I'm dreading Christmas / myLot

United States

December 22, 2025 2:39pm CST

That is sad to admit but it is the truth. I am going to my sister's house on Thursday and quite frankly I'd rather just stay here with the cats. My mother lives with my sister and her family and they are all up in each other's business. Her best friends and another couple are heavily involved in each other's lives too. So I wind up feeling left out and try to avoid seeing them which of course only further isolates me. It is a vicious cycle. Honestly I am still sort of considering bailing. I most likely won't because I just don't want to deal with my mother being pissed at me. Last year I brought my downstairs neighbor along just to force her to be on her best behavior. She just called to see if my neighbor was going this year. I don't know. I have to text her. Ugh. I really don't want to go.

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Amber

@AmbiePam (108486)

• United States

I know you don’t, but I hope you do, and if the neighbor would make it more tolerable, I hope she goes too.

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RasmaSandra

@RasmaSandra (92045)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

Sounds like you should take the Grinch with you if there was such a creature, Just grit your teeth and stay for a short while and dash back home and rock around the apartment with the cat crew,

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snowy

@snowy22315 (200383)

• United States

It'll be OK. If your neighbor goes with you, you will have a buffer.

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@DaddyEvil (164034)

• United States

I totally understand... I'd just tell them I didn't feel well and stay home. Pretty and I just don't go to family gatherings anymore. She doesn't like most of the family. *shrug*

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PLETHOS

@Plethos (13695)

• United States

dont go. be truthful with them. then let them deal with that on thier own.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (52528)

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I actually would take the neighbor or someone. That way, you can see your mother for a bit and come right back home. But this is just me...and as you said, you don't want your mother all hot and bothered and have to deal with that. Breeze in, don't stay long, and sashay out the door...but like I said, you may not want to.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (67211)

• Centralia, Washington

I hope you do what is best for you.

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Judy Evans

@JudyEv (367818)

• Rockingham, Australia

My Christmas won't have any of your dramas I hope but I'll be glad when it's all over and we can get back to our boring 'normal'.