Do you find yourself making unwise life choices?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
October 16, 2007 8:53am CST
Have you ever heard the phrase "cut off your nose to spite your face"? I am so good at that it's not funny. I am great for doing something that I know is not good for me and paying for it later.
I'm not just talking about smoking, drinking or over eating but other things in life that you know will end up making you sad or are just not good for you.
Anyone who knows me here is probably wondering what the hell I'm going to do today...lol....and they would be right. I'm not going to talk about it now but I am going to be doing something that will probably hurt me in the end but I want this very badly. As the time grows close I'm worrying that it won't happen and that would be for the best but...oh well, I will see.
Do you ever make bad decisions and then have to live with the outcome? It's almost part of my nature...are you anything like me? How do you deal with it later?
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17 responses
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
17 Oct 07
yeah i totally can relate to you. sometimes i feel like i make so many bad/wrong decisions and choices, which made me regret later on. i hate myself! :P ..i'd like to believe that everything happens for a reason but sometimes it's hard. but yeah, i guess if you make the wrong decision you would have to live with it and try to make the best out of the situation. life is full of regrets at times. take care and hope all is well with you! .
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@quanto50 (140)
• Sweden
17 Oct 07
You are talking about the feature and the nature of human beings actualy.. trial..failure stuff.
Actually this thing is the staircase to the succes.. you have to fail and be so many times dissatisfied so that you could act and respond to the same situation differently.. you would fail and then you won't next time sicne you have learned what to do right to achieve the previously failed stuff.
For example I am never content or satisfied with what I have done so far and really confused about what I am going to do. We'd better stop being nervous and start doing something we think we could do.Just act and then you would realize whether it is viable or not.Without acting or doing one specific stuff it is hard to comment on that even other people tell you it could not work for you, you are not them , you are you.
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@pbarjatiya (163)
• India
17 Oct 07
yes at times i find that my decision to help ppl around go wrong. This is ot because helping is not good but when i need help or ppl to understand me they even dont care to look at me.But still when they are in need again i go to them for help.I am feeling sick of my this problem but cant help it. hope someday the will change.Also many decision regarding the things I purchase get wrong at times as I get better alternative soon for it but since I have purchased that item I go helpless over the better one.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
16 Oct 07
Well at least we an take comfort in knowing we aren't alone in this! The thing is when I try to make a really good choice it always backfires and the outcome is worse than the worst thing that could have come from the bad choice. So I rationalize it and say that bad choices are actually better for me.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
17 Oct 07
yes, we are definitely not alone!!! I feel the same way as you do....when I think I've made a good choice I'm always wrong.
@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
16 Oct 07
All I can say, ctry, is, "Welcome to the club." My habit of making these kinds of choices has seriously affected my life, yet I find it hard, if not impossible to change. It's like you can see the handwriting on the wall but you still choose to ignore it even when it will turn out badly. There are many ways in which you can be self-destructive, and I would say that we fit into one of those categories. I have been a smoker for more than two thirds of my life. I know that I am playing Russian Roulette with my life, but I am powerless to stop. I also know that I really need to lose weight but I don't think I will change. I have become set in my ways enough to know that barring a miracle, I will continue doing the same things in the same way. I wish I had an answer for you but I don't.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
17 Oct 07
lol....powerless is soooo the right word. I know there's no miracle happening in my life that's for sure!
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
17 Oct 07
Hi ctrymuziklvr! Gosh, now I know I am not really alone. haha..Just jokin! I did make unwise life choices and still making many more, I guess, even though at the back of my head, someone is whispering "Don't do it", I will still be stubborn in doing it anyway. Why? Because I believe that there is always this hope inside me that things will turn out just fine even though there are so many signals that it is not. And I guess, a part of me is saying that no one can really be sure of what things may come or happen. And if I am proven wrong, which mostly likely will, I will just cry and stand up again and make that failure or hurt be my strength to hope and try again. For me, I always believe that "Everything is a risk...what if it does not work out? Aah, but what if it does?" Just my thoughts, my friend. Take care and have a nice day.
@CarlHalling (3617)
• United Kingdom
17 Oct 07
I know all about these. I made so many poor life choices when younger it makes me wonder what was going through my head at the time. I have to put them to the back of my mind or they will depress me terribly.
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@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Wow, I wish I had some better answers about how to deal with the consequences... I know that we all make these mistakes that we'll regret--what's even worse are the ones we tend to make when we're young that we KNOW we'll regret later... Ultimately, I think all we can do is try to clean up the mess we made, and try not to make it again while/by focusing on more productive activities/thought/goals, etc...
dr...
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I have certainly made a few and feel I have learned from them. These choices have made me wiser. I'm able to deal with the small problems that I face each day by looking at all sides of the issue before making a decision. My life has certainly been easier over 40, as I don't let everything bother me and have learned to do my best and not beat myself up over mistakes.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I decide to things that will be comfortable for me to do, not what I am suppose to do.So for people outside they may think that I am not using my time wisely or I should be in a higher position at work, etc.I don't care because I am comfortable with what I am doing.
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@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
18 Oct 07
My friend, you sound like you were describing ME!! Yes, I am forever saying or doing something that I know I will regret. My mouth gets me into more trouble than I can handle at times. How do I deal with it? Well, just the very best I can, I try saying I am sorry, I try to make up for it, I try to learn my lesson, but I usually don't, I'll mess up again tomorrow :) I think it is just what makes us UNIQUE!! For some reason, your discussion has made me smile and not feel so alone anymore :) Have a great week!!
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
16 Oct 07
Gee, I thought I was the only person in the world like this - yes, I am very much like you and please don't take this the wrong way but I wish I was different :) How do I deal with it? I just keep plugging away :(
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
16 Oct 07
I wish I were different too. They keep saying someday I will learn but until then....this is the way I am. I'm the only one who has to deal with the consequences right?
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
24 Oct 07
You know what, as I look back, I do realize, I have made some wrong choices,and I am ready to take full responsiblity for that!
And when it starts getting to me, I just listen to "the Dance", by Garth Brooks, and it makes the right choices that I have made feel so good!
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
16 Oct 07
If someone answer No to this, they're lying. Hands down straight up lies.
As far as making decisions that are bad and have to live with the outcome, if you made a bad decision the only way you won't live with the outcome was if the decision was to kill yourself.
I bet at least half of the people who kill someone, wish they hadn't seconds later. Wish they hadn't made that stupid decision. The ones who run the red light and smash into another car, wish they'd stopped at the light. The ones who got that speeding ticket, wished they'd been going just 5 miles slower. and I could go on.
It's HUMAN nature. not just yours :)
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@happythoughts (4109)
• United States
16 Oct 07
Every year we set a goal to get out of debt and every year we dont do it. We have a hard time with wants and needs because sometimes they all seem like needs. I hope that someday we will be smart enough to stay on top of it all! I would love to have all that extra money we are spending on our extra bills.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
16 Oct 07
My choice of husband, very good. My choice of pet, very good. My friends, very good choices. My decisions at work, not very good. I don't know why. I'm intelligent enough, I guess I just get so tired.
I've had about 30 different jobs. In my area, there aren't very many jobs and many of the jobs went to foreign countries. So I'm running out of jobs. Now I only have a part-time job and I can only pay part of my bills.
I'm trying to find another part-time job or a good full-time one. But I've "cut my nose off to spite my face" too many times. Take care
@Vieiragirl (109)
• United States
16 Oct 07
I think everyone has those moments when they do things they shouldnt do. I think eventually people learn their lesson and become better for it. It takes time and something really bad to happen usually. Just make sure you dont regret who you are in the end. You only have one life and you using it now.
