We get kicked but we don't quit trying
By Marie Coyle
@MarieCoyle (44428)
May 22, 2025 12:25pm CST
It's been crazy and stressful here for the last week.
I thought the son was feeling some better, and it was so nice to see. After so long of him feeling terrible and finding very little joy in life, I was pretty excited. Until last week.
He got really sick, fever, disorientated, and fell a few times. Off we go again to the ER. Unfortunately, the doctor we saw wasn't as thorough as he needed, and he was sent home with meds...that did no good but did lower his fever. 24 hours later, he was worse, so we went back to the ER. (His primary is on vacation). He had a blood infection, had to have two transfusions, a slew of tests, and they slapped him in ICU again. And he was there for 2 days, then he was stabilized and moved to a regular room.
Unfortunately, he has to be ultra careful about germs, contact with others, etc. The doctor has him wearing a mask if he leaves the house. Of course, I try to keep things clean and sanitized, etc. and am very careful. But regardless of what I do, he sometimes still gets sick. He's not ever had so much infection in his system before at one time, I think from what the doctor said, he has built up a resistance to some antibiotics so now they have to get creative with them. But now, after some days of IV antibiotics, he is doing better, and he is at home! I wish we could fix it all for him, and that he wouldn't ever be sick again, because he is so tired of feeling badly. But I was so thankful for him to start to feel better. I went back and forth, but it was hard to rest for worrying for several days. He has a lot of follow up appointments, etc.
We are trying to keep the momentum going here and getting him to a point that he feels well again, at least as well as he can be. He will always have to have blood checks and transfusions when needed, but we faced that long ago, before the car accident and such.
The main thing is, he is getting over this hurdle and is home. None of this is easy, the medical expenses are beyond horrible, but hey...that's just how it has to be for now. He's a fighter, and I am proud of him for not letting all of this medical stuff take that from him.
He goes by ''Believe you can, and you're halfway there'' ...oh, the lessons these kids teach us!
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@RasmaSandra (85534)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
22 May
many blessings to you both and I will keep him in my prayers and hope he makes a quick recovery.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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22 May
Thank you, Rasma. He is fortunate to have a lot of people pulling for his recovery!
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@rakski (138018)
• Philippines
23 May
It must have been exhausting to ride that emotional rollercoaster.
You’re both walking a hard road, but your combined strength and hope are inspiring.
Wishing your son continued recovery and stability, and wishing you some moments of peace and rest
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@rakski (138018)
• Philippines
23 May
@MarieCoyle you might say that but of course to your son, you are his hero.
and to other moms like me, you level up my respect for you
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
I’m no hero, honestly. Just a mom that really loves her kids. But thank you so much!
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
I truly hope and pray for that constantly. Thank you, Karen.
I hope you start feeling better very soon!
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@celticeagle (175256)
• Boise, Idaho
23 May
I'm so sorry to hear this. Is he getting something to strengthen his immune system? Supplements or.....? Doctors don't tell a person the nutrients they need. They just prescribe. I really go for natural nutrients when at all possible to help with nutrition. We can take prescription stuff all day long, but if our system is weak, it may not do the trick that true nutrition can. I hope he is feeling better.
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@celticeagle (175256)
• Boise, Idaho
23 May
@MarieCoyle .........I'd be feeding him a diet of spinach, red meat, lentils, and eggs. Is he lacking in Vitamin B12, folate, and iron? They are red cell producers in the body. It sounds like the doctor is giving him supplements. That's good. Many doctors don't do supplements, and it really angers me. My grandmother was one to bring sick people home and bring them back to health. I just try to let people know about vitamins, minerals, and some herbs that are good for them.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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24 May
@celticeagle
His blood work is good but he doesn’t make blood fast enough to maintain his body. Hard to explain but it makes sense when the doctor explains it. I feed him high protein foods and strive for as healthy as I can with my cooking and meals for him. Thank you.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
His body just simply does not make enough blood. The cause is unknown, I had never known of this but evidently it is a thing, and it does occur in some people. So he has had to have regular transfusions, as well as iron infusions, for about 10 years. He was used to that, he felt fine, he worked, etc. Then the bad wreck where the semi smacked him and all these surgeries, neurological damage, etc...dump all of those problems in the same body and there are some big problems. He does eat a very well balanced diet, I see to that. The doctor has him on two vitamin supplements. He has to take some meds as well.
Thank you so much.
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@LadyDuck (475378)
• Italy
24 May
@MarieCoyle I know how much you love your son and I am sure you are doing everything you can so that he can be well. He is lucky to have you.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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24 May
@LadyDuck
I am lucky to have wonderful children, they are all a huge blessing to me. Thank you. Anna.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
We are trying so hard and leave no stone unturned to try to get him well. Thank you, Anna. 
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@JudyEv (354956)
• Rockingham, Australia
23 May
@MarieCoyle It's lovely that you're all so supportive of each other even though so much is going on. I really do wish better things for you all.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
@JudyEv
We all just try to do the best we can, thank you, Judy.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
I try so hard not to show that I am tired...because then, the son worries and he has enough problems. My oldest girl is all worried about me and tries to help when she can...her in-laws are in very poor health, and her and her husband care for them a lot. Hey, when it rains...it's a monsoon sometimes!! Thanks, Judy.
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@GardenGerty (163909)
• United States
23 May
With all the antibiotics, especially IV be on the look out for symptoms of C. Diff. It sounds like he needs the hyperbaric treatment like hubby had. It took care of the need for transfusions and iron supplementation. He is doing much better. I hope the doctors come up with a miracle for your son.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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24 May
That was discussed and decided by his doctor as well as a specialist that it was not going to do the trick for him. I wish it would. Thank you.
@snowy22315 (190506)
• United States
23 May
Aww,. You guys never get a break. I hope he stays well now for awhile at least.
. You guys never get a break. I hope he stays well now for awhile at least.1 person likes this
@noni1959 (10395)
• United States
28 May
@MarieCoyle Thinking of you and your son today.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
You are going through horrible time with your daughter, I know...and it's hard. All we can really do is help with what we can help with. Thank you so much.
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@thelme55 (77608)
• Germany
26 May
@MarieCoyle I am glad he’s a bit better now. You’re welcome.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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23 May
He’s not great, but better than he was. Thank you so much.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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27 May
@thelme55
He seems to be up and down like a yo-yo. Today isn't good. Maybe tomorrow will be better.
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@LindaOHio (190097)
• United States
23 May
I'm so sorry the two of you have been through so much. Sending a prayer your way. I hope he feels better soon.
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@arunima25 (90352)
• Bangalore, India
22 May
Those are some tough times and it's impressive how well you are holding up as a parent. Please take good care of yourself too. Your son needs you. Sending positive thoughts and prayers for both of you. Hope things get better and easier for your son.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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22 May
Thank you so much, we are doing the very best we can do for now.
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@arunima25 (90352)
• Bangalore, India
23 May
@MarieCoyle Yes. Will keep you in prayers and thoughts.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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22 May
It does feel like a roller coaster ride, I know I have said that before but now it's true. Thank you for the prayers and I will tell him.
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@marguicha (227053)
• Chile
22 May
I hope that your son recovers soon. Hospitals are not nice places.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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22 May
You’re right, hospitals aren’t fun. However, they have saved my son more than once and I am sure glad to have several good ones close by if and when they are needed!
@Tampa_girl7 (52533)
• United States
23 May
I’m glad that he is home and better.
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@MarieCoyle (44428)
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22 May
Slow recovery this time for sure...but we won't quit trying. Thank you, so much.
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