Is it necessary to make unkind assumptions in comments?  

hi garden gertie he said he did not apolgize for what he said, and I thought it must be nice to be so darned righteous. he he.
I don't think I responded as I got this idea for a discussion and did not go back. I will tell the person that there are agencies that aid in caring for pets. yes kind voices get blotted our while we are all trying to do the best we can for ourselves.

hi fwidman me too been there and done that. one of our mylotters says there are agencies that will aid people in caring for their pets. I am going to respond to that person's discussion after all as I can tell him or her there is help. I think people get so used to be they can do that they forget there but for the grace of God go I.

Often there are vets in an area that will care for animals for a lower price because they truly care about animals. A call to that person's local animal shelter should be able to gather that type of information.
I always have liked that phrase, there but for the grace of God go I

hi fwidman me too long ago Ihad a dog and a cat and would have felt just awful if one of them were ill and I could not afford
to pay for the vet. but we did know a vet friend who would have helped us out had we needed help.

mlhuff12 yes of course there is that but still why kick someone when he is down, out of work, and thinks his dog may be ill? thats not the time to preach at him. this person had the dog for many years. I know almost all of us are really very caring
people on mylot and I have some good suggestions for the person with the ailing dog now.

Mlhuff12, I can understand your point about myLot being a discussion forum, so if you post a discussion then you should expect differences of opinions, and likewise if you ask for help with a problem then you might not like all the solutions that people come up with. That being said, we should all try to respect each other and try to word things so that we do not offend people or hurt their feelings - constructive criticism versus destructive criticism. From the sound of it, this person was just being cruel to somebody that was obviously concerned about the welfare of his dog, who he obviously loves, so that is totally uncalled for, in my opinion.

I agree that we should try to be sensitive to others. However, some people are so thick headed that they may not even know what they're saying and how it really looks.

That is a very good point. They might think that they are being helpful, and that might truly be their motivation, but to other people reading their words, they really are sounding cruel and insensitive. I did have one experience with somebody like that. This person was trying to help, but the way they worded their reply sounded very mean, especially since the original poster of the discussion was on the verge of a crisis and very sensitive. I tried to help, but the responder bit my head off. I just do not think that this person realized how their words really sounded to everybody else, especially since I was not the only one that thought this person was being rude. I guess that there are people like that everywhere, and we just have to do our best to try to avoid them and not let their words bother us too much when we do encounter them. That is much easier said than done, though, especially when we are already feeling upset about things that are happening on our lives.

yes I think he thought he was helping but the person posting about his dog did not feel that way and thus he was far from being helped. a postive thing would have been to suggest he may'
be able to find a place that assists pet owners when they have financial problems with paying a vet.

hi catdla1 yes thats the way I felt too as things now in'our economy can change so fast as my own life changed, and we did
not do anything wrong but it still happened. I wondered about
that too, I can imagine how he would feel in that situation and that does happen too. when I broke my left shoulder and had to have a shoulder joint replacement it cost 86000 dollars and if I had not been on medicare and secure horizons how would Ihave been able to pay it? it boggles the mind, and this also happens to people younger than myself who do not have adequate insurance. yet they have to have the replacement as you could not go around with crumbled bone in your shoulder. Seems to me that kindness does not cost a penny.

Hi Hatley! Thanks! Did you see that I found the discussion you were referencing? The individual who was so unkind seemed to think that affordable and comprehensive pet insurance was available globally. I gave (I think) a more encouraging and kinder answer and pointed out to the rude responder that insurance probably is not available everywhere. That person was one who would certainly benefit from walking a mile or two in some one else's shoes.

hi glad you found it as I have been searching but evidently not in the right place. glad you said something to that harsh man
and maybe it will help him to be more sympathetic to others from now ond. I guess we all tend to think everyone is in the same boat and that's so silly as we come from all over the world and from different circumstances too

Kashmeresmycat yes it just struck me as being really unkind
and rather thoughtless. People who are in no pain just do'
not realize that there are so many out of work and they
almost all have had pets for years. No keep your cat and do'
whatever you can he he. So many people on mylot are out of'
work right now and we should all be aware of this situation.

I agree! Something else the commenter overlooked....Isn't the discussion starter here on mylot?! I mean come one! Maybe they're trying to make some money to take thier pet to the vet. At least they're trying. I can't stand people that flap thier jaws. Think before you say (or type) something! Geez, or do they seriously not care? If not, they will soon when it's them. Then they'll start a discussion looking for sympathy, while some smart alek posts like they did and then they'll whine. Sorry, I'm rambling. Lol, maybe I should go smoke. Errr... it makes me so angry to see that!

hi fellow mylotters I just hope that one day the commenter
realizes he or she could just as easily be in the same
financial problems as the dog owner and then will whimper that nobody seems to care. lol maybe what goes around
will come around again and bite the commenter in the butt.

hi tamarafireheart yes thats what another mylotter told me and I am going to suggest to the pet owner that he find out if there is help for pets in his area,I believe it was a he. I will soon
find out. I would love to have a cat or dog, small one of course, but while its allowed it ups your rent a hundred dollars a month which I cannot afford. so I just share occasionally when someone shows me their cat or dog. he he.

Hi Java 09 yes I do agree as we all have problems and we bring
them to mylot to see if the rest may be able to help us. You
know I have also been on the wrong end of a rude crack when I
mentioned I needed to lose weight. I think people feel its just fine to make mean sarcastic cracks about us overweight people. That could have been suggested in a kind way without being mean or rude, and really that person was judging you and not knowing at all what your situation was.a lot of overweight people do not eat junk food, and theres a zillion reasons why they are overweight.

Oh Java09, you have just pushed one of my "buttons"! It really gets me all worked up when people assume that overweight people eat a ton of unhealthy, junk food, don't exercise, are lazy, etc. There are way too many factors that contribute to obesity that everybody can't be lumped into one group, and there is no "magic cure" for it. If there was, then some people would not be fighting with it all their lives, especially when they do try to eat healthy foods, exercise, practice portion control, and count calories. Some factors are genetic, and others are situation-related, and these are sometimes out of our hands, so the weight creeps on and once there it is very difficult to get rid of, especially if there are factors other than unhealthy eating working against you. It makes me so angry that people feel that they have a right to be rude to people that are overweight or even obese, because they feel that these people do not have the same rights as everybody else or their feelings do not matter or whatever their twisted little minds believe. I am sorry for going on about this. Did I mention that this issue is one of my "hot buttons"?

hi purple me too, I am overweight due to a bunch of things and iA am diabetic, some of my weight came from the side effects of Avandia which has warnings on it now but still on the shelf,I gained forty five pounds in three weeks, all in my legs,once off of it I lost about thirty pounds but the other weight plus gaining more snuck back on. I am determined this is the year, my doctor just looked at me and smiled, but he also said he wants to see me every three months now instead of six months so guess my weight and my not so good blood sugar control has convinced him I have problems with the food that Gold Crest serves just,too much carbs not enough protein. but i am starting to work on it, and hopefully in a month or two the scales will move down for me.

hi dragon54u yes that is true and its sad because too many times
they mistake the contents and again they also have never been unemployed and dont even know what its like. to judge someone just because they are out of work is both unfair and unkind. He as much as admitted he was harsh but said he did not apologize. well my it must be nice to be so self righteous. The poster was really worried about his pet dog, and I know that feeling myself.
He did protest against that commenters response but it did no
good. sad to think like that.

hi ElicBxn I am so glad that there are people like you who
will help these poor pets to get into a home where they
are wanted. thats great that you have found homes for 17
cats in the last few years. I wish more people would do
that.I grew up on the farm, and town people would drop off
unwanted kittens and puppies too along our fence. we would
take them in and care for them, then find another farm family'who did want a kitten or a puppy as we knew they 'would give them a good home and care for them. the town people were not as kind to animals.

if they'd just FIX their pets they wouldn't have this problem!

My folks fixed our dog back in 1959, so the procedure has been around a while...

yes I am sure it was even back then so they just did not'
want to spend what was probably pretty cheap fees then to
neuter their pets,and just dumped them on our farm instead.'I am so proud of my parents as they made sure these little pets would have good homes with loving people who would care for them.

hi allknowing yes that is a great idea and also ask the
pet owner to check and see if there are agencies in his
city that help pet owners who are without funds. But I
really do not want to start a fight with this person.
we shall see.