Stupid legal system  

I'm just whining. Don't mind me....

Realy Dawny?? You think i would fall for that one??

Why wouldn't you fall for it?

Because i'm not really that stupid???

Oh well there is that....

I am really just whining mostly. But having to go to a courthouse and file papers is a wee bit intimidating to me, not to mention the part about having to serve papers on him, bla bla bla. But I'm fairly certain that I'll survive.

I know you will survive Dawny. Just be patient, okay.

ok but that's the hard part

Not really. Just try not to think about it.

No, the hard part is when he acts like everything is normal and then gets grouchy and makes me feel bad when I make it clear that things aren't normal. :(

Unfortunately most men behave that way. Don't let him make you feel bad, okay.

am trying not to...

Ok Dawny, try this. Everytime you think about it, pinch yourself. At the end of next week, you tell me how many blue marks you have, okay.

No, I don't think so...

And if i ask very, very nice. PPLLEEAASSEE. It won't hurt, i promise.

howabout if I make a check mark on a piece of paper every time he does something that makes me feel bad, and I count those up next week?

Okay, but what will we do with it next week, then?? Kick him, spray him with something. Any ideas??

just don't take the bait, I'm a thinking...

Would you mind thinking a bit faster.

Good God,

Is that all it takes ? A simple Check Mark? .. I'm all over that.
One Mississippi , Two Missippissi, Thre...Opppps.. there go the da*n shoes.

moonbutters

just a few little old check marks on this little old form here...

Moon, you do it like this, 1,2,3. Missispi takes too long.
Dawny, finished thinking yet??

I ain't finished waking up yet!

Get up already. Open those eyes.

and then perhaps some chocolate?

There's free breakfast today at work, that will help. :-)
Plus, shhhh, I brought chocolate too! :D

i think you need it. so first breakfast = free breakfast, second breakfast = chocolate. do you need any more breakfasts? i usually do

Breakfast at home, breakfast at work, two pieces of chocolate and then a danish (from breakfast at work) for dessert this afternoon. I will not be walking out the door tonight, I'll be rolling.

"Revenge is a dish...best served cold."

Be it man, OR woman...someone always winds up getting hurt the most.


cdrxo

Oh it really isn't as bad as all that. I just don't want to go down to the dang courthouse and pay the stupid fee and then have to get somebody else to serve him because I can't do it. It's just a little intimidating, I guess... I'm not even into the whole mess with custody and property and all that crap yet.

I've done that myself. It wasn't bad. The worst part was finding a parking spot. The people at the courthouse were very nice and helpful.

It is a pain when you think of all the paperwork involved and those stupid little fees but it's a lot cheaper than doing it through a lawyer. I know a lawyer would have wanted at least four times more just for taking the forms to the courthouse, probably more.

Good luck, though. I hope you don't have any problems with the custody or property issues or, if you do, that they are minor and can be resolved quickly.

Commander, you mean I should put the poison in the COLD applesauce?

With this divorce that I did myself, I don't think either one of us was actually "hurt". By the time I filed, I was over the pain and just wanted it done with. He was free to pursue and conquer all the women he wanted to, or at least TRY to... mostly it was in his mind or while watching a sexually explicit movie by himself.

It's probably not as intimidating as I make it out to be. I just want to do it the way I want to do it, and that's not the way it has to be done.

Hopefully we won't need to involve lawyers. I'd rather keep the money for living expenses and whatever...

It would be nice if it could all be done online or even through snail mail. Marriage licenses should be renewable every five years or so. If we want out, just don't renew it. In a perfect world....

Anyway, I hope it all goes very smoothly for you.

Science fiction, but maybe one day it will become reality...

thanks!

Evil Dawn laughed....

He's acting like nothing's wrong again. But I'm just whining because I have to get offa my duff and go down to the courthouse and deal with this...

Or the nice German lady in Galapagos. They never did find a body...

This morning was him trying to kiss me as if nothing's wrong and then trying to make me feel bad because I wouldn't. Oh well.... Denial is a powerful thing, I guess.

I think the idea is that if the shoes are outside, the body will follow...

How about putting some bait in the shoes . . . like some brownies - hee hee!

That would probably attract skunks. Dawn is deciding if that is a good thing or a bad thing.

Ha ha! Will the shoes have "stunk" before the skunks or after (or both)? Ha ha.

either way, better to have them out of the house!

This isn't mutual, but so far it's mostly amicable...

It is great if it can remain amicable, especially if it is not mutual. I hope that it works out for you, especially since that would be best for the children as well as the two of you.

especially the children...

Nope, all German and Polish and Russian Jewish and English...

I don't think that's an option in California. He has to be served either by 1) somebody who is not me handing him his papers or by 2) somebody who is not me sending them to him certified mail. Then that person has to fill out a form and send it to the court.

Can't hurt to check on it, it's just a waiver.

I shall check...

Nope, looks not to be an option...
If I don't know his whereabouts, he can be served via a newspaper notice, but that isn't the case here.

Fruits, nuts and flakes.........;irish runs;

Dawn throws stale granola in the general direction of Texas...

;catches it, picks out raisins and cranberries and throws the rest back; I likes the fruits!!!!!!!

Dawn goes to Arizona and bails out Irish for littering....