Where Is A Good Place For A 30-Something Woman To Meet Single Men?

Yeah, maybe I should just keep doing what I am doing. I never have been able to meet anyone at the bar or at the club either. I'm no hottie and most of the men there are looking for that. I don't consider myself ugly, but I think I'm rather plain.

Listen up you! You are a beautiful woman! You have alot to
offer a good man! You just have to be patient and wait for
the right man to find you! Stop looking and worrying! You
will find someone when you least expect it! I can promise
you that! You have a good heart and are intelligent and are
worthy of someone wonderful! Just wait...

Thank you! I know I should be more patient. I know I'm not ugly and that one day a man will see how beautiful I am inside and out. I'm just going to keep doing what I have been doing. Doing things with the kids. Hopefully, I will find a man worthy of me!

You're a beautiful woman. Everyone has a good thing in them. Feel good about your self every moment.

Thank you so much, manunulat!

I have tried online personals, but I just can't seem to find a man on them either. I guess I am just a lost cause.

You are NOT a lost cause! sheesh! lol
I heard them talking about this on the radio the other day.
They were talking about top 10 places to meet singles or something. I wish I could remember more of them for you. Myspace was up there.
I think the mentioned clubs.
Dog parks were up there (I live in south florida there are several of those here)
Theres a thing down here called "events and adventures" that sounds cool to me, If I were single and looking, I would try that. I don't know if they have that in other places around the country (haven't checked your profile to see where you live). To me doing something FUN that you enjoy doing even without thinking about meeting someone, sounds ideal to me. The bowling sounded good, but I imagine after a while you tend to see the same people over and over again, and I don't imagine you do a LOT of mingling.

Maybe just focus on what you enjoy doing for YOU and do those things and if you're lucky you'll meet someone that enjoys doing some of the same things as you.

Yes, I know I'm not a lost cause, but man, sometimes it just feels like it. Maybe just sticking to my usualy things like the bowling and taking the kids to park is a good idea. I mean, I need a guy who is understanding that I'm a mother and if they are interested in me after seeing me with my children then that is definitely a plus.

Its when you think of yourself as a lost cause that you won't be able to find anyone. Even if you are just faking it....I want you to feel like you are the sexiest woman alive. Walk with your head up, a smile on your face, and look everyone in the eyes and just nod a hello.

This is when you get noticed! Men are attracted to confident and independent women. And even if you don't feel confident, fake that you are confident with everything that I mentioned above. And keep a smile on your face. Never let them see that you feel insecure~!!!

Sometimes in life you have to fake it until you make it. So fake that you are not insecure and definitely don't think of yourself as a lost cause. I have been following some of your postings. Girl, you have just lost your groove.

Today is the last day that you lack confidence. Tonight celebrate by watching your favorite chick flick...and tomorrow the world is yours. Talk to everyone, say hello to everyone, but most of all keep your head up and don't seem like you are NEEDING to find someone. But just that you are interested in meeting new people. Both men and women...you never know when she might be looking for someone for her single best guy friend!!!

Yeah, just say, "I am sexy, I am beautiful..." in your mind makes you feel good about yourself. Go for it! We'll cheer you up!

You are so right, OceanZealot! I do need to be more confident and I actually am feeling more confident lately. I am going to try to get out more and possibly meet new people. It is rather hard to do with children, but I'm going to try and figure something out so I can. I'm definitely going to get my groove back!

I have tried internet dating. It doesn't work for me. I don't know why, but I just can't ever find a guy that I'm interested on there.

Wow! I never even thought about Craigslist! That would be weird! Yes, I wish I could take some classes, I think it would be a whole lot of fun. Maybe some day soon I can, I will just have to wait and see.

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad marrying such a bad woman. I agree, I must be careful and I think it is partly my "carefullness" that has kept me out of the dating game for so long. I am very picky when it comes to dating. I plan to stay that way too.

That's right, be picky and set your standards. Having standards is good for you. It's like setting a goal with a plan.

Yes, I do have Myspace, but I only add people who I know, so I have only friends and family on there. You can't be too careful anymore, you are so right!

Hey this is how I feel too about fate. I believe fate will bring him to you, just be patient. Let him come to you for I believe in my heart he will come to you in due time.

I guess what you said about myspace guys are true... most of them are just there to mess with hearts and leave false hopes and dreams...

been there...

It is sometimes hard to do what I would want to do because I am raising my son totally alone with no family around to help me with him. I have help with my daughter, but my son I have 24/7 unless I'm working. The only activities that I get to be involved in are my children's activities. I'm hoping that some man will notice me while being involved with these activities. Maybe I will get lucky sometime soon!

Yes, I understand.

Do you have other single mom friends who can take turns taking the kids to give some free time to each other?

If you can try to find PWP (Parents Without Partners), they are a great support group. You can even get scholarships for the kids through them, they have activities that involve the kids, too.

PM me your basic area and my mom, who is an active officer in it, can find a group in your area. She said that parents of all ages are involved and it is a wonderful support group. It may just be the thing that you need to start enjoying life more.

Hugs

There's still hope! How many times do the sitcoms and ABC Family channel movies use the soccer-coach-falls-in-love-with-soccer-mom story line and still get attention from it? Maybe it happens in real life too!

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You are so full of good advice nanajanet! You have really helped lift my spirits!

You are welcome and you have lifted mine, too, by saying thanks. Just look for good. Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "Happiness is something that you are, and it comes from the way you think." He also says, "f you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

Yes, I do have a single lady that I work with who wants to take her daughter bowling with me and my daughter. I'm hoping we can start doing this regularly, that is if I can get a babysitter for my son to do so. He is only 2 and if I take him to the bowling alley then he will be trying to run around which wouldn't be good at all.

That is great!! It is just a matter of you deciding to share your life with others. Hugs!