Trying to Maintain Sanity

What can I do to help you my friend? Do you want to talk, send me a pm. I am busy, but not too busy for a friend. Hugs to you dear. Let someone know how to help you.

Writing helps too. I went back to a therapist a couple of months ago. I was just overwhelmed with some recent realizations about my entire life.... from childhood. The therapist started a women's therapy group. We meet every Monday from 12:30 to 2:30 pm. I really like it. We get writing assignments to do every week. Last week I came away from the group feeling really happy and more appreciative of my family (my kids and husband). I was amazed at how that writing assignment, that I didn't want to do, affected me. I always leave my writing to the last minute (haven't done my assignment for tomorrow yet) but spend the week pondering what I should write about. This week I'm supposed to write a letter to someone, but not necessarily mail it. I really don't want to do this assignment. There was one negative thing that came from last week's assignment. I wrote about a broad span of my life (we were supposed to "open a memory box" and write about what is inside). The other members of the group focused on something I thought trivial and really am sick of people telling me what to do about it (not telling my daughter that her father is not her bio dad). I just want to put it behind me and deal with it on my own terms but everyone has an opinion. Anyway, this kind of group is more helpful to me than any therapy I have had in the past. It might be something you want to look into. ((((HUGS))))

I know it can be, things can just get so out of hand. If you need a shoulder, I'd be glad to listen. Take one day at a time and keep your head up.

hi elusive butterfly. what is wrong? is there something I can do or say to help. I am a good listener and have broad shoulders too.Maybe you just need to let it out to someone who can just listen to you. Is this to do with your family again? I would love to help any way I could. It sounds like you need to talk this out with anyone who could just listen.

Hi. I've been in that situation a few months ago. I kept myself busy reading books and listening to audio books. I had the tendency to withdraw from anyone but I tried my very best to maintain regular communication with my loved ones and family. Also, I have surrendered everything to the Lord Almighty.

hey elusive butterfly.. you dont need to maintain an image to consider yourself sane.. just try to live you life so that you wont be able to think of problems that you are currently facing.. lol. and of course crying is never an option.. crying wont get you anywhere but there.. and maybe if you cry all the time you will be flooded by your own tears.. lol.. kidding.. failure is just a way of bringing you down.. so i say get up and move on.. if you think maintaining an image is necessary then stop that thought.. just be yourself and il guarantee that you will be as sane as you can be.. best of luck to you.

I'm sending you lots of gentle hugs. My heart breaks for you. Hang tight, you will get thru this. you have friends here that care. Let us help you, I know we are not there physically, we do care. Start a discussion and ask for prayer, you know we all will be glad to pray for you, in fact I just did. Take care, I hope things get better...

Oh Elusive I wish I could be there for you and help you through with this I know what you are going through and please try to stay strong I really hope things will settle down for you soon, if you need to talk pm me I am sending you big warm Hugs

Hi there, it's me again....having similar issues. I think that it is just making things worse that it is "THAT TIME" of year again...."sigh" I just keep telling myself that even though things could be worse...they just are not good. I try to think that tomorrow will be better...even though I know it won't...but maybe next week will bring some relief. I really don't care how bad it gets because I know it is human nature to make it through somehow. So even as my mind plays the poor, poor, pitiful me drama....I just hold a thread and sway above the pit of agony and wait until I figure out a way to pull myself out...I want to let go and scream as I fall in but my fingers get tangled and I don't fall...So just keep venting and cry if you need but remember it will subside and a new problem will be on the horizon...it's what makes us stronger and wiser....there is also fantasizing ....I am going to pretend I am ghost and nothing will be expected of me......whatever works is what I always say. Hang in there even if you think you can't....you can. Blessed be, Mari

What is depressing you so much? This sounds terrible. I know depression can be very hard at times. I have been significantly depressed for over 2.5 years, since the domestic violence started. I try lots of ways to lead each day. I read a lot, it helps me escape. I do lots of activities with my daughter, principaly the swimming. I am looking for a part time job, which is not easy when one is over 50. My Doctor said just before I made my husband leave home, that I should have had a nervous breakdown. Im sure you have visited a Doctor. I know you work and are very active. What do you think is causing you to not improve with your depression? I really wish I could help.

You've become depressed my friend and need to seek medical help.

Sounds like depression to me. Are you dealing with this yourself or have you sought help? Myself, I didn't go the traditional route (MD and counseling), I was treated by a Naturopathic doctor, and it was a huge help. Not fun, depression, I hope it gets better for you.

Bless your heart, u have had enough to happen to lose your sanity but don't do tht. U got to hang tough & this to shall pass. I said a prayer for u. Don't know whether u believe in prayer but if u do ask for prayers. i hope u get to feeling better.

Crying is a good way to release some of the tension and you should feel free to cry as often as you need, I think, people, especially men try to bottle their need to weep and show their emotions and that is the worst thing you can do; bottling will definitely not maintain the sanity! I know you are going through a very tough time; I don’t know all the details but if I can help please do not hesitate to send me a message. One day, one hour, even one minute at a time is how we need to live during times like these. Do you have someone you can talk to? Try and do as many enjoyable activities as you can and put off unpleasant ones for now until you feel better. I hope thing get better for you ElusiveButterfly I really do...

Hello friend. Doing something that lessens the stress is very important to us. Otherwise we would always live in the state of being stressed caused by things and people around us. Enjoy your way of lessening your stress. Cheer up, friend.

Trying to maintain sanity, huh.. good topic. Sometimes having nothing to do can also be a bit of a problem for me too, LOL. Listening to music and doing workout can be a good thing too. Try it. I don't intend to exercise with music of course, that would look corny on me, ha! But I love to just lie down, relax and listening to some music, reading some books and jotting down notes on what to blog and stuff like that. Oh yeah, and mylot keeps me going too. Especially if there are interesting discussions to answer. I notice that sometimes in life, we need to have something occupied if not, we can go a bit blank. Not saying you, but I do experience that at times. At times I would be so engrossed into something and would be deadbeat tired that sleeping is the best option. But when I have too much sleep, my fingers would do the running here in the lot, or calling up mates to hang out.

We all have the power to CHOOSE what we deem important in this world. Are the things you are stressing over more important than YOU??? If God wants you here on Earth, He has to find a way to get you fed. If you are sick and still wants you on Earth, He has to heal you. If you absolutely need help, it will show up from somewhere. So RELAX, smell the roses along the way in life. The very best things in life surround you. Can you see???? Learn the lessons you need to learn. Be who you must! It's a part of the plan. Finally, give love and kindness to everyone you meet. Help those you can and encourage those you can't. After all, this world is a great place because you are in it!!!

Hi Elusivebutterfly, Nice account name... well it's important to discuss things on how to maintain our sanity. we need to be kind to ourselves by taking good care of it. I do all the things that you've mentioned to relax. I even cried. I know up to what degree i can cry. I am still in my normal mode LOL.

been there and, sometimes, still doing that. it helps if you just let the phase pass and live your days one minute at a time. no thinking of what the future might bring because it will just cause your more depression. also, finding a catharsis will help you big time. for me, i have my writing, cooking, and friends as my catharsis. try to find out what is yours. and, you're right. crying helps but it gets tiring sometimes too.

Trying to find something to occupy yourself is really a good thing, but even more if you can get excited about it.. If you can almost get obsessed about it, it's a really good way to distract your mind.