Is He My Roommate Or My Husband? Hmmm.

Did you discuss this with him? do you have kids? well if you are not happy you could go separate ways and live with your own lives and be happy...

I have not personally been through it, but my wife and I have helped many of our friends go through it. If you truly thinks that it is over and so does he, then it is time to sit down with him and make a plan for each of you. It sounds like you are at least on friendly terms with him, just not loving terms. So hopefully you can work out some kind of an arrangment to seperate that will allow the two of you to each have your own seperate homes. Just sit down and talk it out nicely. It could be that one of you depends on the other for housing, and finances, so some things may have to change. New jobs may need to be gotten. You may have wait a few months to save up some money before one of you moves out. But you definately need to sit down and map out a plan of action for the physical seperation, so the two of you can get on with your seperate lives.

hi freebies I had the same thoughts often during that year 2008. After trying my best and trying to talk things over with him as often as I saw a need for that I really thought that is it and we are no more than roommates any more. But as we depend on each other (he is disabled and cant work and so I am the one who works to provide the finances and he is the homemaker) I am strongly against separating or divorce.
But slowly we are getting to the right path with each other again I think. It happened in the first place cause mainly he did not take time any more to be MARRIED, he didnt take time for me and only sat in front of his computer when he was awake instead of seeing he has a wife.

Oh honey, I've been there. It can be a hard situation, but do not stay together just for the baby. It only makes it harder on all of you. Work to be able to get yourself on your feet, and then leave. Set up how you want this to go with him before hand, get it in writing, notarized, witnessed, set up everything that you can think of.

Staying together for the baby will just make you both feel horrible, and will act as a weight around your neck. Bitterness and resentment makes the situation harder, and that darling baby will feel all of it. They are very quick on the uptake when they're young. Find someone you can love, and who will love you back. Life is too short to waste on being unhappy.:)

he is now no more than a roommate. as you are compelled to live with him, it is the situation. Is the concern only the rent or expenses? then you can better leave him.

Sorry to hear that you have had to endure things like this. I am really hoping by now you have been able to work something out and come to Terms of some sort with this situation. Just remember to do what is Best for each other and make sure to make sure no matter what your daughter is taken care of as well. You will be in my Thoughts and Prayers for the Best.