Stupid legal system
By TheRealDawn
@dawnald (85137)
Shingle Springs, California
24 responses
@mentalward (14690)
• United States
12 May 10
I've always thought that divorce should be the easy part. Getting married should be hard!
I have to agree with you about the "stupid legal system". I've had dealings with it (as the innocent one) several times in my life and it would be so much simpler if this saying wasn't true: "Men, you can't live with them, you can't shoot them."
Once we get wrapped up in the legal system, THAT'S when things get complicated. All we can do is play along with the game, take deep breaths, do some meditation and dream of revenge. 
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 May 10
Oh it really isn't as bad as all that. I just don't want to go down to the dang courthouse and pay the stupid fee and then have to get somebody else to serve him because I can't do it. It's just a little intimidating, I guess... I'm not even into the whole mess with custody and property and all that crap yet.
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@mentalward (14690)
• United States
12 May 10
I've done that myself. It wasn't bad. The worst part was finding a parking spot. 
The people at the courthouse were very nice and helpful.
It is a pain when you think of all the paperwork involved and those stupid little fees but it's a lot cheaper than doing it through a lawyer. I know a lawyer would have wanted at least four times more just for taking the forms to the courthouse, probably more.
Good luck, though. I hope you don't have any problems with the custody or property issues or, if you do, that they are minor and can be resolved quickly.
The people at the courthouse were very nice and helpful.
It is a pain when you think of all the paperwork involved and those stupid little fees but it's a lot cheaper than doing it through a lawyer. I know a lawyer would have wanted at least four times more just for taking the forms to the courthouse, probably more.
Good luck, though. I hope you don't have any problems with the custody or property issues or, if you do, that they are minor and can be resolved quickly.2 people like this
@commanderxo (1494)
• Canada
12 May 10
"Revenge is a dish...best served cold."
Be it man, OR woman...someone always winds up getting hurt the most.
cdrxo
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@GardenGerty (169449)
• United States
12 May 10
Well, Dawnie, I did not know that was the case, about the shoes, guess it depends on the tribes. I suppose Mr. Helpless is trying to fight back?
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 May 10
He's acting like nothing's wrong again. But I'm just whining because I have to get offa my duff and go down to the courthouse and deal with this...
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 May 10
The 500 nations were connected to their , the earth. And thus really connected to each other. I wouldn't be a good Native American.I am not connected to the earth, not really.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
12 May 10
Hang in there. It will be tough but in the end you will be free. If you ever need to talk, send me a private message.
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@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
12 May 10
As easy as that? You could organise his demise out here by a 'shotta'(gunman) for US$50. Well, I do know that that is expensive but it may be something to think about............. I do hope that you have smiled?
I do hope that you have smiled?3 people like this
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 10
i had to do this 4 times. the biggest problem i had was each time another was waiting for me to bring his shoes in
yes i guess it was a lot easier for my ancestors. 
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 10
well if it's the wrong guy, just put those shoes right back out again!!!
@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 May 10
Yeah in 1602, if you were native American...
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
13 May 10
How frustrating...Putting his shoes out of the door would be so easy and it sure would help if he was in those shoes and walked away in them! I bet he still carries on as if nothing is wrong and you’re the one that feels like your life is on hold...Typically male behaviour...Deny, deny, deny and it all may just go away!
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@purplealabaster (22085)
• United States
12 May 10
I think that I am very lucky that it was a mutual decision that we talked about and agreed upon. It was difficult enough then, even though it was amicable and we still are friends and interact. I am sorry to hear that you have to go through this.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 May 10
This isn't mutual, but so far it's mostly amicable...
@purplealabaster (22085)
• United States
12 May 10
It is great if it can remain amicable, especially if it is not mutual. I hope that it works out for you, especially since that would be best for the children as well as the two of you.
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@udayrao2 (781)
• India
13 May 10
What do you mean by a "Native American" - a "Red Indian" or what I presume !! - I am a little confused as I belong here in Asia - so please explain what it ( the whole para) all means then maybe I can respond
Thanks in anticipation of clarification
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 10
I was reading that in some native American tribes, ie peoples native to the Americas before there were European settlers, that the women could divorce their husbands by placing his shoes outside the tent or house. I'm just saying that I wish it were that simple nowadays.
@udayrao2 (781)
• India
14 May 10
Hi
Are you sure about your history & facts? B'cos I do not think the natives of that time would be wearing footwear ( which came much later) in the olden ages!!! More likely that the wives left something else outside the door if there was one!!
And jokes apart -yes - sometimes the legal system is too complicated even for simple matters where there everything is crystal clear- I think the old days were better in this regard.
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@BarBaraPrz (51818)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
12 May 10
If only it were that simple...
Or, you could do like Evelyn Di ck (local woman of infamy from the 50s) did...
They only found his torso... 
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
12 May 10
This morning was him trying to kiss me as if nothing's wrong and then trying to make me feel bad because I wouldn't. Oh well.... Denial is a powerful thing, I guess.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
15 May 10
If you want to become a native American, you'd have to abide by ALL their tribal laws and traditions. Like our laws, some were just and fair, but some were not. I understand that some nomadic tribes would go off and leave to die the elderly who could no longer keep up with the tribe.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 May 10
I don't know that being a Native American would make anything any easier than the way that we have to deal with it today. Life is tough and I think that in all eras of the human life it has been difficult. It is just that the problems that we have to deal with today are far different from the issues that people had to deal with in the past. I'm sorry to hear that you are currently having problems with our legal system.
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@dawnald (85137)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 May 10
Oh not a problem with the legal system specifically, just intimidated by all the forms and so on...
