If you see a man shopping in the womens lingerie department what do you assume?

@shaggin (36321)
United States
February 14, 2011 8:07am CST
If you go shopping and you see a man looking around in the womans lingerie department of the store what do you assume? Do you think hes shopping for his girlfriend or do you think he is looking for something special for himself to wear lol? I know a lot of guys who like to dress up in womens things but when I see a man in the lingerie department I just assume he is shopping for his girlfriend or wife. A lot of men are very embarrassed to be in the womans department because they think that other people will think they are buying things for themselves there. I think its silly. Let them think what they want you know why your there. Its sweet of guys to buy their girlfriends sexy things to wear. My ex never had a problem going into the womans lingerie department and buying me things and he was definitly not into wearing womens lingerie lol.
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@megamatt (14332)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Well there can really be one of two conclusions that I can draw for this. Number one, there is obviously some holiday or date of a certain significance coming up. Therefore he is shopping for a gift of some sort. Really nine out of ten times, that is pretty much the case when you think about it. He is in fact shopping for someone else. Or...well the other reason, what people do in their free time is their own business and most certainly what they wear. People have different tastes and really they are going to seldom match up with what I or anyone else thinks to be normal. Then again, the world is so strange, then really, nothing is normal when you think about it. So that would be the two obvious conclusions to be drawn, at least I would think it to be so.
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• Philippines
17 Feb 11
Well the first thing that would come into mind is if his straight or not.If i get it clear that he is manly and is really bold in his choices i would then conclude that " How lucky can his wife or girl be!" I would love my man to buy me lingerie. I would assume this man is so sure of himself that he is not at all threatened to be seen in a lingerie store and that he just wants to please his partner with a gift.Its kind of cute, kind a James Bond thing....It really tickles my fancy too.But if i get the impression that the man is not straight...well good for him! He has the balls to get what he wants in a store where he can get it.It's all but freedom of expression.I would respect that in anyone anywhere anytime as long as he is not buying what i want to buy too and its the last pair.
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I think a man has to be pretty comfortable with themselves as well to be able to go into the lingerie department and buy their girlfriends something sexy to wear. Either that or really darn desperate to see the girl in something like that lol. Some guys are so openly obviously gay while others you just cant tell so I really dont assume anything when I see men in the lingerie department. They dont bother me I dont bother them.
@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Well if I wasent into things that were very racy I would probably thank him and just not say anything more about it and hope he didnt expect me to wear it for him. If he did I would probably wear it and feel very self concious. But honestly I really like sexy stuff so I dont think I would have a problem with it at all. Its more a matter of what he bought fitting me or not. I have a very small chest and a lot of times things dont look good on me because of that.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
17 Feb 11
Although I always feel nervous, and very out-of-place, I love going into a Victoria Secret store! It's no big secret anymore, I see a lot of guys going in too. Half of them could be pervs, but it's a lot of fun. The only real difficulty is asking somebody for help inside the store.
@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
I would think that the workers there would be very used to men coming in and asking for help so I would think they would be very helpful and nice. I love Victoria secrets but I really cant afford to buy things there so I just look around and wish someone would buy me those things lol.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
18 Feb 11
Haha! Just you wait when bounce comes in your city. Where are you again? Shaggin bounce to VS. And maybe I'll get you something from there. From my myLot earnings of course!
@moondancer (7434)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I figure he's buying something for his lady and then I start thinking, hummm, I sure hope he knows what size to get, because he will sure be in a pickle if he gets the wrong size. lol Some women can be so touchy about that sort of thing, you know. You think I can wear that!!! It's like 3 sizes too big. And she takes it too heart. Or it's 3 sizes too small and she thinks ..... he is telling her she too fat!!!!
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
16 Feb 11
Oh yes woman can get really offended about things like that. Not me I dont get offended by it at all. Finding clothes that fit me is really hard because I am so tiny. Even if a guy picks out something that is a size small sometimes it will still be to big because of the way the weird sizing is. If they get me something to big then I just say its to big and try to get them to wear it for me so I can laugh at them lol.
• United States
16 Feb 11
LOL, that's just too funny. Now my son would like that and he probably would try it on for you. lol as long as you did not take a pic. lol... I would not get upset either, like you I'm hard to fit. My husband doe snot try to buy me clothes anyway, he knows it best to buy me jewelry that he can buy to fit me any time. lol
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@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
18 Feb 11
Hi Shaggin!. I rarely see this think in my country but I ever see it 3 times when I shopping for bra and underwear. The last time I see it was a man busy seeing the lingerie collection and after few minute he made choice over red lace lingerie. He seem busy examine it and seem measuring it after thats she call the store keeper to made invoice. I never really think much at the time, I just think its for his wife because he must be family man because I see ring in his fingers. I remember him because its usually odd to see man in thats clothing section and I think he also not comfort there.
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Haha well no a days people who are gay can get married and wear wedding bands so that man still could have been buying sexy lingerie for his significant other but it might not be a woman hehe. Thats fine by me what others do in their personal lives doesnt have any effect on me.
@derek_a (10902)
15 Feb 11
I would assume that he is shopping for something nice for his wife as a present. It is not something that I would do myself, though. I think possibily because that I haven't grown up in an era where men were seen in lingerie departments. If ever my wife goes into one, I go somewhere else and tell her I'll meet her later. But that's not lingerie, but all women's clothing in general. _Derek
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Wow I see men in womens stores all the time. I know some of them get bored and would rather go somewhere else. My ex used to go to a music and movie store while I was in the womens clothing stores most of the time. He didnt have a problem being in those stores he would just rather go where he wanted to check things out.
@youless (90028)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Feb 11
I think that the men who go shopping in the women's lingerie are very considerate, romantic and sweet. Because they are willing to give the surprise to their girlfriends or wives. It is very kind of them to do so. On the contrary, I don't think they will go shopping for themselves. After all this kind of men are not so many and they dare not to shop for themselves in public. I love China
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
16 Feb 11
I think guys who shop for their women are very sweet to. They have ulterier motives though hehe since buying their women lingerie to wear is also a benefit to them since they get to see their women wearing it hehe. I do know men who do go to stores though and buy themselves sexy lingerie. Some men just buy things online to avoid that but most men just dont worry about it. They figure that the women will just think they are buying the things for a woman.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
15 Feb 11
Hi Shaggin, I actually just assume that they are buying for their girlfriend or wife. I'm thinking that most people assume that if they think anything at all. I think guys just get hung up on worrying about that sort of thing. I work in a store and it's funny how many guys will come in and by tampons and feel the need to let me know that they aren't for them. A for real cross dresser would probably not care what others thought or if he did, he'd be shopping mail-order. To be honest, I don't pay attention to what other people are shopping for because I'm busy looking for my own stuff. I'm not sure I'd even notice a guy shopping in the lingerie section.
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
16 Feb 11
That is really funny that men will come in and buy tampons and think they need to tell you that they arent the ones who need them as if thats what you were thinking lol. Men are so timid about things like that its cute. I asked my friend once if I needed tampons if he would go to the store for me and he said yes. My ex used to do it for me when I really needed him to. My dad used to be embarrassed about it. He would do it but if I was with my parents I would get them for my mom instead so my dad wouldnt have to.
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
I assume he's there because: 1. her girlfriend / wife is also in the lingerie section. He's accompanying her. (I also do that. Every time I want to buy something for myself, may it be shoes, bags or lingerie, I would always ask him to be with me. I know he feels embarrassed every time he's there especially if someone we know saw him he's there, but I can also see that it's ok with him. He even tells me what he thinks of my pick. 2. He's buying something for his girlfriend / wife. And that takes a lot of guts to do. It's hard for a straight man to be in a section surrounded with ladies' undergarments. Let's give the guy a benefit of the doubt. :p
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Well thats cool that you liked your man to come with you to give you advice on what looks good or not. Most guys will just be like I dont know it looks fine just to get out of there but that isnt helpful for the woman who truly wants advice. My ex and I never agreed on things so I just bought what I liked because he had bad taste lol.
@GreenMoo (11842)
14 Feb 11
I'd just assume he was buying a gift. It's so common for ladies to buy undies for their guys, why not the other way round? I pity the guy though! Getting the right lingerie must be really hard for someone who doesn't wear it themselves. Even getting the size right is a disaster waiting to happen. Too small and she'll feel fat. Too large and she'll feel that he thinks she's fat!
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Getting the right size is very hard. Sometimes brands run differnet and if a guy gets me a small like I usually wear they might run big and they wont fit me. Or sometimes smalls are to small and I have to wear a medium. I have bought my ex boxers and I love when guys buy me panties.
@HarryS88 (33)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 11
I once entered a lingerie shop and bought my wife a sexy lingerie. Nothing is funny at all because I just wanted her to look sexy that night. The day I bought her a sexy cloth was my wife's birthday. Everything is so normal, I think. I never feel embarrassed to buy something sexy as long as it is just for my wife. However, a man who purchases a sexy lingerie for himself is a person who has a personal interest in himself.
@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Thats freat that you can buy your wife sexy lingerie and feel its so normal that you never get embarrassed. I hope that I could be the same way if I was a man but as a woman I havent had that experience so I dont know how I would feel if I was a man in that position.
@Jennlk84 (4219)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I think you can probably tell whether he's buying it for himself or his wife/girlfriend. lol I typically assume he's purchasing a gift for his significant other. I think you can tell because guys typically seem nervous/out of place in a store like that and often end up getting help from an associate. If the guy is buying it for himself he's probably pretty comfortable with it and shopping like normal.
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@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
You could be right about that but perhaps its his first time buying himself sexy panties and so he is nervous. So I think in that sense you cant really tell if someone is buying something for themselves or someone else. I think its necessary to buy things in person to know if they will fit because buying things like that online most the time I get the panties and they arent the right size. That is really dissapointing.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
Just like you , the first thing that comes to mind whenever I see a man in the lingerie section is that he is shopping for his woman or for a woman but not for himself. My hubby doesn't feel bothered whenever we enter the lingerie section. He would even flirt with the saleslady. There was a time I remeber him telling the saleslady that I should not bother to buy lingerie because he will only rip it off me. Well, I think that a man shopping stuff like this for his woman is sexy.:)
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• Philippines
15 Feb 11
All we can do here is plain guesswork shaggin. From my end, I take time to observe the person's overall disposition. If he appears very masculine with no slight trace of femininity (I speak for my bias), I suppose he is in the lingerie department to buy sexy wears for his girlfriend or wife. There is no reason to be embarrassed for having made such an unexpected intrusion into the woman's world if one is 100% certain of his true sexuality.
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@stk40m (1119)
• Koeln, Germany
14 Feb 11
oh, I would definitely have a problem going into womans lingerie department. I know from experience that stepping into that area always makes me feel uncomfortable. Yes it's silly and I don't know why I cannot just suppress that feeling. But I think the mere thought others could interpret this in the wrong way seems to produce this effect. Also, it's very rare that I see a man in there. Maybe that's another reason. Men just don't belong there lol
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@polaris77 (2019)
• Bacau, Romania
14 Feb 11
I think most men who go to women lingerie stores are normal guys who just want to buy something nice for the woman they love.Of course,there are also perverts who like to wear women's clothes,but I'm sure their number is insignificant compared to the total number of men who buy lingerie for their women.I'm sure women like to receive such presents,so sometimes men have no other choice but to go themselves and buy the items of women's lingerie.
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
15 Feb 11
I really dont pay attention to other peoples shopping. Only mine. Im female that likes males. I shop and wear mens things. Boxers, thermo unders, etc.
@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Well then you would be in the mens section and the men would just probably assume that you were buying these things for a boyfriend instead of yourself. Oh well it doesnt really matter what others think anyway. I dont care what other people are buying. If men are in the lingerie department so be it right!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Yes, i really dont care what they think. Its been awhile since i bought my jeans too. I believe it was the mens dept. I love the carpenter jeans because it has that little pocket on the side of the leg. Its perfect for cell phones. I had a bf once that barrowed a pair of my undies. When we were at work he told me he was wearing them becoz it made him feel close to me. He said he liked the feel of that silky material too. I have a pair of bokers that are silky.
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@rosegardens (3044)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Sometimes I wonder if he is there to pick up chics. lolol! Or because he is shopping for his wife. Depends on how friendly he seems with the pretty girls!
@shaggin (36321)
• United States
14 Feb 11
LOL that very well could be. He might be in the lingerie section just getting a cheap thrill at seeing what people are picking out and pictuing them in it. I am often tempted when I see men in the lingerie department to ask them if they think something would look good on me. That would be a good way to get a guys attention hehe.
• United States
14 Feb 11
lol! That certainly would get his attention.
@LAVO101 (31)
• Belgium
18 Feb 11
only three things: 1. he's looking for lingerie for his girlfriend 2. he just sneekes in the dressing room to get fotographs of people wearing it... sick 3. he's just buying something for his mother... Greetz, Lorenz!
• Belgium
18 Feb 11
you laugh about it, some of my friends do get lingrie for their mother if it's their birthday or something but usually just to have a laugh =) and I totally agree with you about the camera's sounds like something really creepie! greetz, Lorenz!
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Hi shaggin. When I see this, I tend to think that he is buying something for his wife or lady friend. Anything else, is just none of my business.
@shaggin (36321)
• United States
18 Feb 11
Your right it really isnt our business. It doesnt mean that it isnt fun though to contemplate on who the guys are buying the panties for. I like to think they are buying it for themselves so I can picture them wearing it and it gives me a little chuckle lol.