At the End of my Rope

Why would his parents complain about you not having money? Everyone is having a tough time right now. If they agreed to pay that price, then they should pay it. They shouldn't be giving you a hassle! I guess I'd just find a polite way of saying "Hey, you still owe us XXX for the car.. can you make another payment soon or would you like to give us the car back so we can sell it to someone else?"

The truth is you will likely never get your money for that car. They know they don't have to pay you for it, because they know you don't want to go get it, because they know you are afraid that your doing so will cause trouble. This is why you should NEVER enter a business deal with your family members. My father-in-law had a mobile home that he let one of his brother-in-laws move into many years ago. The man lived in that trailer for 5 years and NEVER paid the rent LOL

you can tackle it in another way..try bringing car to your house slowly for some work and then slowly keep it with u for one day then longer and so on...they can also not force you to give back as they have not paid....better tackle it with love than hot words...

hi dorannmwin yes Cynthiann has it right,it is your husbands folks so he has to be honest and forthright and ask for more money as you really do need it, anyone else you would not have gone out on a limb for but now the six weeks are up.Let them complain but your hubby has to stiffent his spine and say,mom dad we have had a lot of extra expense with doctor bills and we do need that money now,please? I know its tough but you two have been patient with them . He should 'say we still hold the title you know and that might speed up them finding the money. They knew when they agreed on six months that they would have to come up with the money ,at least a good share of it; I need inlaw relations are sort of touchy but.!!!

This is a lesson that still shows it's ugly head in our family. Never lend, sell, purchase or borrow from family. Somewhere, sometime it's going to bite you in the butt. Been there, done that over and over again. Blessings.

i was in a similar situation (though it does not involve a car) and we are just too careful to say something that could offend. there were times i talk straightforward about them and i felt hubby was hurt. if not for hubby, i will definitely be telling them everything i want to tell about money matters and the other not so good things they did. i guess it helps to be careful at times on what to say and not be carried away. but still, we have to tell them what we think. it does not do any good to be silent when there is a need to talk. some in-laws tend to be abusive.

Hoping by now that things have gotten better with this situation. This is one of the main reasons a lot of families refuse to help someone close to them, or loan them money, etc. is because when they are unable to pay it back, or not wanting to pay it back it can cause friction and often times hard feelings for all. I would hope somehow they have seen your need and wanted to pay back as promised as well.

I would ask them for the money. They owe it to you and have not fulfilled their part of the deal. You did not do it to give them the car and you should not have had to ask for the money in the first place. I would not feel bad for asking.

I agree that your Hubby needs to step up to the plate and demand the money. Or I'd even say, that you'll sell the car to whomever and you'll refund their $75 but you need to handle your affairs first not theirs as they are adults, just as you two are.

Tell them that you need the money. And if they give you crap, give them crap back for not paying you.

god, i sure know about that. i will never sell to a family member or friend ever again. i loaned my son in law 13,000 dollars 3 yrs ago to pay off the van they had, so they could have cheaper payments by paying me plus no interest payments. dont you know, he kept it in his name. then my daughter left him and half the time he'd skipped payments already and now that i live so far away, when i didnt get a payment i would call him. he began to say i was harrassing him and stopped totally. now, to get it id have to take him to court but dont have the extra 300 dollars for that either. so hes pretty well off the hook and still owes me 10,000 bucks

This is one of the reasons we should never do business with family or friends. If you signed a contract with them and they've reneged, you have every right to take the car back, a bank would; but maybe, for starters, you should remind them that the car payment is past due. Your financial needs have nothing to do with whether or not they pay you for the car. They made a deal with you.

You keep out of it and your husband has t come up to the plate and discuss it with them. Let them complain- they are not paying your medical bills. He has to discuss it with them but not you. It is his parents and he has to do it.

I just hate it when people "take advantage" at times when it comes to family. My sister in law and her stupid hubby is that way towards my in laws. For some reason, the hubby keeps losing his truck (he says it got stolen, or it got repossessed, or whatever lie he makes up) and the in laws get suckered into giving them money for a down payment on a new car. A few years ago, I could not believe that the in laws actually GAVE them their own car . . . the intention was for them to take over the existing payment, but of course, they never saw any repayment for it - and the in laws just let it go (again). The stupid hubby traded it or sold it - and bought himself another stupid big truck which they didn't need (they needed a family car that holds them all - them plus 4 big kids - plus so that sister in law could learn to drive - yes, she never drove!). ANYWAY . . . I agree with another poster that your hubby should be the one to tell them they need to cough up the dough. Bottom line is it doesn't matter what his parents think - a deal is a deal - the agreement was six months. If it effects your financial situation - then he definitely needs to speak up. It's probably a pride thing regarding his parents, but ya know - sometimes you gotta swallow it so you don't get into a worse situation (if you need the money, you need the money). His parents are not the issue here - it's the in laws. Giving them a wee benefit of the doubt, perhaps they need a "reminder" that six months are up and can they please start paying you guys back!

Uggh! That's why I don't want to do any business with family, because I don't want to be put in this situation. Specially with in-laws. Anyway, you should let your husband deal with it. It's his family. And he should be able to explain your situation to them better. Anyway, goodluck!