Anniversary bands?
By jesssp
@jesssp (2712)
Canada
March 9, 2010 12:49pm CST
Someone was commenting on my wedding set a few weeks ago and when I said we were married last May they said 'oh, well then I guess you get another one (ring) in a few months!' I assume they meant an anniversary band but I have to admit I really don't know much about wedding rings passed the engagement ring and the wedding bands!
So how does it work? Traditionally how many rings should one end up with, lol? I know I've seen some women with what seems like half a dozen rings on their ring finger. Do you have other rings aside from your initial wedding set? How did you decide how the other rings came about? Did you ask for them, buy them yourself, or did your husband do it on his own?
I don't know that I really want or need another ring on my ring finger, not for the first anniversary anyway. I like the way the two look together. I've seen some multi ring sets that are really beautiful but some are just way too much.
So what about you guys. How did you do it and why? Does anyone know what actual tradition dictates when it comes to wedding and anniversary rings?
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
9 Mar 10
That must be a custom where you are. I've never heard of it. After the wedding set, my family gets another set after a woman reaches menopause. A Mother's ring. The ring has her birth stone, her husband's birth stone, and the children's birth stones. There were 6 stones on my Mom's. Two for February, two for July, one for August and one for October. That is the custom in our family. It doesn't have to be menopause, but after a woman isn't capable or going to have children any more, then the Mother's ring. Otherwise you would have to keep buying rings every time she had another child. So I think there are different customs different places.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
12 Mar 10
Probably, what I also like is that not everyone wants a Mother's ring or Family ring as a ring. I've seen it as a necklace pendant, broch, pin, etc. Whatever the Mother likes best.
I've seen rings that are made to be triple. That style looks different from the rings I've seen before.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
10 Mar 10
I like the idea of a mother's ring or family ring. I'm beginning to think that there isn't really any set tradition when it comes to rings after the engagement ring and wedding bands. It must be just more of a style preference (multiple rings on the ring finger).
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
10 Mar 10
Hi jesssp I think that the only wedding anniversary that actually dictates a ring is the 60th. Not sure why, you would think it would be the 25th or 50th, but it isn't. I got this thing when I got married and have saved it all these years. It shows you what is the "appropriate" gift for each year of marriage and thats where I got that info about the 60th. In my case, my husband came through with the first year, which is paper and after that I was lucky he remembered the date..
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
10 Mar 10
There actually used to be a list in our local phone book that had all the birthstones and the list of traditional and modern anniversary gifts. I don't remember what any of them were, but the list was there! I think the whole anniversary ring, eternity ring etc. thing is mostly just a personal preference. Some women like lots of rings on their ring finger I guess!
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
9 Mar 10
I don't think there's any need for a ring for every anniversary. If you hear different, you can be sure that, some way or another, it's bound to be jewellers drumming up trade.
The same thing has happened to Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Mother's Day, Father's Day, Valentines Day ... you name it, someone is trying to cash in. I'm not entirely innocent myself - I worked in a florists as extra help before Valentine's Day!
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
9 Mar 10
Well I have no clue as to how many you're supposed to have or whatever.. I don't know anything about the traditional aspects of anniversary rings. But I do have one. I have a 14 year anniversary band.. even though this May will mark our 7th wedding anniversary. I just liked how it looked with my original engagement ring and the wrap we got to go with it. I didn't think the wrap and engagement ring would be enough, and the anniversary band just sort of completes the set. All in all I'm wearing 3 rings on that finger, and I do not see myself adding any more.
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@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
9 Mar 10
I like the way your looks - it looks like a perfectly matched set. Some of them don't, they just look like a bunch of rings all gummed together. I wouldn't mind a third ring at some point but it's not something I feel is necessary for the first anniversary, or really any anniversary. Someone else mentioned an 'eternity ring', maybe that's what I want - I'll have to look it up.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
9 Mar 10
ive never heard of an anniversary ring but maybe thats in some cultures. my late hubby once bought me a birthday ring. he was also the first one to actually buy me a set of real gold and diamond rings for our marriage out of 5 marriages
my daughter bought me a mothers ring for mothers day about 7 yrs ago. other then that no, no other rings
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
11 Mar 10
This year will make my sixth anniversary with my husband and I've yet to get another ring from him. I would like to have an anniversary band at some point (perhaps our tenth anniversary), but I'm not going to get mad if I never have one. Another thing that I would like to eventually have is a mother's ring, but I would not wear that on my left hand ring finger, I'd like to have one that I could wear on my pinky with both of my children's birth stones on it and also a June birth stone because that was the month that I lost my middle child.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
10 Mar 10
I don't really know. I think you should just do what will be meaningful to you. I only wear my wedding band, although I do really like my engagement ring.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
12 Mar 10
Hi jess. I'm not sure how it works. But if I understand you right, we're supposed to get new rings every anniversary? If that's the case I've been gypped! LOL I've been married for 15 years now and never got a one! LOL I do however have my engagement ring and wedding band. And honestly, that is good enough for me. I don't need (or want) more than this. I'm perfectly happy with the rings that I have. 
Happy mylotting!
Happy mylotting!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Mar 10
hi jessp I must really be an old fogy as I never heard ot anniversary bands. I had a wedding ring but that was all as we were really poor when we married. NOw I need to get it resized as my finger is too big. I think for myself a wedding ring is plenty. I really do not remember what each anniversary calls for. I know some are tin and paper etc and Ihave seen these tables too.guess I will have to use the mylot search bar. see if I can ever get paid for it. others do but not me. boo hoo. thats alright I make out okay anyway. I am going to check just for fun.
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
12 Mar 10
I'm thinking that the idea of anniversary rings, or eternity rings, is more just a personal preference than a real tradition. We actually used to have a list of all the traditional anniversary gifts in our phone book when I was little, I don't remember any of them now but it was kind of neat.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
10 Mar 10
Well, we have engagement ring and next marraige bands. In our way, its a band which husband ties on wife with 3 knots on it. It has its own meaning of understanding a marriage life and bond between both of them. This is our custom. I believe traditions teaches us the discipline to follow, though it wont have more scientific value. But they make us live a well disciplined life. I usually wear my engagment ring and i never like much of ornaments of any kind.
