Is He My Roommate Or My Husband? Hmmm.

Yes we have a 9 month old daughter, that's what makes this really complicated.

And he decides to all of a sudden just walk out now? How can he do this to you? It is very sad... I hate to bring this up but does he have someone else that you may not know about? It sounds like he may be in love with someone else... You just don't walk into love and then decide to just fall out of love. It does not work this way! If he can be with you and make a child with you, then surely there has to be some kind of connection here??? How can he just fall out of love with you, and then give you no reason why.. This is sad, very sad.. If I were you, I would ask him what caused his change of heart, so suddenly..

I don't know if there's anyone else or not, but if there is, he does a heck of a good job hiding from me.

That's "hiding it from me"

That is okay.. I read it like you just corrected it.. I did not notice it..

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Hi cream. I'm glad to be here and it's always great to see you here. Well he says that he wants to stay together, but there are issues that makes it impossible to make it work, like religion. We both knew that we had different beliefs before we got married, and now he says that he want me to attend his church every Sunday.
He says that he needs someone that shares the same beliefs because it makes the marriage easier.

A lot of times we don't talk at all, like right now he's over his family's house having Thanksgiving dinner and his family doesn't like me. His aunt says she's a prophet and she knows that I'm not the right woman for him.

The truth is I'm not in love with him but I do care whether he lives or dies. He's not the man I married. He's a completely different person. We literally go days without talking, and when we do talk, it's about the baby or something else.
I know now he's not the man I'm supposed to be with. It sucks.
Happy Thanksgiving Cream. Thanks for your reply.

I am so sorry for you miraclefreebies, really I am. It is very sad that you have to put up with this. He has to have his foot in his mouth! Me and my husband were two different religions and we made it together. We went through a world of fire. But we made it. He listens to gospel music, while I was into R&B. Now, I am listening to gospel as well. And he listens to R&B too. What is his religion? Because as far as I know there is only one religion, and that is the body Of Christ. There is only one religion, like there is only one God. I really believe that he is just making all of this up just to get rid of you. That is his excuse of leaving you. And if his aunt was so much of a prophet, telling him that you two are not meant to be together. That is very untrue! She cannot call herself a prophet, and then try to keep him away from you. You should still be invited for Thanksgiving dinner at their house as well. It is sad that they all treat you like this. God is not pleased with their manner towards you. Why do they hate you so much? And what is your husband's problem, walking out on you like this? I don't know your full story... But, religion should not be the reason that he has fallen out of love with you. He needs to come better than that... It also sounds like his family is trying to turn him against you.. They may have played a part in why you and your husband marriage has fallen apart..

Going to church every Sunday does not make you a Christian. We are Christian's when we live outside of the church. Out Christian life begins here. Not in Church. There is no wonder why you are no longer in love with him anymore. With someone that makes me feel sad, I am very sure that my feelings would change for them too. No one can hold onto love for so long..

He didn't act this way when we first met. All of this started about 5 months after we got married, but at that time I actually thought it was hope, but now I'm sure it isn't.

One thing I don't do is sit around, cry and feel sorry for myself. I always been the type of person that creates happiness, joy and laughter from within myself and from the people and things that I do have in my life.

I have my daughter and other family members, and of course I have myself to keep joy alive.

I know that is right! Never let anyone steal your joy! Your life, love and happiness is just too precious to just let someone turn it into sorrow! I knew you was strong! You will get through this entire situation! All you have to do is call on the name of Jesus, and everything pain will be dismissed from your heart. It just puzzles me why men and women just fall out of love with one another so abruptly. I know that you don't start seeing a man true colors until you get to know him more and more... I understand this myself... I have been through storms after storms in my love life! I refuse to go through anymore! You will make it! I know that you will! god will see you through! Like you said, you and your daughter is what you are thinking about! Keep doing so! Be Blessed in everything that you do!

Cream you are such a smart and sweet person. You remind me of myself. I need some friends like you.

I am glad that you see that.. Sometimes, I feel so tired of my issues that I am dealing with too. Thanks for the BS!

You're right, and I intend on doing just that. Thanks syankee.

I will plan to have that discussions with him soon. Yes it's hard even though I don't love him, and I do agree with you about being free for the love of our lives. Thanks dragon54u.

We can put up with eachother as far as living under the same roof, we don't fight and yell or anything, a lot of times we just don't say anything at all to eachother.

Yes, I cream97 agree to this! Miraclefreebies is very strong in mind and heart! She will get through this! I am just sadden by how her husband is treating her. He needs to be really honest with her, because I believe that he is hiding what is really bothering him. If he had really loved her, he would have never left her to be with his other family and not the one that he created. When he walks out on you, he is walking out on your marriage. It seems that he is stressed out too. But, he needs to talk to you. You are both in this together. And he needs to include you in his feelings. He is not showing you that he cares. He really needs to shape up before it is too late! Miraclefreebies is too much of a beautiful and loving woman to be taken through this by the man that she vowed to spend the rest of her life with! He needs to be more clear with you, miraclefreebies. He is not telling you the REAL reason why he is not into you anymore. Something is up, I can sense it. His family needs to stay out of your marriage, and let him be a man and talk with you. His aunt is no prophet, any woman of God that does not invite her nephew's wife over for Thanksgiving dinner is no prophet! Thanksgiving is supposed to be a day of sharing, love being thankful for what God has given to us all. They are not at all portraying this image on this day, and any other day at that! To treat you so badly on this day, is sickening! I don't get it, why would a man marry a woman if he knows he is not ready to settle down.. I will be praying for you, miraclefreebies. There is a rainbow beneath all of this sadness.

Thanks Chevee and Cream. We have tried counseling before, but he didn't agree with some of the things that she said to him. She didn't take sides, she was totally neutral. She spoke the truth, and he dropped out.

He just can't seem to handle being with you! If he does not feel the same way, just let him go! You have no time for games. You are a very mature woman ready to take charge of your life, you don't need any man trying to slow you down. You have a life that is ahead of you that does not include an stumbling block, like your husband..

You said it right cream, he's definitely a stumbling block.

I'm so sorry to hear that. You don't deserve to be treated that way. We need to do something about this drama in our lives. We should be treated like the queens we truly are. Stress is bad for us, that's why I never let anything drag me down.

I'm generally a happy person, and I'm smiling now, even as I speak. I want you to smile too. Show that man that he can't win. SMILE.

We have tried the talks and the counseling and we're back where we started. It will get figured out though. Hopefully soon. Thanks.

That's right Oreo. We are humans with feelings, and I mean beautiful smart humans that deserves better than what we been getting. I'm sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad you gave him the backend of your boot. Thanks for replying.

YES! we are past all of that. I believe I went into this marriage blindfolded, meaning the truth could of been right under my nose but I failed to see it.