personal problems at mylot

Philippines
May 5, 2008 2:44pm CST
i just noticed that a lot of people here, post their personal problems trying to ask for advice now, the question is, do you really get your personal problems solved by posting it here and getting the advise of a mylotter you never know?
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@sisterjinx (1136)
• United States
5 May 08
I don't think anyone gets their personal problems solved by anyone but themselves. However I do think that useful advise can be obtained by talking with others who have had similar experiences. Asking about something personal at mylot might put you in contact with someone who has been in your position or has a different point of view than what you have previously considered.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
i also believe that no one can solve your problems but you. i also agree that its good to seek for advice. but dont you feel awkward posting your problems here. anyway, have you tried posting one of your problems here?
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
9 May 08
I strongly agree with you. Aside from the fact that you get lost of choices to choose from, I guess, the very fact that your problem has been unloaded through writing can be of great help to the person in the process. :)
• Philippines
25 May 08
thank you for the response,, it really helps writing your problems,,
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
6 May 08
the mere fact that they have written it down and psychologically, they know somone is reading it, that is already a big help. a response from the members are secondary, at least it would support what they are thinking of or heed the advise. isn't it if we have a problem, all we need is a lending ear, we really do not wnt them to talk. putting it in writing is an alternative therapy to solve ones problem because it gives us a brighter perspective, it is like dumping garbage or cleaning up your PC file.
• Philippines
7 May 08
thank you for the response, you do helped me now in cleaning up my pc. haha
• Philippines
7 May 08
@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
5 May 08
Honestly, yes. I have posted one discussion here about my situation and a lot of people responded on it... It really helps me a lot to understand the situation I got into. You will never believe that there are lots of people here that are really really good and sincere in giving advices to others. Thanks guys! Cheers!
• Philippines
7 May 08
this is a follow up question, didnt you feel, uncomfortable, telling people whom you dont know, your problems?
• Philippines
8 May 08
Well, there are some problems that I keep in myself and within my family/friends but if you look on my discussions, my problems there are somewhat okay to be told to the people in seeking advices. Cheers!
@athinapie (1152)
• Philippines
25 May 08
There are times I guess that they can get help here in mylot by posting their personal problems. What's good about mylot is that there are a lot of people here with different backgrounds and have different ideas. So that helps when dealing with problems.
• Philippines
25 May 08
thats true, mylot is a big community of great people, we can always find people who can help us or just show us their sincere sympathy that could help a lot thank you for the response
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@Zelmarq (11503)
• Cebu City, Philippines
6 May 08
Well they always have the option to do so and of course we have opinions on issues and we could help each other by encouraging one another with wise words and sharing words of encouragement.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
thank you for the assurance
@subha12 (18453)
• India
6 May 08
i have posted many time smy personal problems here. I must admit that all these times i have got very helpful responses. may be some got solved in other ways as they were dependent on other factors to be solved, but i am satisfied with mylot friends.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
thank you. another person assured me that mylot really helps.
• United States
6 May 08
I don't think your problems are solved but you get to read different points of view and that may help you solve the problem.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
thank you for the response, i do agree in that, only you can solve your problems, because thats all yours
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
6 May 08
Well basically when it comes down to it only you can solve your own problems, but I think a lot of people post their problems just to get some feedback, maybe even encouragement. Maybe because of the anonymity here, people feel they can describe their problems better without someone judging them, then say discussing it with friends or family who might be more criticizing--also, so many of us may have had identical problems that many of us can understand and be sympathetic
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• Philippines
7 May 08
thats good! telling your problems, getting advise and sympathy without judgment. i really realize now that mylot can reLLy help. thank you., and to other mylotters who also responded here.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
6 May 08
i am a mylot member for a year or more and i already tried asking other mylotters of their views regarding some situations or issues i had. i was really surprise how people here will give their sights and views about my problem. ofcourse on my part i will still weight all of this for the final decission is always from yourself. try it. see it for yourself.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
yes, i do want to try it, thats why i started this discussion, just to assure myself of how mylotters reacts in those kinds of discussions thank you for the response
@GreenMoo (11842)
5 May 08
I'm not really one for sharing my personal problems with *anyone*, let alone the world on the net. However, I do try and give advice if I think that I can and someone is asking for it. I'm not sure if anyone's problems can be solved here on MyLot as the discussion is not normally in depth enough, but there are all sorts of different people with all sorts of different experiences so I expect that by putting your problem in the public domain you may get all sorts of solutions that you'd not thought of. And of course, one of them might be the right one for you. Sometimes, just hearing that what your going through is normal, or that you aren't alone is enough to make you feel much, much better. Even the act of writing a problem down can help start the 'solving' process as you get it out in the open and have to think about it logically to write it down.
• Philippines
7 May 08
im also like you, i dont like do let anyone know about my problems but what you said is also true that a lot of people of different point of views here that we can consult.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
5 May 08
Well some people ask for advice, the most notable being computer advice. Most important, they do get some advice and participation... I should know. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1453269.aspx - Help I have a virus http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1350631.aspx - Computer Help http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1453206.aspx - Get dyes out of shirts http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1455881.aspx - I need a vacation, HELP! http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1368755.aspx - Stepfather wants a computer http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1374584.aspx - Article Needs Help http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1376449.aspx - Struggling writer’s feedback Only rarely do I post problems, but there have been those that did help me.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
just like the follow up question i asked jesbellaine didnt you feel uncomfortable, telling others pewople, your problems?
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
5 May 08
I think it is possible. The people who post on Mylot are of all ages and many may have been through the situation you are currently facing. Asking them to share their advice and knowledge may help shed some light on the problems you are facing. Also many times when faced with a particular situation, you can't truly see it the way it is because you are so close to it. Hearing it explained from an outsiders point of view will allow you to see it differently and possibly help you make a different decision.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
i think thats also good to view your problems at another person's point of view. thank you for the response.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
5 May 08
Hy mhayelynna. I never post my personal problems here, maybe someday I will do that. Sometimes people have problems and don't have anyone to ask for help or can't tell about this with a close person. It happen many times in life. Sometimes is too hard to tell about something with a close person an so easy to tell about with an unknown person. It is the same with the call help. Many times it don't solve the problems but people feel that someone care about him/her and feel good and it makes, many times, they can solve their problems by theirself. In ours days all of us feel loneliness because the modern life don't have time to care about the others. It is why most of the people come to mylot lol.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
thank you for the response. its very well said. like you i never did post my problems here. and i cant say if i could post here in the near future, because i dont feel comfortable telling it to people whom i dont know. maybe the two of us just have different preference in life.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
5 May 08
I think no one is really looking for a solution...but good advice and there is alot of it on mylot. When you throw out your problem you get fresh ideas because people that aren't in it sometimes see things differently.
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• Philippines
7 May 08
yes, there's alot of ideas here in mylot. but isnt it awkward letting other people whom you dont know will know your personal problems?
@Jemina (5783)
9 May 08
Well I think it's more on the earning side why people post their problems here. Sometimes you do get good answers because a lot of mylot users are highly intellectual people. You just have to find them and as you continually interact with each other you will find out who they are.
• Philippines
20 May 08
tita,, thanks for the response po
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@Jemina (5783)
20 May 08
You are very much welcome. By the way, you're doing a good job. Keep it up!
• Philippines
25 May 08
hek hek bumaba n nga star q eh,,
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
6 May 08
its not all about solving it by someone giving you an advice. It's also thinking of it and puting it on paper (monitor) that gives another dimention and often that is what we need. But yes I find that I do get great advice and solutions and different opinions and experience does help me solve a problem. Plus I dont have to tell anyione I know personaly and think about what they will think of me.
• Philippines
7 May 08
thank you for the response. you open my mind to the physiology behind those mylotters who seek for advise.
• Australia
7 May 08
I am one of them and I must say it has helped me in 99% of the cases and its not neceserily 1 answer is the wholo group of answers and the fact that I open my soul an re read it after.
• Philippines
25 May 08
thank you,, very well said,,
@drannhh (15240)
• United States
20 May 08
Do you know, I rather wonder if most of those are real or just made up, because it is hard for me to imagine people laying their whole souls out on the table like that. It does make interesting reading sometimes, though, although at other times I just wince and think "Egad, don't these people know that they are putting themselves at risk!"
• Philippines
25 May 08
i think mylot is a very honest community, i dont think there are stuffs that are just made up, here, and maybe they have the guts to put themselves into what you call risk, is because here no one knows anyone of us personally, maybe our referrals knew us personally, but a lot of people here dont know us,, anyways, thank you for the response have a nice day
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@drannhh (15240)
• United States
25 May 08
Just as a footnote, though, the one thing many people here do not seem to realize is that ANYONE can read myLot discussions--they don't have to be myLot members. These discussions come up from a search in any search engine worldwide. I have seen people put their phone numbers, e-mail addresses, even the street they live on here on myLot, and there is a good reason why that is against the myLot guidelines. I agree that most of the people here are honest, but it only takes one heinous criminal to destroy somebody's life. I just wish that some of my friends here would be a bit more careful.
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@dpk262006 (56480)
• Delhi, India
8 May 08
I would say that it does help, when one posts his/her personal problem. There are so many members, who come out with their sincere and genuine advice on the issue being discussed, I hope, that really helps the host of the discussions in solving out a problem. When we post any of our problem, everyone looks at it, with a different angle and submits his/her opinion based on his/her experience, so in a way, it really becomes useful to get the advice of different people. Whenever, I have posted any discussion, related to any of my problems, I did get some outstanding advice and responses and I did get the benefit of advice of my friends.
• Philippines
8 May 08
here in mylot we could always find another's point of view in every situation, that may help us in facing and solving our problems. thanks for the response
@dpk262006 (56480)
• Delhi, India
9 May 08
I agree with your views.
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
7 May 08
i have given out lots of advice for fun, whether here, yahoo or style.com, and many people liked my advice and told me it helped them. and i have noticed by reading other people's advice on different sites, that many people give good advice, better advice than you would get from someone you know. so i have noticed that strangers on the internet seem to help one another better than people you know in real life...
• Philippines
8 May 08
i think people here on the net help better because they dont know the person personally too. they will not judge them and only purity will be in their advises. well, thank you very much for the response
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
9 May 08
i think i am aware of what kind of people i am chatting with on the internet...i have a strong intuitive sense...that is why i would never want to meet any in real life or date any, but i dont mind chatting with these strangers on the net.
• Australia
20 May 08
I have posted lots of questions of here because I have found that it is such a huge community that chances are someone will have either been in your position or knows your answer,its much better that you dont know any of these people personally.I have found the mylot community to be very supportive and helpful in most situations and have no problems posting personal questions or issues ,actually its the first place I go.
• Philippines
25 May 08
mylot is really a supportive community you proved it you are the 41st to support me in this discussion of mine thank you