Home & Overwhelmed
By Amber
@AmbiePam (109599)
United States
November 22, 2025 10:55am CST
I’m back home, and I found that my dad gave me one of his and Diana’s couches while I was gone. My couch (that I sleep on) was comfortable(my mattress is worthless), but the stuffing was coming out, and it looked ragged. He and Diana also cleaned, which was sweet. Unfortunately, they also dumped all my things in trash bags, along with the many things I have to review. They knotted those sacks up to where I have to rip the sides open. I cannot find anything, and I want to cry I’m so overwhelmed. You guys may be rolling your eyes, but I guess they thought rearranging things would be better for me? My dad also said don’t ask where anything is, just go find it. Guys, they emptied all my drawers and everything in the closets in a trash bag.
I’m really really grateful, and I’m also a little lost here.
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@MarieCoyle (53091)
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23 Nov
@AmbiePam
It IS inconsiderate. And, an invasion of privacy. They may not have intended to, but they hurt you terribly. Be honest and open with them, and ask them not to do that again. It's the best way.
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@1creekgirl (44292)
• United States
22 Nov
Oh my goodness. Just WHY? I feel so sorry for you. Surely they meant well, but why???
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@AmbiePam (109599)
• United States
22 Nov
@1creekgirl I am, very exhausted. I guess I’ll start working on it after church tomorrow.
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@1creekgirl (44292)
• United States
22 Nov
@AmbiePam It was just such a weird thing to do. I don't understand it. And I know you're exhausted from your trip.
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@snowy22315 (201116)
• United States
22 Nov
Oh wow..talk about killing with kindness!
I have to wonder about your family sometimes. At least you got a new couch out of the deal. What did they think you were going to wear?
I have to wonder about your family sometimes. At least you got a new couch out of the deal. What did they think you were going to wear?2 people like this
@AmbiePam (109599)
• United States
22 Nov
@snowy22315 I called and talked to my dad about it, It went exactly how I thought it would go. And no, they never would have done this to another adult. It’s times like this I miss my mom. She never would have let it go past a thought, and she would have totally backed my ire.
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@snowy22315 (201116)
• United States
22 Nov
@AmbiePam I hope you get up the gumption to talk to them about this. You know they wouldn't dare to do that to another adult. They need to respect your boundaries. It might help to start depending on other people besides them though.
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@much2say (57704)
• Los Angeles, California
22 Nov
So glad you made it home safely . . . wow that the week went by so fast!
Although they meant well (we know they are sweet people), they really should have asked - it's your living space.
I had a memory of how it was when I was growing up. Ok, I admit I never really kept my room sparkling . . . often I'd come home to an already cleaned up room . . . my mom went through all my stuff 
. I didn't think much of it then as I was just a kid . . . but as I got older, it was highly annoying - felt like invasion of privacy. My living system was MY living system - twas no one's business how I organized anything. Ugh. I'm so sorry . . . believe me I know the feeling 
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. I didn't think much of it then as I was just a kid . . . but as I got older, it was highly annoying - felt like invasion of privacy. My living system was MY living system - twas no one's business how I organized anything. Ugh. I'm so sorry . . . believe me I know the feeling .1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (109599)
• United States
24 Nov
@much2say Yes, they did. I don’t think anyone would have even taken it since the stuffing in the cushions were coming out. I had repeatedly tucked a towel around one cushion to keep the stuffing in, but pieces would shed, and get all over the floor…It served me very well for ten years. I’ll miss the color though; it was a red couch, and this one I got from them was beige.
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@Marilynda1225 (87731)
• United States
24 Nov
Gee I can certainly understand how upset you are. Seems like a crazy thing to do without your consent and I would be very upset to come home and find my home all rearranged and my stuff in trash bags. I'm sure their intentions were good but they should have asked. Hope it isn't too hard to find the things you're looking for and that you are comfortable with the new couch.
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@AmbiePam (109599)
• United States
24 Nov
I just found out something that makes it a little more palatable. A neighbor of mine had bed bugs, and although the inspection showed I didn’t have any, nor did my other neighbors, my dad decided to spray for my peace of mind when I found out. I appreciate that, but I still don’t think things should have gone into trash bags.
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@AmbiePam (109599)
• United States
24 Nov
@Marilynda1225 Yes, I think so. I’m a little less upset. The last thing me or my other neighbors need is bed bugs.
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@Marilynda1225 (87731)
• United States
24 Nov
@AmbiePam that does make more sense but your stuff being in trash bags probably protected it all from the spray.
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@xstitcher (37374)
• Petaluma, California
22 Nov
What??? I would be so upset if someone did that to me.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54015)
• United States
24 Nov
What possessed them to do these things without asking first ? The couch was thoughtful and cleaning for you, but rearranging your things and especially to empty your closet and drawers is a bit bizarre and quite an intrusion of privacy. What were they thinking ? You truly need an explanation and they need to know not to do it ever again. What would they do if you went to their home and did the same to them while they are away ? I know that you are in a tough spot with it being your daddy and his wife.
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@DaddyEvil (165137)
• United States
22 Nov
Oh, wow! I'm sorry that happened. They should have asked before they did anything in your home. I would be mad if somebody, even Pretty, did that to my bedroom, let alone the rest of the house. I have a particular place for everything and want everything in its place.
I'm glad you all made it home safely.
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@wolfgirl569 (127590)
• Marion, Ohio
22 Nov
Glad you made it home safely. I understand the couch but not bagging all of your stuff up. So sorry
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (16612)
• Torrington, Connecticut
24 Nov
Did they plan to do this or randomly cleaned up all your stuff? My sister was a hoarder and one time my mom sent her away for the weekend and threw alot of stuff out. She was not happy about it
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@AmbiePam (109599)
• United States
24 Nov
Oh, no worries about me being a hoarder. Their primary goal was too clean, which I appreciate, but I had a corner with my stuff to review, and although it was neatly stacked, they thought I’d get through it faster if they did this. Then, in my bedroom, I had a bin of my late mother’s things. I had been unable to go through it, and I think they thought it would force my hand.
They did, however, leave my bathroom and kitchen alone besides cleaning it.
And they didn’t throw a thing away, at least.
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@BACONSTRIPSXXX (16612)
• Torrington, Connecticut
24 Nov
@AmbiePam That's good then
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@Traceyjayne (6880)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov
I'm pleased you are home safely.
I just want to ask WHY they did that .... Tidying up is one thing but to empty drawers and closets !!!
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You're just like me. I don't want people tidying my things up, no matter how topsy-turvy they are, because I would find it difficult to find things I need.
I prefer my own 'arrangement' of things, equipment, etc.
@FourWalls (81651)
• United States
22 Nov
What an unpleasant surprise to come home to. 
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@LindaOHio (210169)
• United States
23 Nov
Why in the world would they empty your drawers and closets into bags? I would be upset too!
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@Dreamerby (9817)
• Calcutta, India
23 Nov
That is sad.
Anyways, now that you are home, take rest and eat some chocolate maybe to liven up your mood.
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