Revealing bathing suits...

United States
July 26, 2010 10:47am CST
I was looking through a friends photos on Facebook.. she took a lot of pictures of our kid's class trip to the pool last month.. and there's this one little girl in some of the pictures, about 7 or 8 years old, wearing a strapless bikini.. it's nothing more than a small strip of fabric across her chest. I mean, bikinis are one thing, but don't you think this is a little tasteless for a child that age? I'm also noticing a lot of kids and adults alike that are wearing bikinis or other revealing bathing suits when they're really too pudgy to be doing so. One lady I saw at the pool who was wearing a bikini had such loose, flabby skin on her tummy, she looked like she'd just given birth to triplets! Sometimes I have to wonder if these people own mirrors.. I wonder if they know how ridiculous and gross they look? I personally do not like bikinis and will not be letting my daughter wear one anytime soon. She's stuck in a very average looking one piece. I just don't see the sense in letting a little girl who's only 7 years old prance around showing off her body.. I want my little girl to look like a little girl! Though I'm not against the tankini.. it still covers her but is easier when needing to go to the bathroom.. perhaps next summer she'll graduate to one of those. What sort of bathing suit does your child wear? Have you ever been appauled at some of the bathing suits they come out with for little children? Have you seen an adult in a swim suit they shouldn't be wearing??
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@GardenGerty (71499)
• Marion, Kansas
26 Jul 10
I have seen all kinds of swimsuits that should not be seen. I have also seen little girls even as young as four in trashy clothes, that were not swim suits. Little girls need to be little girls. I also dislike putting kids in shoes that they cannot run and play in. I guess you have hit on one of my pet peeves:How do we dress children?
• Israel
26 Jul 10
I saw a little 5 year old at the post office in kids high heels and a dress that would be appropriate in a hooker. The poor girl already had the beginning of hammer toes from wearing bad shoes.
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• United States
26 Jul 10
It is a pet peeve of mine as well. My daughter once got a dress as a hand me down... it had no back on it, just a strap around the neck. She wore it once because she wanted to.. and she was outside playing, and I kept looking at her thinking she did not look like a 5 year old in that dress. I made her go change and I threw the dress in the trash instead of passing it on to anyone else.
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@GardenGerty (71499)
• Marion, Kansas
27 Jul 10
I am such a boring old grandma type person, I think dress shoes are for dressy occasions and flipflops are for the pool and clogs or crocs are for very rare occasions. I think both boys and girls need well fitted tennis shoes with lots of room to grow. Better shoes would help the obesity issue as kids could then run and play and climb without sore feet or twisted ankles. CatLady not only will she have hammer toes she will damage her knees and pelvis.
@much2say (18307)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Adults, yes, I've seen plenty of rubber band swim suits they shouldn't be wearing. The kids we hang around with, I'd have to say most of their swim suits are tasteful - even with a 2 piece - and I know most of these moms that I know personally wouldn't want their kids wearing bathing suits that showed too much. I will this year for my daughter's birthday, a friend of ours gave her this teeny weeny bikini ... I thought for sure it was the wrong size (too small), but the tag did say the correct size. I swear there was nothing to the bikini - like wispy fabric on string - OY!! My friends' kids do modeling - so I'm thinking it was a freebie deal for them - but still - I sure won't let my daughter wear it. So I'm stuck with it, as I think it would be too weird to give it anyone we know.
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• United States
26 Jul 10
That's a tough position to be put in... thankfully most of my friends know how prude I am.
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@dawnald (83852)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jul 10
When the mother-in-law bought the girls two piece suits, I was really annoyed. Up to that point they had only had one pieces. She pointed out that it was easier for them to go to the bathroom, and since they were fairly modest, I decided I was Ok with it. Since then I have gotten them tankinis fairly often, but no halter tops, bandeaus or anything like that. They are still too young, far as I'm concerned. As for the other topic, I will leave you with an expression: "She looked as if she had been poured into her clothes and forgotten to say when." :D
• United States
26 Jul 10
I've never heard that quote and it's so funny! Most people who know me well know I won't let my daughter wear a bikini, so they wouldn't bother. A couple years ago we were visiting a friend in the middle of winter but she had an indoor pool in her apartment building, so she went shopping for swimsuits for my daughter (my boys all had one still.. but the daughter outgrew hers that summer). She knew what I wanted and said it was nearly impossible to find a suit I'd approve of... she ended up getting a weird one with skulls all over it.. but it was a one piece. I've only just replaced that one because it started to stretch.
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@dawnald (83852)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Jul 10
A friend of mine told me that in high school, and I've never forgotten it.
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
28 Jul 10
Hey kats! I have seen some really disgusting sites of women who obviously either don't look in the mirror or look, but don't really "see" what they actually look like! I haven't worn a two piece bathing suit in years and wouldn't even thing about it because I am way too old and fat! I have always had a problem even when I was thin because of my DD's! When I was very young my mom would have to take me to "specialty bra stores" to get bathing suits and I would get so upset because I would have to get my bra size and then the matching size for my bottom! And I always thought I was fat when I wasn't! I never realized how thin I was until years later. How sad is that! As for little kids wearing bikinis, I know my mom had me wearng them when I was about 2 or 3 and it was "cute". I don't remember after that. But, that was in the 50's! Now is a whole different issue because the kids are way too grownup by 8 and they know what "sexy" means. You and are weren't aware of that word at that age!
• United States
28 Jul 10
I never wore a bikini as a child.. my parents wouldn't let me. When I was 5 and under I was slim enough for it.. but too young. Once I got to the age where I wanted one, I was too chubby. Though when I was around 18-20 I did have one. The bottoms were like shorts.. short shorts obviously, and the top was a typical top.. so it wasn't "sexy".. and I was probably still a little too pudgy to wear it, though I managed to pick up my first serious boyfriend by going into the gas station where he worked while I was wearing that top with a pair of jean shorts! So I guess I didn't look too horrible, lol. I had the same problem with my top and bottoms.. my top was a large D, but my bottoms were medium, and I hated buying them seperate because it seemed to cost more, so the bikini I got was a medium and it squished my chest.. but I lived with it. These days thanks to the pregnancies and weight loss I don't seem to have an issue squeezing into smaller sizes since my chest is all skin anyways.. only 30 years old and already I'm wearing size "long" LOL.
@lilybug (21184)
• United States
27 Jul 10
My daughter has 4 or 5 bathing suits that were handed down to her. She mostly wears the one piece, but she also has a few tankini's and one where the top is basically 2 triangles of fabric. She only wears that one in the back yard.
• United States
28 Jul 10
I personally probably would have thrown that one out, that's how prude I am about it. I once got some hand me downs for my daughter and among them was this dress that didn't have a back to it.. just a strap that goes around the neck. I let her wear it once, we didn't go anywhere, she was just playing outside the house, but it made her look so much older than she was.. she was only 5 at the time, and I am already neurotic about child predators.. so I made her go in and change and I threw the dress in the trash which is so unlike me, normally I donate everything, but I didn't want any other child wearing this dress (even though I know other kids wear worse things by choice!).
@ravinskye (8247)
• United States
27 Jul 10
At our recent trip to the beach we saw a lot of both of that. It is shocking the bathing suits they are making for kids these days. And just as shocking at what some adults are wearing. It's not just bathing suits either. I went to buy underwear for my daughter one day and they had thong underwear in kids sizes as small as size 5! I couldn't believe it. My daughter is 7 and she has a two piece bathing suit but it is like you said, more of a tank top kind of thing that covers a good bit of her stomach and the bottoms are bigger too that cover her whole butt. It is much easier to go to the bathroom with those. When we were at the pool there was a woman wearing a small two piece bikini and she was pretty large. She probably was 250 or more atleast. It just didn't look good at all. I've seen a lot of little girls too that are heavy set yet their parents let them wear these tiny little bikinis. It's sad.
• United States
27 Jul 10
I'm having a heck of a time trying to find normal shorts for my daughter. They all seem way too short these days. She's mostly wearing capris because she has so few shorts that actually go down past her butt!! I mean, I'm not so prude that she has to wear knee length shorts... but I want them to be like mid-thigh so that if she bends over she's not showing her butt to everyone!
@AmbiePam (39793)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Some may call me a prude, but it has always bothered me seeing little girls wearing bikinis. I mean, there is a difference between a two piece and a bikini. I remember seeing a 12 year old girl in a bikini that was especially startling. The top was like most bikinis, but the bottom was so low on her hips that I was just shocked she got out of the house like that. When I was a kid I was allowed to wear a one piece. I don't go swimming anymore though. However, if I did, I'd stick with a one piece. I'm not fat, but I'm certainly not in any shape to be running around in a bikini. I would like to spare the public an image of my out shape self. They may not care too much, but I care too much about myself to put myself out in a bikini in anything less than great shape. If it doesn't bother overweight people to be wearing really skimpy swimsuits (I'm including obese men in speedos), then good for them. But they shouldn't be suprised when others do a double take. I'm not saying it is okay to be rude, it is not. No one has a right to make a rude comment. But double takes are almost involuntary.
• United States
26 Jul 10
I'm glad I'm not alone. I had visions of all my responses being "Well my daughter is in a bikini and I don't see the problem". Like I said, I don't like bikinis, but I'm prude. In my opinion there are very few people who can pull it off, and they're the 20 year olds with like zero body fat.. because if you jiggle even a little then it's kind of gross to look at. Seeing adults like this are bad enough.. but to see a little kid in a bikini that is too revealing makes me wonder what on earth these parents are thinking!
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@pastigger (618)
• United States
26 Jul 10
My daughter is only three but she has alway had a one piece. Although next year we will be probably be getting a tankini as this was the first year of having to try and get her out of a bathing suit and back in while wet! What a pain one day she had to go three times thank goodness for grandmas!!! I totaly agree I want my little girl to look like a little girl. I have a two piece tankini sort of suite and that is just becasue I have a much larger top then bottom. I hate to wear a bathing suit in any case but I will for my daughter. I am sure some think that the top of mine looks to small but short of paying $100 that is the best I could find. I am covered. I will never forget that we were at the hot springs one time and this guys comes walking past in a speedo, he did not have the body for it, few to in my opion, and this guy was so hairy it was just gross. I have seen too many people in a bikinis that have no business wearing them. Look I know I am not as skinny as I should be, so I dress so I am not hanging out all over the place. I would never wear a bikini not happening. And really if I am swimming somewhere with my daughter I don't want to see your butt hanging out. Do not wear a thong bikini if there are going to be children around. But that is just me
• United States
26 Jul 10
No it's not just you! I wish people could be more tasteful as well. Even girls who have normal, thin bodies.. I wish they'd cover up when kids are around.. especially some of the girls who go to our pool who are in their teens and are wearing little bikinis.. but I am prude like that.
@cynthiann (18679)
• Jamaica
26 Jul 10
I so agree with you.I hate to see little girls dressed as adults in the same designed clothes. Stupid! Have you ever watched the TV programme Toddlers and Tiaras? These little kids wear butt pasties to give them a better shape! How sick is that? I may be wrong but I think my daughter was 14 or 15 before she wore a bikini and it certainly covered her where she should be covered
• United States
26 Jul 10
I asked for a bikini when I was like 8 and my parents told me I didn't have the hips for it... they were actually just being polite because I was too pudgy to wear one but I didn't know that as a kid.
@mtdewgurl74 (18126)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Yeah, I have seen alot of that...Me, now you can get in a bathing suit and I have wore one this year..But I have always ended up wearing shorts and a t-shirt,tank, or a swimming cover dress over it..because I feel way to self conscious about my weight and it isn't a pretty sight at all..lol..My sister got her first tankini this year. First time we went swimming she had her regular full swimming suit but seems it is just more easier for her and she says more comfortable since she is long waisted and chucky, some bathing suits are not suited for her very good..so the tankini is a blessing the more taller she grows..and bigger she grows..
• United States
26 Jul 10
Although I've lost so much weight and everyone tells me how skinny I am.. I still am self concious about myself. I used to wear the bathing suits with the skirts attatched, but now I just wear shorts over a normal suit.. because if I want to swim laps I can take the shorts off, but for just walking in the water with my kids I'll wear the shorts.
@gemini_rose (16208)
2 Aug 10
My daughter also wears an all in one swimming costume as I don't really like to think of her in a bikini at 4 years old! But hers has frills and that on it so it is just like a little dress really. I wear an all in one, I have never ever owned a bikini, even before I had children and my body was ok I would not consider wearing one. I hate even wearing an all in one because I hate how my body looks now!
@dorannmwin (36611)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I guess Kathryn is the same age as your daughter because she is seven years old. She has several bathing suits this year between what I bought for her and the hand-me-downs that she's gotten from her friends. The vast majority of her bathing suits are one piece suits. However, she does have a two piece that I mostly will only let her wear the two piece when we are swimming in my mother's yard because I don't really feel like it is appropriate for her flaunt her body.
@zxtzxt (215)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I completely agree with you. People who wear bikinis should only wear them if it suits them. They can wear one piece if 2 piece isn't for them. Also young girls, like 12 or below should stick to one piece.
@Shellyann36 (5206)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I have two nieces that are ages 5 and soon to be 3. My sister dresses them in the tankini suit that you mentioned. I think that is ok as long as it fits correctly. My cousin dresses her 2 year old in those little bikini type suits at times. If she is with me I make her wear a t-shirt over it. Kids should be kids. As far as the over weight people go I don't like to look at that sort of show but I am glad that they have confidence in themselves!!!
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Well that's not very good now is it revealing a kid like that those revelaing bikins I never did like them. I think some people need to cover up because a lot of people will see that and that is never a good thing.
@TheCatLady (4697)
• Israel
26 Jul 10
I wore a tank suit until I was old enough to say I wanted a bikini. I know I had one in 5th grade. It might have been earlier.
@jillhill (37358)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I know what you mean...even some of the clothes for little ones these days are way to revealing!!! And we spent time at the pool this last weekend at the campgrounds and there was certainly a few there who needed to wear a cover up! The pudgy ones too! Yikes!