Can You Live In a House, Where Your Backyard is a Cemetery?

@eihdra (3115)
Philippines
July 20, 2008 11:59am CST
Let's pretend that you have inherited a million dollar ancestral house... It's really grand and takes your breath away when you first saw it...It sits on high grounds, so you think that the views surrounding the mansion would also be spectacular.. But when you went outside in the backyard, It does have a view downhill... ........a century old cemetery.... the mansion is all yours and could do whatever you want..... So, what would you do? Stay there and have a grand life,regardless of the kinda horrifying view? Or you would sell it and live some place, where it does actually have a scenic view?
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@zeloguy (4911)
• United States
20 Jul 08
[i]A cemetary can be seen as many things... many people see it as being scary and other see it as sacred ground that deserves respect. To say it is a horrifying view is an opinion I don't necessarily share... the cemetary could be something that has some meaning or significance and with a big mansion like that... it probably does. As for the question I would almost certainly stay unless it was like a public cemetary with thousands of people buried there with no history surrounding who is buried there.[/i] Thanks Zelo
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
hi..i appreciate your view and true that a cemetery is a sacred ground because loved ones are buried there..And even in the beyond our loved ones still have to be respected...thanks...
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@laglen (19759)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I would stay, atleast your neighbors are quiet!
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
reasonable enough to stay..thanks...
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
20 Jul 08
High grounds, surrounding view specacular and only the downhill having a cemetry , I would never sell it and stay very comfortable there. My previous residence, for where I stayed for over 20 years had a cemetery at a distance of 150 feet which was the view I had from the 1st floor. It gave the creeps initially when i was a kid, but I got used to it and would not mind it even now.
@capirani (2733)
• United States
11 Aug 08
I am happy for the upbringing I had in that I was raised by older family members while my mother worked. These were my grandparent's generation and they would go visit the graves of our ancestors regulary and take me along. I spent lots of time in the cemetaries as a child. Later, when I was old enough to go bike riding with friends, we would go ride through the local cemetary because it was fun to ride through the curvey pathways. I always enjoyed looking at all the various styles of headstones. When I was a small child I would climb on some of them...but my older family members always made me get down. I would pretend the round cylindrical ones were horses. One area cemetary used to have a big pond with a beautiful weeping willow tree beside it. The pond is filled in now to make more space for graves. But it was a very quiet and peaceful place to visit to just relax and de-stress.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
hi, capirani..We have those kind of cemetaries that you described and my kids loves to play in the grass..But those kind only came up in the late 80's and are located near villages here...But there are many cemeteries here which are not like that..The graves are like small apartment types piled up one after the other. Some have open graves with bones peaking out because some robbers opened it or some peasants use it as their homes...
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
wow! you're so brave..me I'm I would really be scared and would not even go out to play....thanks..
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I would probably stay there. I have never seen a horrifying cemetery. All the ones I've seen are well kept and done nicely. Plus you can put up a retaining wall or just about any kind of fence or wall to block out the view if it bothers you that much.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
21 Jul 08
cemeteries here looks haunting..well, not all of them..the new ones are well maintained and looks like a garden, only not filled with flowers but with niches and tombstones..they make it so peaceful, some people even brings picnic baskets and blankets..But the old ones here are a little scarier most specially at night..You could see the old crypts and crosses.
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
11 Aug 08
Yes is sad how in some places the tombstones are taken care of and are falling over. I like to roam through the old old cemetaries. The craftmanship that went into some of the head stones is cool.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
11 Aug 08
at least in your country, they really look gothic and peaceful...Here, apart from the broken tombstones, you will see scattered bones....
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@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
20 Jul 08
Well if I was absolutely in love with the place, id probably keep the mansion and avoid looking at the cemetay at night so I woldnt feak my self out. if I wasnt IN LOVE with the mansion Id probably sell it and either buy a new house with a better view or custom build one to my specifications.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
hi...thanks for dropping by..
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@snakequeen (1299)
• India
20 Jul 08
Wow! A million dollar ancestral house! What i am going to do, living in fear every minute? Better I would sell it for a few dollars less, and buy one neat, decent, compact house in a good locality, where i can live peacefully. House is meant for peaceful living, not fearful living!
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
hey snakee, i would probably do that too..I don't wanna live in fear always...thanks...
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@Ithink (9980)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I would so keep the house and live there! I have never been scared of a cemetary and cant imagine starting now. I find them facinating and seeing that this is an ancestral house I would think that there should be some neat history to be had.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
thanks and welcome to Mylot too...
• United States
20 Jul 08
I would stay there if it was the kind of ancestral house you are talking about. I don't think of cemetaries as horrifying. The way I look at a cemetary is there is a lot of history in there. Think about the lives of the people that are buried there. Knowing me I would go and look on the tombstone to see how far back the graves go. I also would probably look up some of the names on the tombstones and see if they have ancestors that are still around. I think it would be fascinating to live in a place like that and have access to all that history that is involved in the graves.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
If I am not scared of old cemeteries, I would probably do the same thing. I love reading about histories and watching history channel..thanks...
@Galena (9110)
20 Jul 08
it really wouldn't bother me. very often they're quite beautiful and peaceful. I'd rather that than a playground.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
does that mean, you don't want a playground because kids are noisily playing? Just asking
@jephone (118)
• Canada
20 Jul 08
I would sell it and live some place. I would be afraid to live there. I could have nightmare every night if I live there.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
thanks, jephone...
@Amanda81587 (3042)
• United States
20 Jul 08
Ahhhhhh Absolutly not! I would be to frightened at every little sound!
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
thanks, amanda
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• United States
22 Jul 08
Haha your welcome!
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
20 Jul 08
[b]Well...can you take the cemetery away please? I just want the million dollar ancestral house not the frightening view of the cemetery. Ewww, I will sell it. But maybe if somebody would rent it for the shooting of a horror movie I might retain it. I could be an extra in the movie. And my role is the mistress of the house.[/b]
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
thanks....
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• United States
20 Jul 08
It would not bug me but I am werd that why.It mit get a little creepy sometimes but I would give up a good house for that.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
hey, thanks for posting and welcome to Mylot!!
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• United States
25 Jul 08
thanks
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• United States
20 Jul 08
I would love to live that close to a cemetary, especially a centuries old one. There is a lot of history there to learn. I think cemetaries and grave yards are peaceful and I enjoy visiting them.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
you are so brave...thanks and welcome to Mylot!!
• Canada
20 Jul 08
I don't hink I would have a problem with it. It's just another place i the world. Anything's better than the apartmet where I'm living right now. Want to talk aout deah? Had it not been for my quick actions, my upstairs neighbour would have killed one of my next door neighbours. I don't think liing near a cemetary would sare me. The people in there aren't going to get any deader.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
26 Jul 08
thanks, you made me smile..
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
20 Jul 08
I could not, could not, could not live with a cemetery in my backyard. The view might be spectacular but the nightmares would not be worth it. Especially given my writer's imagination. Too bad I don't write ghost stories. I would sell the house and move to either a big city or a small, progressive town with an airport that allows me access to the rest of the world.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
thanks...
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
21 Jul 08
Hi eihdra, I once lived in a house like this and it didn't bother either me or my wife. We eventually moved because my work took me elsewhere, but we were happy living there. I also have a brother-in-law who lives in a similar situation and doesn't have a problem with it. I know others who wouldn't live in such a spot for any amount of money. Blessings.
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@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
you guys were so brave!! wish I am too..thanks...
@newtondak (3946)
• United States
20 Jul 08
It would for me depend on how strong of feelings I had for those particular ancestors and if the cemetery was one that included graves of my ancestors. If I found that the sight of the cemetery bothered me, I would pursue either building or growing something that might block at least some of the view.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
that's a nice idea too...grow some vines, so they will cover the sight..thanks..
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Jul 08
eihdra yes if the house is allthat wondervul and the view aroung it is all that great. You can build a high stone wall to hide the century old cemetery from your view, and go on and enjoy the house as you think its really grand and its yours so why'not just live there and enjoy it. whats not to like?
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
22 Jul 08
good point, hatley..thanks...
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
21 Jul 08
my relatives house is just beside in cementery and she said its nothing to scar about except the smell of the candles.some said living near the church is more scary than the cementery.
@eihdra (3115)
• Philippines
14 Sep 08
why do they say that living near a church is more scary than near a cemetery..? When I smell candle and nobody lit one, I would be scared too...thanks...
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
14 Sep 08
some said who are living near church, during the night sounds awful many are crying compare to the one near cementery coz chruch thats where we go to ask forgiveness to God.