I get to see my friend this weekend

@dorannmwin (36698)
United States
July 5, 2012 12:44am CST
I've been friends with one of my best friends since we were just five years old and we are 32 years old now. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding and she is also my son's God-mother. However, we haven't gotten to see her since she had just found out that she was pregnant with her twins (they will be turning three years old on Friday). The reason that we haven't gotten to see each other in so long is because of the fact that their family moved to Texas and then her parents moved away from here as well. I am so excited to get to see her and her family this weekend. In the time since we last were together, she has had three more children (the twins and then her youngest son last year). In addition to those three children she has two daughters and a son that I have met. When was the last time that you were able to get together with your best friend? What is it that you enjoy getting to do with them when you are able to get together? Do you find that friendships are able to last even though there is often long distances that come between us?
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• United States
8 Jul 12
Well, friendships have to last despite long distances. Otherwise, I really wouldn't have friends, since all of my closest friends are elsewhere. Of course, I have tried to recruit my two closest friends to move to where I'm at. Unfortunately, I haven't been successful on that front... yet. Give me time... I haven't seen my two closest friends in a while. One I saw a couple years ago. The other... I think it's been about four years or so, and that was a fairly brief visit.
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
9 Jul 12
The thing with me is that I am pretty much the only one of us that still lives where we lived while we were growing up. Now, when it comes to my other best friend that is still alive, she actually is also our roommate. However, she is away for a while right now so I haven't even been able to see her in over a month.
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
5 Jul 12
It's amazing that you have been friends for so many years. So many people lose touch with their friends after just a little while or just grow apart.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
I believe that if we didn't share as many things growing up as we did then our friendship would not still be intact. However, growing up, we did share many aspects of our lives and that is the reason that we are still friends today.
@Canellita (12058)
• United States
8 Jul 12
That's great!
@Raine38 (9117)
• United States
16 Jul 12
You're so lucky that despite the distance and the years in between, you and your best friend maintained your friendship. I can't say the same for us. Unfortunately, our foursome was torn by money matters. One best friend borrowed money from one of us and just forgot about it. That friend warned us two about that with good intentions of course and when she went to us, we did try our best to help her out with a reminder that she needs to settle her debt with our other friend. She took it badly against us all and things were never the same again. We have been friends for 12 years and even if we are separated by thousands of miles we still see each other and carry on as if we were just sitting in the same classes yesterday. Sadly, we started to fall out just 2 years ago. So yes, I believe that distance and time is no problem at all for true friends. Other stuff do. Like in my case, money.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
17 Jul 12
Money really could be something that would cause a lot of dissention in a friendship. I know that if I let financial issues really bother me, then the majority of the people that I am very close to would not be my friends at all. With that said, I will try to never let money become an issue in a friendship.
@RitterSport (2452)
• Lippstadt, Germany
14 Jul 12
hi dear dorannmwin hope you had a wonderful weekend with your old friend and you were able to just pick things up where you left when you had to part ways back then. I have two friends like this, they are both in my hometown area, which is an 3,5 to 4 hour drive from where I live now. Had not seen them since getting married in September 2005 and last year I had the possibility to get together with them for a nice evening. It was so good to catch up with each others lives though we keep in touch via phone or letters.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Jul 12
It was very nice to get to see Erica and her family after having not seen them for several years. However, our original plan to meet at the park was something that got rained out ten minutes after we got there when a storm that was very much needed came out of no where. We relocated to a local restaurant and still had the opportunity to visit with each other and have a pretty good time. I hope that I don't have to wait so long to be able to see her and her family this next time. She is really an important person to me.
@KrauseHome (35037)
• United States
12 Jul 12
I hope you and your friend had a wonderful time together, and got caught up on some of the things from your past as well. I know that when I was recently in IL and got to spend some time at lunch with my Best friend from High School it was an awesome experience and well worth the 7 yr. wait that it had been. It would have been nice to even have spent more time, but we all lead so busy lives, and I knew I had to come back home.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Jul 12
Well, our plans to let the kids play at one of the local parks was definitely something that fell apart because about ten minutes after we all got there, it did start to rain and hail. So, we changed our plans and we all went to Gattitown so that the kids would be able to eat and visit and the adults would also have a chance to talk to each other. It was nice, but I really wish we would have been able to have stayed at the park. I hope that we don't have to wait so long to get together the next time.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
7 Jul 12
I have only one friend left from school years and we e-mail but I have not seen her in many years. Hubby, however has many friends from those years and even though he hasn't seen them he talks to them often. He went to a very small school and has been able to stay in touch with school mates. In these later years of life they all seem to enjoy each other.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
8 Jul 12
I would also imagine that in your husband's situation of having went to a small school, all of the classmates were closer to each other than people would be that went to a big school and only knew many of their classmates faces as opposed to really knowing those people. I was in a class of over three hundred people and there are really only a handful of those people that I even care to keep in touch with.
@sjvg1976 (18386)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 12
Hello dorannmwin, That's great! I would just talk to him/her if i meet him/her after long time and try to know and tell everything happened in all those years when we were not together.I would go to the place where we used to be together and meet some common old friends.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Jul 12
That is basically what her family is doing is having a pot luck at a local park where we all used to hang out when we were younger. They have invited all of their friends that still live in this area. Sadly, that number of friends is dwindling that still lives in Lexington, but it is great to be able to see people that I haven't seen in a while.
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
6 Jul 12
Hi friend.I'm going to meet my friend on this weekend also.It's so cool and excited that your friendship didn't gone though with long distance.For me,that's real and true friend is.Just cherish it coz not all people can get that.Have a nice weekend ahead.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
7 Jul 12
You are right that not all people have the opportunity to have a friendship like that in their life. In addition to the friendship with Erica, I also have a very special friendship with my friends Angie and Donnie (brother and sister). We had actually lost contact with each other for many years and then were reunited last year and our friendships were able to pick up right where they left off when we were all teenagers.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
5 Jul 12
It has been a really long time since I seen my best friend. Have a real good time.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
I am very much looking forward to getting to see her, her husband and their children. I know that the short time that we will be able to spend together isn't really going to be enough, but I do consider myself to be lucky that we will be able to spend the time together that we will have.
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
5 Jul 12
Since April and like you this weekend I am going up to see her.....for five days......five wonderful days of catching up and stamping together...shopping and eating our favorite foods....and usually we throw in a movie too! And our friendship has lasted 27 years, have fun with your friend this weekend!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
I think that it would be great if Erica and I were able to plan some time that would be one on one time where we were able to get away from everything that is a part of our ordinary lives. However, with both of us having young families that is just not something that is possible. I hope that you have a wonderful time with your friend this week.
@much2say (39276)
• United States
5 Jul 12
That's neat you will be reunited with your best friend from childhood! Wow - she's got a lot of kids! Enjoy your time together this weekend! Me - rather than best friend - I'd have to say "close" friend when it comes to female friends. The last time I saw my close friend was early May. She and her husband bought a house earlier in the year - and they had a housewarming party - so we went. We hardly ever get to see each other because we can never coordinate a good time to meet - she's always working (she's a total workaholic - well, she doesn't have kids nor intends to, so she doesn't mind working a lot). And her work and home location are kind of far (relatively speaking - it's not real long distance, but it's inconvenient to get to each other). We met each other through figure skating . . . and we used to go to coffee afterwards and chat for hours at night. She was my maiden of honor. We both don't skate as much these days . . . but that's the core of what got us together . . . but when we do get together it's a coffee and chat get together like old times. I find that certain friendships can last even though long distances come between us . . . especially these days with emailing, Facebook, or even Skype/webcam - communicating is always possible and fairly easy.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
For Erica and I, there were a lot of things that our families had in common that made us really grow together as friends. First of all, we went to the same church and that is how we met when we were both very young. Then there was the fact that we went to the same school and we were both in Girl Scouts. We also lived only a couple blocks away from each other. Well, then my mother did babysit her and her siblings before and after school when we were young as well. Though I do have a lot of friends that are still my friends from school, there are none of them that I've ever been as close to as I have been with her.
• United States
5 Jul 12
I know how it feels to see an old friend. I remember when I had announced to my friends and family that I was getting married my best friend had looked up online and found my mother on facebook. She had asked for my phone number so she could congratulate on my upcoming marriage. The thing I did not know was that she was coming to my wedding. My mother and Randy's cousin had picked my friend and my friend's mom and sister and brought them to the resturant we were eating at. It was a great reunion. I started to cry because I was so happy to see them all. we still keep in touch and hopefully next year we will be able to see her.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
That is really cool that your friend made the arrangements that she did so that she was able to surprise you at your wedding. I would imagine that would be something that you will remember for the rest of your life. With that said, I do hope that you will get to see her next year.
@sasalove (1710)
• China
5 Jul 12
There is certain reason that we could not be together in our life, particularly for friend. Different age phase would be having different kind friend. I have one best friend in my colleague. It is the unforgettable time we have ever had. After graduation, I leave to another city for work reason. We also find time to meet other other, maybe once in a year. But sometimes I just feel that the relationship is not as intimate as in campus. The life circle is totally different after graduation.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
To a certain extent, I believe that the friendship that the two of us share would have been something that would have fallen apart by now if it hadn't been for the advent of the internet and facebook. You see, these days, the majority of our communication is done through the computer. However, it is something that is convenient for both of us considering that we are both mothers.
• China
5 Jul 12
i also have a best friend who has been my best friend since the highschool. we were the deskmate and the funny thing is that i dislikeed her on my first sight on her. she was a good student but she didn't concentrate on study at most her time. she liked to talk with classmate even in the study room. thus i dislike her . but as we got to know each other well , i found her is a really good girl . we shared all our secrets with each other. but when we got to the different university in the different city , we did not contact with each other much. and it seemed like that we were away from each other's life and we are not close now. sometimes i missed her so much , and i wanted to talk to her and tell her how much i miss her. but when i called, i did not know what to say. it's really awlful.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
5 Jul 12
That is definitely something that does happen to us all in our lives. It is sad, but I think that all of us do grow apart from some of our friends from time to time. I do consider myself to be quite lucky that I haven't grown apart from Erica over the years.