Taking love for granted.

@marguicha (230180)
Chile
May 3, 2026 8:16pm CST
Hello friends. When we get old and live alone there are many thoughts that come and go as birds fly on a spring day. And lately I am trying to understand the difference between my relation with friends and my relation with my own blood family. My grandchildren offer visits, I prepare special food and dress up for special visits and they message me at the last minute that they will not be able to come. My friends, on the other hand, ask me what they can bring and they prepare for the visit as I do. And I wonder whether it is just too naive to keep on thinking about what is their favorite food and thawing a bid amount of meat. Do you have such problems?
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Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (168791)
• United States
40m
No, I have no family nearby. I have one or two friends I make a point to visit with, but we go out. Is it perhaps a generational thing? Your grandkids are acting like the relaxed social standards that are current. Doing special things for visitors is old fashioned. It is our fashion, though.
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marguicha
@marguicha (230180)
• Chile
35m
I´m afraid that with 80 years of age I must be old fashioned
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@DaddyEvil (173316)
• United States
20m
No. While we have family close by, none of them come to visit except my brother and his wife. They'd rather take us out to eat than let us take them out. Which is fine but we don't really want to eat out. We'd rather buy something in the restaurants and bring it home to eat. We still don't trust other people to stay home if they have Covid or the flu and not pass it on to perfect strangers in a restaurant.
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marguicha
@marguicha (230180)
• Chile
16m
I don´t worry about Covid or flu. Everyone has had vaccinations for both.
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@DaddyEvil (173316)
• United States
8m
@marguicha Yes and yet, people can still get both of them and I can still catch them even though I've been vaccinated. I'd rather not take the chance of dying from them.
Jimbo45
@Ineeddentures (31061)
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No such problems here Marga We don't invite family to come and see us And we really only have one regular visitor who likes my cooking Yay for us, life is simple I think it's quite bad manners for you to get a lst minute message saying someone can't make it after you have gone to a lot of trouble