Here we go again
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
November 26, 2012 10:49pm CST
Phone rings. It's the ex. He went thru the safe looking for his papers, and wants to know where "my mom's bracelet" is.
Deja vu all over again.
We had this conversation before we moved. I told him Annemarie gave me the bracelet, it was a gift, I was keeping it and I would make sure it eventually went to one of the children.
Repeat until it sinks it. Not your mom's bracelet, mine. Not yours, not ours, mine.
"Well she gave it to you expecting that we would be married."
She didn't give it to me conditional on us staying married. It was a GIFT.
GIFT. You don't take gifts back.
Heck, I even ran it by Dearra. No, I didn't tell her it was her dad who was being a jackass. I told her I saw it on Dear Abby. And what did she say?
It was a gift. You don't take gifts back.
Sheez.
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17 responses
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
27 Nov 12
I think that is the point at which you kindly recommend that he kiss a particular part of your anatomy...
The bracelet is yours, and your ex is making it clear just how he earned the title of "ex." 
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
27 Nov 12
You have a very smart daughter and considering how you put it to her, (using Dear Abby), she must have gotten her intelligence from you...
I can't believe that, I agree, his mom gave it to you and really you are not obligated to give to to your daughter, you can sell it if you want unless the mom specifically asked you to keep it in the family or if it was a family heirloom. So good for you Dawn, you told R the right thing..
I can't believe that, I agree, his mom gave it to you and really you are not obligated to give to to your daughter, you can sell it if you want unless the mom specifically asked you to keep it in the family or if it was a family heirloom. So good for you Dawn, you told R the right thing..2 people like this
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Wow, so he just wants it for the money he can get out of it? No comment...lol
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Perhaps one day he will grow up.... At least one can hope. Its a GIFT. He will get over it. Its amazing what jilted ex's can come up with!
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
27 Nov 12
Hi Dawnald. It sounds like he has sour grapes about the divorce. Maybe he still wants to be married, and since you aren't he wants to be a butt head.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Nov 12
he's all hurt feelings and righteous indignation...
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 Nov 12
I agree, that it was a gift. I don't know if I would keep it though, if it meant that I had to fight over it all the time. I hate altercations and would get tired of hearing it.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Nov 12
If he keeps on about it, "there's the door".
@GardenGerty (157692)
• United States
27 Nov 12
He was always Mama's boy and now he wants Mama's jewelry. It was a gift to you, you will gift it to your child. A gift is a gift.
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@GardenGerty (157692)
• United States
28 Nov 12
That makes him even more idiotic. Tell him his mom's bracelet is with the sister and he can just forget about this one completely.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
27 Nov 12
Love for material can bring us down to a level that could make us hate ourselves in some point in life. I've been through this, experienced the loathe and finally have let go. That's only I could do.
You take care honey. 
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
28 Nov 12
Let Go! That is what you should tell him! He needs to just let go! LOL....that is what my son told his ex today. She keeps sending him emails wanting to know what is going on in his life.....so he said....Let go...its her that wanted the divorce...Richard sounds like might be finding things to contact you about...
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
27 Nov 12
I know this guy is a pain, you know where. But while you have been able to let go, he still can't move along and keeps looking for any connection he can with you. This can go on for years, try to take it with a grain of sand and let it slip through your fingers. Just tell yourself it's his problem and keep your energy for positive things. Blessings.
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 12
In my place, we have this term called "bad/ugly elbow".
tell him that you have lost that bracelet, hopefully he will not mention it anymore.
@klystron635 (1519)
• Philippines
27 Nov 12
agree! i mean this is a less serious comment because your ex might get really really mad. so just tell him you lost it or misplaced it.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Nov 12
Really he wouldn't believe me, so I"m just going to tell him it was a gift to me, and that's that.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Nov 12
If I really wanted to tick him off, I'd tell him I sold it for the gold.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
29 Nov 12
You don't take gifts back, ever!!
When my best friend and her boyfriend broke up the last time, his big deal was that he wanted her necklace back that he had given to her. He actually ended up ripping it off of her neck (he broke the chain and I found the pendant on the floor the next morning).
Now I don't know about your mother-in-law's bracelet, but the necklace that I'm talking about wasn't particularly valuable, it was just a necklace that was given to my friend for her birthday and that she treasured because it had her birthstone on it (peridot).
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Dec 12
It is so sad. Am I glad you are with a Real man!
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Dec 12
hi dawn I missed this one.He sure has not changed his spots at all. wow when someone gives me a gift I consider it a gift too. What did he not understand
about its being a gift?Right it is yours as she gave it to you. He is an ex cannot'he get that through his thick skull.An ex for a reason.Yes Dawn I agree a gift is a gift. You do not give it back yes right a jackass. he he. love it.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Dec 12
Funny thing is, I think he totally forgot about it again
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
5 Dec 12
Oh wow. You don't give gifts back when they are given to you. He sounds like an idiot and I see why he is your "Ex". Lol. Some people never change...
