A snap decision / myLot

Rockingham, Australia

July 16, 2025 9:24pm CST

We have two sons. One lives in Ireland and is coming to visit us late July for two weeks. The older ‘boy’ is 53 and lives in Melbourne. The company he worked for closed up over a year ago and he hasn’t been able to find work since. Then the house he rented for 20 years sold and he had to move. He suffers from depression and isn’t in a very good place at the moment. He has a unit in an old warehouse we think. We have a 'window of opportunity' as they say and we're made a snap decision to fly to Melbourne today and check out the situation for ourselves. We’ve been helping him out from time to time for while but it would be easier if we knew a bit more about it all. We’re coming home on Tuesday. I’m taking my laptop but I’m not sure how much time I’ll have to myLot. I know you’ll understand if I don’t get to your discussions for a while. The photo shows the two boys (on the right) blowing out candles on a birthday cake.

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21 responses

Jimlos Tatooth

@Ineeddentures (10781)

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15h

And he is happy enough you are visiting him,

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@DaddyEvil (153504)

• United States

15h

I hope you find things better than you think they'll be and your son finds work soon. It really sucks to lose a job, the house you've lived in for so long and not know what to do next. We'll see you when you have time for us.

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Kareng

@kareng (77802)

• United States

14h

I'm glad you are going to check on him. I know how that goes, having adult children myself. You still worry! And him being so far away, makes it hard to really know the state of the situation. Have a safe trip and we will see you when you and your hubby get back home.

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cherigucchi

@cherigucchi (15378)

• Philippines

15h

As parents. No matter how old are children are, we are always there for them. Its a good decision that you have to check in for yourself so that you know how more you can help him

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (65242)

• Centralia, Washington

12h

I wish you and your son well. I hope things smooth out for him.

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Marie Coyle

@MarieCoyle (46323)

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15h

Take good care, Judy. I hope you find he is OK. I know how it is to be concerned about our kids, no matter how old they are, they are still our kids.

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snowy

@snowy22315 (192886)

• United States

Sorry about the situation with your eldest. Maybe offering encouragement and make sure he is getting proper treatment is all you can do. It would be great if you could bring him back to your place for a few days to hang out with his brother. It's probably been years.

Four Walls

@FourWalls (76770)

• United States

I hope you can help him, at the very least emotionally! Sometimes that's the best kind of support someone can get! Safe travels!

Anna

@LadyDuck (479166)

• Italy

Very good decision Judy, I am sure he appreciates your visit. Take care and have a safe trip.

MARILYN

@Marilynda1225 (85364)

• United States

Hope things aren't too bad when you get to see your son. Losing his job and his home is horrible to hear and I hope he isn't as depressed as he sounds.

Traceyjayne

@Traceyjayne (3256)

• United Kingdom

Lovely photo. I’m pleased that you are able to visit your son ….im sure he will be pleased to see you. It sounds like he needs something good happening in his life right now, and a visit from his parents may be just the thing to lift his spirits. Don’t mean to pry or be nosey …but, it is just your son or does he have family….wife, children. If not, is there a possibility in him moving to live closer to you . Maybe living in a different area will help with the depression, and he may be able to find work too.

Shiva

@Shiva49 (27404)

• Singapore

He needs all the support during this time. Depression is a dampener and I hope he is getting medical attention to manage his condition. I hope your physical presence will give him a boost that he is not alone.