When someone offends your friend, does that result in them offending you too?

If someone seriously wrongs my friend and shows no remorse, especially if they revel in it, I can't ignore that. Even if the harm wasn't done to me directly, it reflects who that person is. Loyalty matters, and so does integrity. I wouldn’t continue a relationship with someone capable of that kind of behavior. It’s not about taking sides blindly, but about standing up for what's right. If they hurt someone I care about and feel no guilt, I have no reason to keep them in my life. How people treat others says a lot about how they’ll treat you eventually.

It depends on what was offensive. I have friends with different personalities. I have one that will get very upset if someone says a cuss word around her and she will feel offended. If the same person that offended her doesn't ask her to an event, it offends her. Just depends on what is going on. I get offended when someone says, "downs" about my grandson with down syndrome. It reduces to his diagnosis. It should be "a person with down syndrome." I don't expect anyone to defriend someone over that. I don't either. I just correct them. If someone is viciously mean to another friend with no merit, than that will determine if I leave that friendship. If they don't get along for other reasons, I won't but I refuse to get in the middle.

I think it may depend on the nature of the offense. I can be friends with people who definitely do not like one another. On the other hand if one acquaintance goes out of their way to deliberately be mean or poke some buttons or destroy a reputation, I distance myself, both far and fast.

That’s such a thoughtful and tricky question — it really depends on one’s principles and emotional boundaries. Personally, I think loyalty plays a big part. If someone seriously wrongs a close friend and shows no remorse, that speaks volumes about their character. Even if they didn’t hurt me directly, it would be hard for me to keep associating with someone capable of treating others that way, especially someone I care about. That said, I also believe in handling it with maturity — not necessarily stirring drama, but quietly distancing myself. Life’s too short to keep people around who lack empathy or accountability. What they did to my friend today could easily be done to me tomorrow.

With saying they revel in it I would cut them out

That is exactly the situation but it involves one of my sisters and a niece. Sister won't apologize to niece. I've written off sister. She is not allowed on my property or in my house now.

Hmm, I guess it might depend on the circumstances If they seemed happy about how they acted toward the other person..I probably cut them off, or at least find out the reasoning behind it, and see if it made any sense at all

I am a devoted friend. If my friend is hurt, I am hurt. If someone reveled in hurting a friend of mine, I would cut them off, yes. I could not be around someone that treated another human being, or my friend, in a horrible way. Life is too short to let people get away with such things.

Not sure how to answer that. The Bible says to forgive--I would ask my friend if they at least wanted me to talk to the person.

If my friend who was offended cut with them, I would also do.

Someone reveling in hurting another would be a turnoff for me.

It depends on what was done and the people involved... If the friend gets offended easily, I simply ignore whatever happened. Their beef has nothing to do with me and I won't choose sides. If they keep trying to get me involved, I'll stop speaking to both of them for a while, at least.

It depends on the offence and the people. Certainly if one revels in what they've done, I'd be distancing myself. But if a friend is very easily offended then I might have a slightly different reaction.

I agree with Jenaisle. Loyalty matters.

Probably not. Will wait and listen to them, then see how my friend reacts. If it feels wrong on their part, make an attempt to make them understand where they are wrong in my friend's defense, then take a decision.