Help me solve a debate

United States
November 3, 2008 8:17am CST
My oldest son is very athletic, and is very good at any sport he's ever tried. I've been told since the time he was 4 years old that he has a good shot at having a future in sports, which of course is his dream at the moment. I know it seems like a long shot for most people, but his father was a professional athlete, and my son inherited his father's athleticism. Well right now my son's dream is to be a football player. Unfortunatly he's never been on an organized football team. I was against it when he was younger. A lot of people say he'd be a perfect wide reciever. His main sports have always been baseball and soccer. He's an excellent soccer player, others tell me all the time that he has a future in soccer if he wants it. He's actually been approached by a league full of players 1-2 years older than him, they want him to play on this league. Well soccer isn't a really big sport here in the US, but football is. I think if he played football in high school he'd have a good shot at getting a scholarship to college, then the opportunity to be drafted out of college. But I'm not sure how soccer works around here. I'm not sure if he'd go to college for that, and be drafted by a good team, considering I'm not even sure if the US has soccer teams, lol. So I just don't know what to do. Should I keep him in soccer knowing he's good at it, but unsure of what his future holds in that sport, or do I let him try football, knowing he has a shot at a future, but unsure of what his skills are in that sport? What would you do?
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23 responses
• Philippines
3 Nov 08
If your intention is his educational benefits from his sports, you can call the scholarship program in different schools what are they offering before you decide what sports will your child be involved. It must be that he has a skill about it, his liking and can avail educational scholarship.
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• United States
3 Nov 08
Actually my intentions go beyond his education into his career. I need to know which sport he has an actual shot at a career in. I'm not sure if he has a future in soccer in this country.
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@samijo719 (1054)
• United States
3 Nov 08
I think really you should let your son decide as it's him who will be playing the sport. Maybe next year or this year(if it isn't too late) let him try football for a season since he'd like to try it. If he's not good or doesn't enjoy it he could always go back to soccer, no harm no foul. If he isn't in high school yet he still has time to figure out which one he'd like to persue. I'd give him the option to play football for a season to try it and if it doesn't work out let him go bac kto soccer. But ultimatly he should be the one to decide.
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@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
3 Nov 08
The first thing you want to remember is that it is his life, so let him do what will make him happy. If he wants to try football, by all means, encourage him. I know a lot of colleges give scholarships for football. My son didn't play football until he was in 8th grade. He ended up getting MVP that first year and trophys every year since. He was a natural! That could happen with your son too. If he doesn't try, he may regret it the rest of his life.
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@relundad (2311)
• United States
3 Nov 08
How old is he now?
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@redkathy (3375)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Well, my baby 300lb cousin played pro ball for the Buffalo Bills. He was the starting center. My youngest was a really good defensive football player but didn't have size. My cousin told me one time when we were talking about my son and his love of the game that we should have a back up plan, he always did. It took him a while to get to be a pro and a starting player. Well, he was right. By the time my son was a sophomore, all the kids were huge. His interests had changed as well, even thought he loved to play. He got a back injury during spring training. That is when he chose not to play anymore. We supported that decision and he is now in college studying photography.... quite different from sports huh
@redkathy (3375)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Only half the response posted???? If I were you I would let him continue with the soccer, he likes it and is good at it. That will give him great confidence. Most times professional sports are very hard to get into, as you probably know. My cousin was injured playing ball. He has a degree, retired from a short career and is now teaching and coaching in a private elementary school. Just thought I would share some real life experiences to help you decide my friend.
• United States
3 Nov 08
He really wants to try football, so we're going to give it a shot for 1 season and see where it goes from there. His future will be sports of some sort, whether it be coaching, playing, or even being a school gym teacher. He's not acedemically inclined, his main focus in life is sports. I've tried my hardest to teach him that his grades must come first, but he never listens.
@redkathy (3375)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Boys usually don't listen! At least mine didn't. They are good men, made their own choices in life. They do have the important qualities like honesty, honor, respect, and kindness. Really, I couldn't ask for more. All we can do as parents is try to guide them the best we know how.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
3 Nov 08
He's still young and isn't thinking about his future, or atleast may not have the full concept yet. I'd let him do what he wants to do and let him have fun until high school when he understands it more. I'm sure he'll have a great career either way if he's as good as people say. He has to enjoy it to be really good at it. I'd let him do what he loves the most.
• United States
3 Nov 08
I was thinking about that. Like next year he'll do modified sports through school, so I figure he can play football if he really wants, so I can get an idea of whether or not he's any good at it. If he's not so hot and not showing potential we can go back to soccer, but at least we should try football first before we rule it out... who knows, he could be awesome.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
3 Nov 08
That sounds good, just don't push him one way or the other. He should do what he wants with your support. I'd tell him how I feel but make sure he knows it's his decision. good luck.
@camomom (7536)
• United States
11 Nov 08
Thanks for best response
@Barb42 (4217)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Only you can decide that, Kats. But, I will tell you about some experience my daughter and her sons have had. Her oldest son was the best guarterback that came through his school in years. He held that position in the 7th & 8th grade and they only lost one game, which really was taken from them by the referee. Then he got to the 9th grade. The Jr High coaches thought he would go on and hold that position in HS. Well, the HS coach had other ideas. "HIS MAN" got the position - money talks, and my daughter didn't have a husband to stand up to them. Well, the put him as kicker, and he excelled as kicker, punter (all the kicking jobs in football) and QB part-time. He was #1 in the region and #2 in the state. We thought this really mesnt a great scholarship. But the coach has to try and get him a scholarship. This coach did absolutely nothing! He was being looked at and promised the kicker job at the college he wanted to attend,but that coach was fired and the new coach took none of the recruits that the other coach did. So ended his football career. By the way, he was a GREAT kicker on the soccer team,but gave that up for football. That's how he learned to kick so good. But, on the other hand, the coach of the Premier traveling team that her youngest son is on played for a college team and has played on the national team. So you never know where soccer can take you. I'd say keep him in soccer, but he may change his mind as he gets older. We wish our older grandson had stayed with soccer as well as play football, but he didn't.
• United States
3 Nov 08
It's hard to do both sports at once because they run the same season, which is why I need to decide which one he's going to do. Right now the coaches and everyone else who have seen him play soccer are pressuring us to keep him in soccer, but he really wants to try football, and I think he has a better shot at a future with football. This is why I'm so torn as to what sport to choose. He can't possibly do both.
@Barb42 (4217)
• United States
3 Nov 08
In our area, Premier and City League play all seasons in soccer. Football is only played in the fall. But, the school soccer is only played in the Spring. So that gives athletes the ability to play all sports. It's football, basketball,then soccer. My daughter's younger son is playing basketball, as did his oldest brother, and it starts on Thursday. Then he will play either HS soccer or Premier soccer in the Spring. I figure it will be Premier unless they need a goalie in HS. Usually an older kid is goalie for the HS, but her son is a large boy for almost 13. In fact, he's larger and taller than his 15 year old brother.
• United States
3 Nov 08
Ah, see here soccer and football are in the fall, basketball in the winter, and baseball in the spring. I've just signed them up for basketball which will start next month. Baseball usually starts around May. I'm not sure how it will work in school though, as he'll be playing through school next fall when he enters 7th grade.
@kedves (728)
3 Nov 08
i htin firstly let your son decide. if its a sport he truly loves i am sure he knows the teams and he will know the pitfalls. in Europe and most other continents football (soccer to you) is one of th biggest if not the biggest sport and there are many many teams who would be willing to support a youngster and help him train as well as advise on schooling. we have here in our country, England, one of the best football leagues in the world and many american players have come here together with other nationalities and also after a career is finished there are opportunities to become a coach or manager or even a tv pundit :) so for me I would encourage your son to play football (soccer) and to forget american football as it is more wide spread and he will be able to ply his trade in any other country.
• United States
3 Nov 08
Americans have a better shot at becoming football players because soccer isn't really as big of a deal here.
@kedves (728)
4 Nov 08
the best thing about football is that you can always find a niche for yourself no matter what level. :)
@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Nov 08
Personally, I think your son should play the sports that make him most happy. The chances of becoming a professional athlete in any sport are extremely small even if he is the best athlete in the world. I like your idea of him using it to get into college. Athletics is a great way to get good scholarships. So many things can happen in a person's life (boredom from a sport, injuries, acedemic struggles, financial struggles, health issues) that pinning all your hopes on one thing for a kid would be wrong. Let him have fun. Let him decide where his life will take him. Not every great athlete wants to play sports for a living. That may not be his dream. Maybe he just wants to have fun with it. College diplomas are a sure thing. Athletics are not.
• United States
3 Nov 08
I'm not pinning my hopes on him... I'm trying to encourage his own hopes. He wants to be a professional athlete, and he does have a shot. I want to do what I can to give him every opportunity to fulfill his own dream. The rest is up to him.
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@trixyteddy (1072)
• India
8 Nov 08
First of all, what is his age. Depending on that, you could decide and help him choose what's good for him. Then study it, and help him come to a decision. All you have to do is guide him. If he is still very young, then just keep watching. If he is grown, then you will have to guide him faster.
@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
5 Nov 08
I am assuming he can't play both? My son is in junior high(I wouldn't let him play football before this year) and plays both sports. Football through school and soccer through county organization since it isn't offered at our small school. And if he can't do both (even if that is what he wants) and has to make a decision, I would also look into colleges that even have soccer and scholarships. Then I would sit down and see what means more to your son as well and go from there. I wish I knew more about soccer in college, but I just don't either.
• United States
5 Nov 08
I would go into his school and discuss this with the principle and assistant principle and ask what they think. They know what you son's skills are and they would probably talk to the coaches too see how your son is doing and if they think he'll do well in football. That way you at least know what the coaches are seeing in his future when they watch him play. When my kids went through school, the coaches paid special attention to the top athletes no mattef what sport they play, because usually if a child can play one sport, he can usually play aother and the oaches can determine by his body type and how fast he can move and his body composition ect. Tell your son I will be watching him to be in the pros!!!
@chaska (170)
• United States
4 Nov 08
Hi you never said how old your son was. If he really likes both sports I would say try to let him try them both out. Maybe if he is really young next year he could alternate between the two. Especially if they are done at different times of year. My son is 7 and is showing interest in a lot of sports hockey,lacrosse, soccer, football, baseball, etc. He loves them all and has not decided on any of them in particular. His main interest right now is martial arts and puts other activities on the back burner. I hope as he gets older he decides on one sport besides martial arts. I am sure to keep the martial arts going along with whatever he decides to do. what ever sport he chooses in the near future I will support with him. He is good in a lot of things
@savypat (20246)
• United States
4 Nov 08
To find out what scholarship are available go to the Internet, also go to the High School, they will be able to help you. I know my Granddaughter just finished 4 years of college on full scholarship for playing the oboe. I don't know if she will ever play it again and her degrees are not in music. It's worth looking into.
@rusty2rusty (6769)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Nov 08
I suggest you allow him to play the sport he wants to play. If he wants football. All him t5o play football. It doesn't matter what sport he plays there is always a risk of injury involved. My teen plays football. If he wouldn't of gotten in trouble ove the summer he could of played this year as well. He had people looking at him. Possible of winning a scholorship. But now it all has to be placed on hold. If your son has the talent. Than allow him to play teh sport he wants.
@yangshuai (136)
• China
4 Nov 08
it's really a dilemma.absolutely you wish your son have a nice future.but you are always worried about his future.if i were you,i'm gonna ask my son.you should know what kind of sport he really loves.if he is fairly fond of it,he probably train it well.otherwise,if you force him to do something that he dislikes,i am also doubtful his future.the answer may be zero.so all in all,the most key i think is his favor.and then you can give him nice advices and guide him.so keep optimistic on it.let your son make a decision.that's just right my view.wish you happy each day.
• India
4 Nov 08
Well i know how are you feeling.Even i was lot into sports.But in my country there is no much scope for any sports.But in US the scenario is completely different.If your son is really interested in sports,then let him carry on with it.Now coming to what kind of sports he wants to get in.I don't think you should worry about him taking up soccer.If he is real good and think he can get into the team.i would suggest you to let him do so.If he is a good football player then he can try it.But he should be dedicated to it.Nothing should deter him for reaching his goal.Let him make his choice,so he wont repent it later.I wish your son all the best in his life.Hope he gets what he always wanted.Have a nice day.
• United States
4 Nov 08
Have you asked your son what he would like to do? Let him decide what he would really like to do. I know that football can be a dangerous sport probably with lots of injuries. Does he have other talents besides sports like music or theater? Is he good at any non dangerous sports? I would talk with your son and determine all his talents and his interests and then let him decide what he would like to do.
• Malaysia
4 Nov 08
If he want to concentrate on soccer then he must be reaalllll good. Nowadays, any soccer talent would go unnoticed. There are many soccer scouts around the world looking for a new talents. If he's very good and being scouted, then it's not possible for him to be exported and ply his trade in European country. But it will takes some time. First of all, he must get to play in Major League Soccer first . I'm not from USA but I know the soccer standard and reputation in US has increased already. Otherwise it can't atttact the big names like Beckham and Juan Pablo Angel to there. Besides, US national soccer team also not bad and slowly gained respect among other country in the international level. If you let your son play football, it will have in US only.Other country dont play the football game.
• United States
4 Nov 08
What does he want to do? I mean it is his future you're talking about. If he wants to play soccer than call the schools and find out what they offer. If he has any interest in football, then maybe letting him try it out for a while is a good idea. He seems to have a skill for all sports, so I think that he may have many options to choose from. If he can make a life doing what he loves to do, then nothing should stand in his way. Best of luck to you guys :-)