4/9/24 - Update on My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (222417)
United States
April 9, 2024 3:23am CST
The Admissions Director is on vacation for a few days; but I'm not going to let that stop me. There is someone handling her work; so I will find out from him what the preferred way to send a Referral is...then I will call the Social Worker at the current facility and let her know that the Referral wasn't received; and she needs to resend it either by fax or email (whatever Admissions prefers).
Hubs called me very late last night. He said his walking while supported went much better yesterday. I have a feeling he will be gone at least another month! He's already been gone for 9 weeks.
His roommate turns the TV way up because he can't hear; and then he falls asleep. This keeps my husband from being able to sleep. I told him to press the call button and have a nurse turn it down.
He said that the food hasn't been too bad lately; but it still leaves much to be desired.
I will be going to see him tomorrow; and our housekeeper's mother is taking me. She is a piece of work; but I will just have to endure her.
One of the MyLot members offered to come up here and take me to see my husband, etc. MyLot has some wonderful people, doesn't it? I will always be truly grateful.
Thank you for your continued support, prayers and thoughts.
Photo Credit: Pixabay
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26 responses
@Marilynda1225 (91086)
• United States
9 Apr 24
I tend to agree with you that current facility is dragging their feet to keep that money coming in. Such a shame that you have to deal with all this nonsense in addition to the stress of not having your hubby home.
It's good to hear that he's improving and hopefully he'll be home soon and all this stress will be over.
I know how much you're looking forward to seeing your hubby and him seeing you. That was so kind of a myLotter to offer to take you.
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@Marilynda1225 (91086)
• United States
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio I can imagine that it's really lonely without him. I'm happy that my daughter lives with me and I would be able to live by myself but I enjoy the company.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
I'm tired of being alone. Some people enjoy it....I don't!!!
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@LadyDuck (502485)
• Italy
9 Apr 24
@LindaOHio - It is a good thing that your husband is improving.
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@MarieCoyle (59216)
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9 Apr 24
@LindaOHio
I am hoping it works out and you can set up some regular days for visiting and she will take you there, at least until the other cousin has a car and can take you. Surely between the two of them, they can figure out a way to get you there more often! Once a week isn't enough, I know, for either of you.
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You are a strong lady.@AmbiePam (120749)
• United States
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio Which is normal and understandable, but you keep fighting. Your love for your husband stands tall.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
Not really. There are days when I'm a wimp and am tired of being alone.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
@AmbiePam Thanks. I need to call Admissions AGAIN this morning to see if I can expedite his transfer to the other facility.
@snowy22315 (208920)
• United States
9 Apr 24
That was great...of the mylot person to offer. Hats off to her! Poor hubby..he has to be able to sleep.
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@snowy22315 (208920)
• United States
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio They should know not to do that. I remember when my Great Aunt was briefly in a nursing home, she was complaining about people coming into her room all the time. She was especially concerned about one of the residents who she accused of taking stuff. I am not quite sure she was in her right mind at the time, but someone did try to come in while we were there...so I guess she had a legit problem.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
@snowy22315 Yes, unfortunately you have to worry about your possessions.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
Yes, everyone here is so special. Yes, the nurses also talk really loud out in the hallway all night long.
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@moffittjc (128835)
• Gainesville, Florida
9 Apr 24
MyLot is a wonderful place, which is why I enjoy being here. And if I lived close to you, I would take you to see your husband every day!
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@moffittjc (128835)
• Gainesville, Florida
11 Apr 24
@LindaOHio I would never want to see you separated from your husband for any length of time.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
12 Apr 24
@moffittjc It's hard to believe that he's been gone since February 1!!!!!
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@2ndchances24 (12206)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
9 Apr 24
Why can't he go into a room by his self? they made
SURE I was put in a room by myself from day 1.
I'd see if you could get him in a private room IF
his ins will cover it that is, I hope it does cause
that would be a GOOD way to help him sleep
& to get better sooner.
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@FourWalls (86707)
• United States
9 Apr 24
Hospitals don’t have shared rooms anymore because of HIPPA privacy laws. I don’t know WHY that doesn’t also apply to rehab facilities. You don’t want to hear about your roommate’s urinary tract infect and you don’t want them hearing about your colon polyps. 
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
I don't know of any private rooms there. A private room would most likely cost us more too.
@2ndchances24 (12206)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
9 Apr 24
@FourWalls I know that's right, I had 1 shared room
but that didn't last very long thank God for that.
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
11 Apr 24
Well someone has to be covering for the one on vacation! It doesn't shut the place down when someone goes on vacation. I hope you can get it all sorted out ASAP!
I am glad you are getting to visit!! Maybe you can stick your head in a couple of doors there and inquire about the transfer and how slow it is taking.
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
11 Apr 24
@LindaOHio But make a copy of it if you do that so you have another when they lose it!!
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
What I should do is get the Referral from the Social Worker and hand deliver it to Admissions.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
12 Apr 24
@kareng Definitely. I have to call the Social Worker again this morning.
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@BarBaraPrz (51819)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
9 Apr 24
Well, at least you'll get to see your hubby.
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@wolfgirl569 (135745)
• Marion, Ohio
9 Apr 24
Glad you get to see him tomorrow. I know it seems like a long time but he will be home soon hopefully.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Apr 24
He'll be home before it's all straightened out. At least that's what it feels like. There should be someone you could complain to that would get the ball moving in the direction it needs to go.
The Admissions Director wasn't on vacation when you started this process, but he/she is conveniently on vacation now. I hope you get it sorted out soon. I'm praying.
I'm glad you will see your husband tomorrow.
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@just4him (323168)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
9 Apr 24
@LindaOHio I'm sure that's true too.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
9 Apr 24
I think that the current facility doesn't want to lose the $$$.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
9 Apr 24
Yes, I wish I could see him more than once a week.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
9 Apr 24
I am happy to know that he is improving. And glad that you will be seeing him tomorrow. I am sure that he also must be looking forward to meet you.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
9 Apr 24
Yes, he says he misses me very much.
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@arunima25 (93194)
• Bangalore, India
9 Apr 24
@LindaOHio He must be. I am sure that you two will enjoy each other's company tomorrow.
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@MarieCoyle (59216)
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10 Apr 24
How wonderful that a mylotter volunteered to help you out. Hey, maybe you should consider that, you wouldn't be all by yourself and it might give you a great boost!
If I were closer, I surely would try to help out, at least with meals so you had some variety! Hang in there...light is shining at the end of that tunnel, Linda!
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
Thank you for the offer; but you have your hands full already! So many nice people here.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
12 Apr 24
@MarieCoyle The lady across the street has offered to help; but I don't know her that well and would not be comfortable with her.
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@MarieCoyle (59216)
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11 Apr 24
@LindaOHio
I wish that things were easier for you and your husband.
If people offer to help you, take full advantage of that. I have had friends help me and I know it means so much. I pay it forward when I am able to. Sometimes it’s hard for me to accept help, I surely do understand that. We just can’t put a price on people helping people.
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@Beestring (15372)
• Hong Kong
9 Apr 24
Good to know that your husband is improving.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
10 Apr 24
I'm glad there seem to be some improvements and that you have people willing and able to help you out.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
9 Apr 24
I am glad that his walking with support is improving.
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@LeaPea2417 (40029)
• Toccoa, Georgia
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio I will keep "being home in a month" in my prayers.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
I am now hoping that he will be home in a month.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
@LeaPea2417 Thank you very much, Anne Marie.
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@Juliaacv (56257)
• Canada
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio Except for a nagging cough, I am much better. Thanks for asking.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
@Juliaacv I'm sorry about the cough. I hope that goes away soon.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
10 Apr 24
You can’t get there yourself so having her drive you is better than not seeing him. Hope the drive goes ok. It’s hard to believe he’s been gone from home for so long.
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@lovebuglena (52144)
• Staten Island, New York
12 Apr 24
@LindaOHio Multitasking behind the wheel?
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
13 Apr 24
@lovebuglena Yup. And she has her little dog sitting on her lap. I fear for the dog's life.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
I don't know if I can get in a car with her again. She does everything but drive when she's in the car.
@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio
I am sorry that you have to deal with all this. I hope soon your husband will be able to get out of there. That was nice that a My lot member wanted to help you out.
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@Hannihar (130150)
• Israel
11 Apr 24
@LindaOHio
I hope when he does come home it will be to stay.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
I think it will be another month before my husband can come home. :-(
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89633)
• Rupert, Idaho
9 Apr 24
If I was closer I'd help too. That's good you'll see him tomorrow. Sorry about those people not doing their job with the referral thing. That can be so frustrating
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
10 Apr 24
Thank you. That's very sweet of you to offer! The referral thing is making me annoyed.
@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
11 Apr 24
@MommyOfEli2013 It seems like no one wants to do his/her job anymore.
@MommyOfEli2013 (89633)
• Rupert, Idaho
10 Apr 24
@LindaOHio No problem, that's what friends are for, right? I can understand that. I know it is worse with what you are dealing with - I just know here when we are told a referral is sent it never seems to happen. still waiting on one to make an appointment for my son's EEG this fall.
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