's our time to leave this world, to go peacefully in our sleep. Unfortunately, that doesn't happen very often.
@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
It’s strange knowing they are not just a phone call away anymore.
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@LeaPea2417 (38610)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Sep
That's awful about your friend. How old was she?
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
She was 60. Very healthy and energetic, and always found the positive in everything. Thank you.
@Tampa_girl7 (53633)
• United States
17 Sep
No, it is never easy. It seems since my teen years I have lost at least one friend every decade. Getting older is definitely a privilege.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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18 Sep
Yes, it is. It's not always easy, but it's up to us to try to make the best of the days and years we are given.
@wolfgirl569 (124342)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Sep
So sorry. It's always hard to say goodbye. But even harder when it is sudden
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@wolfgirl569 (124342)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Sep
@MarieCoyle Cancer is always hard. It just wears a person out. Especially the chemo treatments. But sudden adds in the shock factor.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
It's hard for me either way. It was really tough watching the two friends who battled cancer, how hard they tried to get well and left no stone unturned. One of them beat cancer three times. But the fourth one, it took her. She was just too weak and tired to fight anymore. Such a strong spirit til the very end, but her body was just too worn out, sick, and very tired. Thanks, Eva.
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@Jdaw1985 (3995)
• Fayetteville, North Carolina
19 Sep
I am so sorry for your loss. Loss is never easy for anyone. I have also been thinking about this very same thing. You see all the people around you passing away and it just makes you realize that you never know when it might be your time. I have to agree with you thought we should all make time to reach out to our friends and family so they know we are there and be the best friend and family we can be.
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@Jdaw1985 (3995)
• Fayetteville, North Carolina
19 Sep
@MarieCoyle That is very true. Most of my family I just quit talking to but I think I should reach out and at least see how they are doing.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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19 Sep
Time with loved ones is special, and we never know when we will lose someone. Make the time, it's so worth it.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
I honestly don't have much trouble making friends, but these 4 were people I have known for many years. Thank you.
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@snowy22315 (198129)
• United States
16 Sep
RIP! It is always hard to lose a friend especially someone you knew well.
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@Manasha (2924)
• Pondicherry, India
16 Sep
No, it’s not easy—not even close. And what you’ve shared here is deeply heartfelt and profoundly human. When you lose someone—especially in such sudden, tragic ways—it shakes the ground beneath your feet. And losing four close friends in just two years is a lot. That's not just grief; that's cumulative, layered heartbreak. It makes sense that you're feeling the weight of all of it.
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@Juliaacv (54717)
• Canada
16 Sep
Oh Sweetheart, I am so very sorry for your loss.
When I initially read the title of your post, it took me back a year in time, you remember the post, advising us of the loss of our dear Kharla.
I feel that those that we befriend, and who befriend us, have a huge impact on who we are.
They love us for who we are, quirks and all, and it enables us to have the confidence that we, even with those quirks are okay.
I can only say that because I have lost some friends over the years. Two, in particular, that I was so very close with that spring and fall, I cannot help but to go back to the day when I received the news that each of them had passed.
Living without our besties can be like living life under a cloud, but we have to remember things that they said that would encourage us to remember that they are waiting for us, and always in our hearts.
When I initially read the title of your post, it took me back a year in time, you remember the post, advising us of the loss of our dear Kharla.
I feel that those that we befriend, and who befriend us, have a huge impact on who we are.
They love us for who we are, quirks and all, and it enables us to have the confidence that we, even with those quirks are okay.
I can only say that because I have lost some friends over the years. Two, in particular, that I was so very close with that spring and fall, I cannot help but to go back to the day when I received the news that each of them had passed.
Living without our besties can be like living life under a cloud, but we have to remember things that they said that would encourage us to remember that they are waiting for us, and always in our hearts. 1 person likes this
@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
I know her family and they are in shock, of course. It’s very difficult to imagine someone as full of life as she was, to not be here anymore.
Thank you so much.
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@MarieCoyle (50242)
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16 Sep
It really is difficult.
''We don't know what we've got 'til it's gone!'' is resonating in my head.
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