Can you still justify and stand by any lie you have told in your life?

I lied once to get out of going to a picnic with my friend who I adore and her husband who I cannot stand. It was Boxing Day last year and I told my friend that we had already been invited to my husband’s friend's house for lunch and that I felt very sorry but could not possibly make the picnic! The truth was that my husband and I had nothing to do and were quite happy staying home with our daughter. I felt guilty and the worse thing was that I had to carry the lie on when I saw her again and she asked me how the lunch went! I hated to lie but it had been a particularly stressful period in my life and my friend’s husband was the last person I needed to spend an entire day with! I know...I am bad...Very bad...

I have lied to a friend when she became so bossy and had to know my every move. Told her I had to work which I did not. Didn't want to meet her for lunch. By the way, she is no longer a friend. Just an acquaintance now because I couldn't listen to her stories about her sorry, sad life any longer. She drove me crazy and I only lied to save my sanity. I call it self defense..lol If her life was really that bad then it's time to get off her rearend and do something about it. She would rather complain and moan then make changes. My husband couldn't stand to listen to her either and didn't want her here at our house.

Bala, I have never been able to justify a lie and have found myself in a very sheepish or ashamed situation depending on the nature and what made me lie. The only reason that i can ever think that i may try to justify that is when it comes to lying about some grave news to very old or sick person. So far i have not had to and i hope i never have to.

one of my friend is a flirt but since i like her very much,i have told everyone that this aint true but if confronted by anyone,i would still stand by what i said,maybe its childishness!!

Lying in certain situations could be due to a desperate need to save yourself from a more serious consequence or to save a loved one but normally self defense of your self or your family or property or your relatives would be a very justifiable reason.

as a parent I will admit to having told lies we parents lie to our children quite often sometimes without realizing it any lie that I have told my kids I will stand by because there is always a good reason for having to lie to them I cant think of any particular example right now but if I do I will come back

Coming to think about it, I really had to tear my hair Bala. That means, I couldn't really remember an occasion that made me stand by my lie. I did lie on some occasions but then those are white lies and my mom also knew that I was lying. As a grown up, I do not see myself doing that. Do not know about future but I wish I do not have to do that ever. That reminds me of someone very close, who stood by his lies to save his marriage. He is still lying that same lie, he has to for he loves his wife and do not want to lose her to some compromising situations in life. Grossly sad!

Hullo Bala!I can definitely stand by a lie I had told and here it is.When my son was a little kid I used to make him eat ragi porridge[kanji] and I brainwashed him with Amaarchithra katha Hanuman saying that Lord Hanuman used to take ragi porridge and also vegetables[ this is no lie--Hanuman would certainly love vegetables] .Once when he was 2 years old my cousin[spoilsport that he is ] kept on " Hey Kala ! Did Hanumar hAVE RAGI"and giggled to my chagrin and I kept looking daggers at him.Till date mmy son teases me saying that I lied to him and I keep telling him" Yes ;yes it is so".Apart from these white lies I have a clear conscience and can say that I have not lied except perhaps once.Then it was a purely personal visit by someone and this had to remain within the family.When someone asked I had to evade the issue.THis is the lie I had to say.

I hate to lie but sometimes am force to lie in order to save my skin.

Sometimes moms tell lies to protect their kids ,but I have always being the kind of person who hates lies ,and to me there is no justification for telling lies because sooner or later every single lie is always exposed.

hi balasri yes Indeed I could, my best friend asked me if her pants made her look big.well they did but not that big. what was I going to say,you look huge,she really did look' nice in them and her hips were still smaller than mine,so I said no indeed you look great. okay so she is a bit hippy but' she is a rather pretty hippy senior citizen and I am not going to hurt her feelings for anything in the world. so that was my lie and I stand by it. so there.

Logically speaking, if you lie you have to stand by it because if you dont, most people will not believe you anymore. However, if you stood by your lie when you've already been found out, then you have a lot more to lose. So as a rule of thumb, tell the truth. Of course its a lot easier said than done since telling truths and lies are very complicated things. It might seem easy but there are a lot of factors involved that makes us choose which one we will follow. I dont remember any lie that Id need to defend since most of the lies that I tell are jokes. When the joke expires, the lie expires, and everybody forgets about it. I dont remember any lie I said that was damaging. The biggest joke/lie that I could remember was this: a friend's sister had a kid and she was showing off her nephew to us. One of our friends was late so she didnt know the kid was a nephew. I joked to the late comer that the child was our common friends' baby. We were smiling when I said that but I guess she believed it. We had fun that day that nobody remembered to correct the joke. That incident was forgotten, but I think that late comer friend still believes up to this day that the child was our friends' son.