You shouldn't be responsible for the actions of adult children

@JudyEv (327759)
Rockingham, Australia
April 15, 2024 10:04pm CST
A few days ago, a man with mental health issues ran amok with a knife in a shopping centre, killing six people and injuring others. The guy came from Queensland, had mental health issues and wasn’t in touch very often with his family. As was to be expected, the media approached his parents for interviews. It was so sad to see their privacy invaded by these heartless reporters. I guess they’re just doing their job but really?? The father was almost in tears, welcoming an inquiry saying he wanted to know how and why it happened. His poor wife said they were just an ordinary couple who did everything they could to bring their son up to be a good person, including helping him get a degree. It is just so tragic and sad all round. The photo was taken while we were on the Kuranda railway in Queensland.
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@MarieCoyle (29985)
16 Apr
I've known parents that seemed to do everything right for their children, and the child still took a bad path. It happens. No matter what their son did, he was their son, and I am sure they would much prefer to not have to speak to reporters about it all. The son evidently made his choices, and sadly it costs lives. So very sad.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
It is sad indeed. They gave a public statement soon after the event. They should have been left alone after that.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@MarieCoyle That's very true. And if the reporters can come with something sensational they are even more pleased.
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@MarieCoyle (29985)
17 Apr
@JudyEv Unfortunately, the world just loves the sensationalism involved with some of this. More respect needs to be given to families. They need privacy, not publicity.
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@FourWalls (62972)
• United States
16 Apr
I completely agree with you. Unless the parents said,”Go commit this crime,” they are not responsible. And I haven’t seen any interviews, but I would imagine they are very distraught about this.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
They are extremely distraught and I just feel so badly for them. On the other hand, we did see news of the US couple who have been jailed because of their son's actions. I guess every case is different.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@Scarred4Lyfe @FourWalls And now it's come out that the man was a schizophrenic and had come off his pills, with his doctor's knowledge, six months ago. Previous associates described him as very caring, kind and respectful. So sad.
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@kareng (55953)
• United States
16 Apr
That is an invasion of privacy and disrespectful.
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@kareng (55953)
• United States
17 Apr
@JudyEv It is also an invasion of privacy at a very delicate time in their life.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
I think so too. The poor couple have enough to cope with at the moment without being pestered for 'statements'. They actually did give a statement soon after the event.
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@marguicha (216817)
• Chile
16 Apr
I don´t even accept grown up people who live with their aging parents and want to be fed and lodged by them.
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@MarieCoyle (29985)
16 Apr
And not contribute, or even offer to. I've not had that happen--one of my sons moved back in with me for a short time once, but he paid his way, bought groceries, etc.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
Kids weren't meant to stay home forever. They need to get out and get a life of their own.
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@rebelann (111546)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Apr
I would think a parent would know if their child had mental issues long before he or she grew up to be that destructive which, to me, means they could have gotten that child the kind of medical care he or she needed before they became destructive.
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@rebelann (111546)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Apr
There are some that show early signs but their parents are in denial and whats worse is that often those kids are much smarter than the average kid but have issues like Schizophrenia or bi polar or autism. Not all with those conditions are violent but a parent should be aware if their child showed signs of those conditions if they involved violent tempers.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@rebelann This guy was under treatment for schizophrenia but came off his tablets six months ago. And with the knowledge of his doctor.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
If he was well enough to get a degree he couldn't have been too bad at the time. Some don't show signs as children.
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@innertalks (21238)
• Australia
16 Apr
While parents should not be responsible directly for the actions of the adult children, I think that they hold some responsibility for the way in which the children have been raised, and which surely must affect the way the children act in their adulthood, at least in some ways. Most psychologists still seem to claim that most adult problems arise from what happened in their childhoods. Each life ultimately bears its own responsibility for its actions, but stumbling blocks put on the path of children by anyone are the responsibility of the person doing so. Jesus Christ in the Christian Bible stated this too: "If any of you put a stumbling block before one of these little ones who believe in me, it would be better for you if a great millstone were fastened around your neck, and you were drowned in the depth of the sea." "Woe to the world because of stumbling blocks! Occasions for stumbling are bound to come, but woe to the one by whom the stumbling block comes!" Mathew, chapter 18, verses 6, and 7.
@vandana7 (99246)
• India
17 Apr
I beg to differ here slightly. I agree that bringing up correctly matters. But there are cold blooded murderers in the society, who have never been physically or sexually or verbally abused and have had best of parents too. The freaks, is what I would call them. If you looked into their eyes, you would see no remorse for their actions. They also express that they like doing what they are doing and their childhood or parents had nothing to do with it. They are quite intelligent too! That level of lack of empathy may have some gene mutation related reason. We cannot control such mutations, as of now. So yeah, it should be on case to case basis.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
It has come to light now that the attacker suffered from schizophrenia so it's doubly tragic.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@innertalks Mental health cases are increasing tenfold it seems.
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@kaylachan (59533)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Apr
If an adult can no longer make their own decisions, someone else has to do it. In this case it was probably best his parents were the ones held accountable. But, it's still heartbreaking to think about.
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@kaylachan (59533)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Apr
@JudyEv Yet, you also said he'd been diagnosed with mental health issues? Correct?
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
He was making his own decisions - just the wrong ones! He wasn't under any treatment so the attack was pretty much out of the blue.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@kaylachan It turns out he had schizophrenia which makes it a bit more understandable. Still just as tragic.
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@LadyDuck (461555)
• Switzerland
16 Apr
Those poor parents are not responsible, the doctors who let him out are responsible of what happened. It is sad to see how reporters think "normal" to invade the privacy of a couple who has nothing to blame to themselves.
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@LadyDuck (461555)
• Switzerland
16 Apr
@JudyEv I am very sorry for those poor people.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
@LadyDuck They saw the TV footage, decided it was their son and rang the police. How hard would that have been? He had schizophrenia but had stopped his tablets (with the knowledge of his doctor). There was more about the case today.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
They would be feeling so upset about this and it would be the last straw to have people knocking on their door looking for a 'story'.
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@sallypup (58497)
• Centralia, Washington
16 Apr
Such a tragic mess. I am sorry for those involved.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Apr
It's all very sad. The parents were both very distressed.
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@TheHorse (208104)
• Walnut Creek, California
16 Apr
They can't be blamed in any way.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
There has been been to the story today. He came off his schizophrenia tablets six months ago with his doctor's permission. Obviously that wasn't a good idea.
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@paigea (35861)
• Canada
16 Apr
I'm sure there's nothing the parents could have done.
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@thelme55 (76585)
• Germany
16 Apr
I feel for the parents. Sometimes, reporters are just horrible. This is a really sad story.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
The man was suffering from schizophrenia which explains it a bit but it's all just so, so sad.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
16 Apr
I agree with the title of your post. It's sad that the parents were held responsible. Nice photo.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
There has been more information now and it seems he had schizophrenia.
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• Nairobi, Kenya
17 Apr
@JudyEv that's very sad.
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@grenery8 (3680)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
16 Apr
very nice photo. i agree with you; parents, especially good ones shouldn't be responsible for their kids.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
Especially not when the kids are well and truly into adulthood.
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@grenery8 (3680)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
18 Apr
@JudyEv yes, i agree. everyone should be responsible for their own mistakes.
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@shaggin (71681)
• United States
16 Apr
Aww that is so sad what happened to the victims and it is sad that the parents are being questioned and targeted when it is not their fault what their adult son did. Such a sad story all the way around.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
Yes, you are right. The parents will be grieving big time too.
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@RebeccasFarm (87051)
• United States
16 Apr
Lovely photo. Yes leave the family out of it..so rude those reporters. It's not their fault.
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• United States
17 Apr
@JudyEv Right that is something that is nothing to do with them.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
So not their fault especially once you learn the man was a schizophrenic.
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@LeaPea2417 (36651)
• Toccoa, Georgia
16 Apr
I agree he is an adult who made the wrong choice. HIs parents are not responsible. But I do feel very bad for the parents.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
He had schizophrenia and had come off his tablets. Such an awful thing to happen.
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@RasmaSandra (74496)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Apr
Nope not the parents' fault if they did their best in raising their son. Now that other stabbing, in the church will have other parents just as upset. That one was so odd that this teen was arrested previously for a stabbing and let go for good behavior and then three years down the line went to stab the bishop and people at the church, Now in that case I say did the parents look to get help for the boy at the time of the first stabbing????
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
I haven't learnt any more about the second stabbing just that, thanks to social media, 600 people gathered outside the church, damaged police cars and injured several police and paramedics. The system is at fault too I think for not getting better care for some of these people.
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@Ronrybs (17951)
• London, England
16 Apr
The press is so intrusive and half the time they don't print the facts and twist the story for more sales.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
That's so true. They're desperate to get a story and the more sensational the better.
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@Ronrybs (17951)
• London, England
17 Apr
@JudyEv Sadly dodgy journos are a fact of life
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• Defuniak Springs, Florida
17 Apr
I feel the same way. It really bugs me when they harass the parents of adult children who comit crimes. The parents are often just as surprised and shocked as the rest of the world when their child does whatever they do. There was a story that made rounds a couple weeks ago here, where a 19 year old stabed and killed a homeless man, and his mother found the guys head and hands in trash bags in her sons room the next day or after some time. And the media was attacking the parents, they had no idea there son was capable of something. And watching the 19 year old talk to the investigators, the kid had no remorse and he knew exactly what he had done.
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@JudyEv (327759)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Apr
These parents thought it was their son in the TV footage, watched it several times then rang the police to say it was their son. How incredibly heart-breaking would that be?
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