An Incidental Afternoon with Mom

@porwest (112876)

United States

February 14, 2024 3:15pm CST

I hadn't planned on having mom along when I ran my few errands today, but she wound up calling me this morning and wanted to know if I was going anywhere. She needed to go to the bank, and she has been unable to drive due to her cataracts which she will be having fixed on the 22nd. Well, one eye then and the other a week after that. It just so happened I had to go to my bank, and needed to pick up a few things at Schnucks, our local grocery store, and Ruler Foods. So, I picked her up and we went to my bank first. I deposited a check and got some cash, and she had some coins to cash in, and my bank has a counter. She got $100 out of that. Then off to Ruler Foods, then her bank, then Schnucks, then I dropped her off and I returned home. She said she had a good time. It slowed me down a bit, of course. But it was worth it.

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@moffittjc (128835)

• Gainesville, Florida

14 Feb 24

Enjoy every second of time with your mom. One day she'll be gone and you'll think back on days like this. Both of my parents are gone now, and I think about them all the time, and how much I would give just to spend a few minutes with them again.

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@LadyDuck (502466)

• Italy

15 Feb 24

Same as you Jeff.

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@moffittjc (128835)

• Gainesville, Florida

20 Feb 24

@porwest Don't beat yourself up for that. I think we all take our parents for granted, thinking they'll always be around.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

My wife reminds me all the time of the importance of it. She lost her mom when she was 12 and her dad when she was 18. I admit I sometimes take it for granted that my parents are both still here.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

15 Feb 24

I'm glad you could spend quality time with your mother.

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@just4him (323168)

• Green Bay, Wisconsin

16 Feb 24

@porwest It means more than you could possibly know. I wish my son would spend more time with me. I too, cherish every moment.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

@just4him I hope the one that you are estranged from, especially, makes his way around. I am sure he will regret it one day if he doesn't.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

16 Feb 24

She cherishes that time more than anything, and sometimes I feel selfish for not thinking about how much it actually means to her. I am tying to get better.

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@kaylachan (84784)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

14 Feb 24

It's nice you got to spend the day with her, even if it was doing adulting.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

That is all I get to do anymore these days, it feels like. lol

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@kaylachan (84784)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

17 Feb 24

@porwest Perhaps the two of you can think of something to do that's not adulting.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

19 Feb 24

@kaylachan Adulting helps to maintain a focus.

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@LadyDuck (502466)

• Italy

15 Feb 24

I remember that sometimes I complained that Mom slowed m down, but now I miss those days.

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@LadyDuck (502466)

• Italy

16 Feb 24

@porwest - You cannot realize how much you will miss them until they are no more.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

16 Feb 24

I have to keep that thought in mind. There is going to be a time when I am going to wish I could be slowed down.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

16 Feb 24

@LadyDuck Very true. Funny how more often than not we DO know that and always tend to forget it.

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@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

14 Feb 24

Nice that you got to spend time with your mom.

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@Happy2BeMe (99353)

• Canada

18 Feb 24

@porwest you are lucky to still have your parents. I miss mine every day. Your wife was so young by the time she lost both her parents. That is sad.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

18 Feb 24

@Happy2BeMe Yeah. I can't even imagine.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

I take it for granted that both my parents are still with me sometimes, and my wife always makes it a point to remind me of it. She lost her mom when she was 12 and her dad when she was 18.

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@MarieCoyle (59217)

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14 Feb 24

I know it means as much to her as it does to you to spend time with her

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

She is always elated in a way only a mother could ever be.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

19 Feb 24

@MarieCoyle I will never know the feeling as we don't have kids of our own. But I can understand it.

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@MarieCoyle (59217)

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17 Feb 24

@porwest I am always so happy to do things with my kids when they ask me. I can't describe the feeling, but when you have children that are grown, and they want you to go to dinner, to come over to their house, to do something with them, or they take you on a trip...anything, really...the feeling a mother gets in her heart is the best feeling in the world. To know that you produced such special people, and that they love you that much...you've got it, she is ''elated'' and I am sure she loves spending time with you.

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@GardenGerty (169474)

• United States

15 Feb 24

I am glad you got to spend time together.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

Me too. In fact, mom is with us now tonight. We are having her spend the night and I have a pot roast in the crock pot. We also had a fun Saturday together going to Trader Joe's on the St. Louis side, and also went to Burlington and Savers.

@Marilynda1225 (91086)

• United States

16 Feb 24

We moms appreciate any time we can spend with our adult kids even if its tagging along doing errands.

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@Marilynda1225 (91086)

• United States

16 Feb 24

@porwest my children are my world

@porwest (112876)

• United States

16 Feb 24

Moms are a special breed of people. Their commitment to their children is amazing. Most dads are like, whatever. But moms? Their children are their entire reason for being.

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@JudyEv (382107)

• Rockingham, Australia

15 Feb 24

Always good to spend time with a mother. I wouldn't mind spending more time with our sons but that isn't going to happen.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

Too bad they live so far away, I guess.

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@NJChicaa (127137)

• United States

14 Feb 24

Enjoy every minute you have with her.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

I admit I sometimes take it for granted that both of my parents are still here. My wife lost her mom when she was 12 and her dad when she was 18 and she reminds me all the time of that.

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@NJChicaa (127137)

• United States

17 Feb 24

@porwest I miss my dad desperately

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

@NJChicaa I can only imagine.

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@LindaOHio (222302)

• United States

15 Feb 24

I'm glad you and your mom got to spend some time together. Have a good day.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

16 Feb 24

It really was fun and with such a simple thing, she had such a great time. I need to try to be less selfish with my time. There is going to come a time when she won't be here and I am going to wish she was.

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@cabuyogty (4487)

• Philippines

16 Feb 24

You all guys were look funny to me. I always do window shopping whenever i have to go outside just to buy mint candy , a water and marshmallows .I had an important things and personal papers to follow up for my own benefits before .

@lazydaizee (6732)

• United Kingdom

15 Feb 24

I hope her cataracts operation goes well. I have cataracts myself and I know what a problem they can be. It was kind of you to help her and it was nice that she had a good time.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

She says she is nervous about it, which is understandable. But I think this is a pretty benign and routine thing these days. I think she will do just fine with it.

Gayle Harrelson

@2ndchances24 (12205)

• Cloverdale, Indiana

14 Feb 24

I hope you told her happy valentines day & that you love her & gave her a hug.

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@porwest (112876)

• United States

17 Feb 24

I didn't. Ugh. Well, kinda sorta. It's probably me. I always associate Valentine's Day with lovers, and my mom is not my lover. lol

@much2say (57760)

• Los Angeles, California

15 Feb 24

I saw the shopping cart pic on your post and immediately thought about quarters

. But your post was not about that! Well what a good son you are for doing that for your mom. I'm having to do stuff for my mom now at times . . . but I'm only glad to do it.

@RasmaSandra (98005)

• Daytona Beach, Florida

14 Feb 24

Glad you got to have some time with your mom. Did you remember to tell her Happy Valentine's? Kind of appropriate you two got to go together on this heart day,

@noni1959 (13048)

• United States

15 Feb 24

That was a nice outing for you and your mom. My girlfriend just had her second eye done on Tuesday last week. She is amazed at the difference in how she can see. Said she saw her "real" wrinkles for the first time.

Hope your mom does well with her surgeries.