I nearly cried
@GardenGerty (168594)
United States
April 8, 2026 2:41pm CST
I was going to work today and the next two days and then be done with school. I had sent in my resignation letter.
Well, at 1:15 this morning I am not sure what Bob did but he knocked over a heavy piece of furniture by his bed, and proceeded to tell me it was fine and he meant to do it.
At 6 ish when he wanted to get up for the bathroom he asked me "Did I really do that?". "How did I do that?" Heck if I know, but needless to say I got very little sleep after 1:15.
I decided I had to go ahead and just not go back. I sent appropriate messages. They are very understanding.
Meanwhile the doctor wanted labs today to see how it was going putting back in a medication at half dose. I had a box of things for the preschool, and my badge to turn in. I needed to empty my locker.
I nearly cried.
Yes, I want to be with Bob, but I miss my kids and coworkers.
Wish us luck.
I almost have the mess cleaned up from last night.
Bob is asleep now, so I cannot work on it.
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16 responses
@MarieCoyle (57384)
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8 Apr
Oh, Heather. I'm sorry you and Bob are going through this. Yes, you have to be with Bob now. I know the school and the kids will really miss you, your loving ways, and your wonderful heart. I will keep you in my prayers. 
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
Thank you. It is going to be a good change for me as well. Every time I have ever quit a job I have been sad, and tearful. I would also be sad if something happened to Bob while I was not at home.
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@MarieCoyle (57384)
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17 Apr
@GardenGerty
Yes, it's important to have time with him now. I am sure he feels that your presence every day is wonderful.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
Te everything there is a season. More changes are happening besides me leaving. It will be okay.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
This is a week later and he is doing much better. Much fewer confused episodes. Hardly any at all. I told my daughter that this was God's way of giving me a nudge.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54623)
• United States
16 Apr
@GardenGerty I am happy to hear that he is better.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
Thanks so much. It means a lot. I know the kids will miss me, and later on I may find something to do as a volunteer, but today the sunshine is calling me.
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@rakski (152178)
• Philippines
17 Apr
@GardenGerty then for now, sunshine it is.
Take it one day at a time
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@LindaOHio (219187)
• United States
9 Apr
Sending a prayer and some luck. Bob needs you. I know you will miss everyone. Maybe you can visit some time. You will enjoy spending time with your hubby, I'm sure.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
He is looking forward to feeling better so we can go do some fun stuff.
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@valherma00 (2617)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
10 Apr
this was a huge sacrifice but, i feel, you know where you stand for.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
I just wish I could be two people at once.
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@snowy22315 (206276)
• United States
8 Apr
Maybe you could visit or go in to volunteer for special projects or something like that. That way you can still be a part of it..
. I know you will miss it..but Bob needs a caretaker I think.
. I know you will miss it..but Bob needs a caretaker I think.2 people like this
@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
Just making sure he eats and has some interesting things to do is really helping him right now. I may see if I can do some local volunteer work at the library or at church.
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@snowy22315 (206276)
• United States
16 Apr
@GardenGerty That might be nice to get you off the reservation for awhile.
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@toniganzon (76473)
• Philippines
9 Apr
I'm so sorry you have to stop working. Bob needs you.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
He does, and I need him. I will be okay without work, it was just very interesting.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
Actually I think it will and I think I will feel better. This is just a hard threshold to get over.
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@Juliaacv (55580)
• Canada
8 Apr
It is too bad that as you are so happy with your work atmosphere, you need to take the time to help Bob.
Of course Bob isn't willing his health issues, and you know that, but he is blessed to have you.
My sister-in-law had to take the last year of her working career off from work as a leave.
Her husband had some major strokes, and she got a bit of sick time for a couple of months, but then finally she approached her doctor to give her a long term leave, which carried her until she would have retired.
I know that you will never regret this decision, and you will always be able to go back and volunteer for a respite care type of a day for yourself.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
After a few more appointments I think we will see clearer direction. There are plenty of fun and restful things I can do here. We are hoping not to have any more major health issues. I was out of sick time and still needing to take off. With the paperwork we are doing we now know I will replace my school income as a care giver for Bob paid by Veteran's Administration. He may also get some compensation for his hearing loss. This is only eight or ten days later and he seems to be doing better already.
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@DaddyEvil (172383)
• United States
9 Apr
Oh, my! Yeah, Bob comes first. You know he doesn't understand what's happening. He'd never take you away from the kids on purpose.
Keeping you both in my thoughts.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
Thanks. No, it was not on purpose, but you know, it is likely time for my own well being. Bob always encouraged me to work as he said I was good for them. We think things are actually going to be just fine.
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@DaddyEvil (172383)
• United States
16 Apr
@GardenGerty You're very welcome. I wondered how much longer you'd work before finding some way to make up the money and stay home. In my opinion, you worked too long. You should have time to rest and relax now.
I'm glad things will be fine.
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@wolfgirl569 (133160)
• Marion, Ohio
8 Apr
So sorry. I will be thinking of you both. I know you will really miss work.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
I will miss being at the school but now I have no excuse not to enjoy my home life.
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@RasmaSandra (96533)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Apr
Blessings to you both and I do wish you the best of luck, I hope all will go well for you both.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
I believe things will go well, and we will have some more good times in the future. Going out to work has its rewards, but also its stresses, so this should be good for me.
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@DianneN (253946)
• United States
8 Apr
I’m so very sorry that you and Bob are in this predicament.
Of course Bob comes first. Perhaps you can say your goodbyes, clean out your locker, and hand in everything you need to do another day. I’m sure you’ll be terribly missed by everyone, but you can always pop in to say hello when you can.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
It did not take long to do the drop off and clean my locker out. I had minimal stuff in it. Now I am busy here at home, and Bob seems to be improving every day since the most recent hospital visit. Life was getting boring for him at home all the time.
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@DianneN (253946)
• United States
16 Apr
@GardenGerty So you’re officially retired! You’ll be busier than ever, and I am so glad that Bob is improving. I don’t blame him, and soon you’ll both be going out on little outings. Such good news!
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
I will get to follow some of my other interests for now, and it will be good. It is good to see him perking up after that last hospital trip.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
16 Apr
As we are building his strength and a routine at home Bob is doing much better. He does really like having me here, even if he is asleep or reading.
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@JudyEv (378121)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@GardenGerty I can totally understand that. I'm sure it's a bit lonely and quiet all day on your own even if you spend much of it sleeping.
