I was insulted for buying secondhand!

United States
July 13, 2009 7:37am CST
My "friend" made me feel horrible over the weekend for shopping at a thrift store! I felt terrible when she made the comment" I cannot believe you shop there!" I was buying a desk in rather good shape for a very decent price. Its not as if I was buying someones undergarments!! Do you shop at thrift/second hand stores? Did anyone criticize you for it?If so, what did you say?
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@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
13 Jul 09
I shop in eBay... isn't it more or less the same? I actually never bought in a second hand store because I have never found one near where I live, but I wouldn't have anything against it, if I find something I like and if the price is good. What's the need to spend more money if I can have the same at a lower price? Don't make that person's comment affect you, she probably only cares for the outside of everything. Maybe she has so much money to throw it away, and she doesn't know the real value of things.
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• United States
14 Jul 09
You know, I never thought about ebay being like the same thing! You are right and there are so many people that use that, I guess my so called friend is in the minority on her opinion! Thank you for your response!
• United States
13 Jul 09
Heck yeah I shop at thrift stores! I have found name brand jeans there for 5 bucks! New York Jeans, Gap, and many many others! I have a nice wardrobe since moving to Texas and about half of it is from GoodWill! I view it like this. I am getting a nice product at an extremely CHEAP price and I am helping someone else in the process! Its a win win situation! If your friend is so snobby that she can't see the values there than just ignore her or don't tell her! Show off your finds and let her think they are new! I bet dollars to porkchops she will never notice if you don't tell her! I have seen some VERY nice home furnishings at these stores too! So second hand shop with pride sister! Your part of a very thrifty community who can enjoy luxury clothes at bargain basement prices! Shop on girl, shop on!
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@moon1688 (144)
• China
14 Jul 09
I'm sorry, I really bored about buying secondhand things
• United States
14 Jul 09
So don't go second hand shopping... Leaves more deals for those who do like going!
@nonersays (2688)
• United States
15 Jul 09
I love thirft stores. You can find neat things in them. Also, when the place I work suddenly decided that we had to have a dress code, after not having one for years, I got all my work clothes from thrift stores. When I was still in school I might have been teased for it, but as an adult I have people actually TELL me to go to thrift stores. I like to shop at one thats connected to our local humane society. All the money spent there goes to take care of the animals.
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• United States
16 Jul 09
You made a good point. I wouldve expected her comment more if she was a much younger person! She is older though just not sensible I suppose!
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• United States
14 Jul 09
When we lived in south Florida, I decided to try to cut my own hair because it was hot. I had never done it before and I felt that if I goofed I could have a salon fix it as I wasn't taking a lot off or cutting my hair in layers. When I went out to the local pool, everyone was complimenting me on how nice my hair looked. Everyone, that is, but one neighbor who just about bought the big one over my hair. I am glad that I was older but it still bothered me. She was very condescending and rude to me. She told me that the only hair styling that should be done should be at a salon and it should only be European to boot. Shortly after that (they looked like the model family) her husband was taken away in cuffs by the police for beating her and the kids. I learned that no matter how together some people look, their opinion is their opinion and nothing more or less. We love to go to the university surplus store in our town. They sell the old stuff from the campus and we bought our daughter a steel case desk that was in perfect shape. These desks are classics and wonderful. I think we paid under $20 for it. We just love it. We have used second hand stores off and on my whole life and I love to contribute to them and sometimes shop them also. It just depends on what we need. I suppose this friend would really not like garage sales or estate sales either. Silly person! It's such a treasure hunting experience.
• United States
14 Jul 09
That's a good point; you are not the only one benefiting. You are helping "the little people" instead of big corporations. And getting a good deal to boot!
@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
14 Jul 09
Why on earth would a "friend" say something like that. ugh. I shop at thrift stores, flea markets, and yard sales. Sometimes you find some really nice things at a really good price. I have gone to yard sales where there are still tags on the clothing. I usually get a lot of clothes for my daughter at thrift stores since she is so young. No sense in spending a lot of money on clothes that are going to be grass stained and painted on. I don't see anything wrong with going to these kind of places. I think it is actually smart, because your saving money yet still getting what you need.
@moon1688 (144)
• China
14 Jul 09
As a girl, I advise you to buy something new.Not to buy the secondhand ones.That can destory your feelings about goodness!
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
13 Jul 09
You sure she is a friend when she makes disparaging comments like that? That is not a friend I would like to have. There is absolutely no shame whatsoever in buying secondhand, in these hard times, of recession and sliding economy money is tight for the majority of people, we don't all have money to fritter away and we have a budget, I think your friend was secretly jealous because she feels it's beneath her but deep down wish she had found the bargain or saved money. She has no right to criticize you, friends don't criticize for starters. Continue buying secondhand it's none of her business, and be proud of saving money!
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• United States
16 Jul 09
Yes wolfie, I am starting to wonder myself what kind of friend she is saying that and the more I read these responses the more I question why she wouldnt be acceopting of where I shop! And, you are right I save alot of money!
@Dinu024 (316)
• India
13 Jul 09
hi Marlena, can you we be friends. Ok, now we are friends. You see your "friend" only told a single line and that made you depressed. You see there is nothing wrong in buying a preowned item(better word to second-hand), unless otherwise its an electronic device. I don't if my words here are good and related to find a place in your mind, but here is something i learnt from my "ART OF LIVING" class that i attended last week. What i want to say is, you should take people as they are. She/he (friend) just said that, to show herself(you have mentioned she i did not notice it in the first place) as a big-shot. Just consider people like those an yap because once they come to buy a preowned item, they will realize then the pain in those words that came from their mouth. Please do take these words and tell it in your mind and fill it in your heart when someone gives such insults. you cannot go correcting people like those, just accept them the eay they are. One small thing you have to keep in your mind is, the lower our expenditure to our income level, the better will our life. I'm not saying you should be a miser, its just that you should plan things accordingly. I don't know the purpose you bought that table for but i believe you have made a correct decision. Next time don't go telling yaps(boasters) about things they will take advantage off i.e, things over which they will drop your reputation to bring their reputation up. I have many more things to say but I want to know if you are interested, if yes please say it and i will give a detailed response here itself. For now what i want to tell you is, confidence and self-esteem is most important. You should have told that friend of yours some backfiring reply that would have bound her mouth, like "Ya, i do buy from the thrift store but i have saved some money for my......" or if you don't want to talk back then just move away from hr with a smile. You see i can't stop myself from spilling out those thoughts in me, I should say i too have faced some worst experiences, but now i have learnt many things from life, from people who care for me, and a person i should hold above all is my father. He thought half of what is life and the way we should lead it. Stick with people who are more appreciative, cooperative, oppose your negative thoughts, advice you in times of trouble but don't help you with involvement unless otherwise its too necessary, because these are people who are your real friends or those who care for you. They would never throw a comment that is too hard for you to take like that which your "friend" threw at you. Anyways i guess i'm this too big, hope you aren't bored... Telling you so much i sort of feel.. i don't know.. ijust want to give out all that things i've learnt about friendship in life. By the way you've got a nice name "Marlena". (I'm not flattering ok, just said that as it occured to me) Bye for now...
@Dinu024 (316)
• India
13 Jul 09
Hey so many postsm i thought i would have first, anyways i don;t know if mine will be so much of a help to you... seeing your response i do believe you are an easy going girl(or woman). Anyways i had a lot of recollection of my memories typing all those things for you. See you marlena
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
hi marlena!^^ i shop too at thrift/second hand stores. i haven't been criticized for it. though i have friends who criticize people for buying at second hand stores. and i always feel uncomfortable when hearing it since i, myself shop at those kind of stores too. i don't feel ashamed or embarrassed for shopping there because i'm just being practical and i think there's nothing wrong with it. if people got problems with it, then its their issue not mine.
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I have shopped at thrift stores before. Sometimes you can get good stuff there. Dont worry about what she is saying about it. Just feel sorry for her because she doesnt know how lucky you are. I just feel that if anyone is critizing you its because they are feeling low self estimmed about them selves. She probably deep in her heart wishes she found such a good buy.
@mces0925 (196)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I can't see anything wrong buying in a thrift store. Yeah I also buy goods there but I am very choosy I want the new one and not the second hand items. I am also particular of the brands. That is my reason why I shopped in a thrift store, the price is really cheap compared to the malls. My husband hated me because of this, sometimes he thinks the one I gave to him came from thrift store. But yesterday I was surprised he is so patience to look for some stuffed. He bought two branded and never been used shorts. My niece once teased me and don't trust me on shopping. I always replied her, "look at your shirt isn't nice?". We can still see lot of useful goods in thrift store. Happy mylotting!
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
17 Jul 09
Yes, I buy at thrift shops and garage sales. I don't believe that anyone has criticized me for doing so. I can buy more clothing of better quality than I could buy in a store by shopping where I do. 75 to 90 per cent of the clothes hanging in my closets came from a thrift store or garage sale. The draw back to garage sale shopping is that one can rarely try anything on before purchasing it, and sales are final. Thus, at garage sales I only spend an amount that I figure I can lose if it does not fit. Not that I really lose the money, I always donate anything I can't wear to charity. Of course, I never buy undergarments at garage sales or thrift shops. The drapes currently hanging in my sewing room came from a garage sale. I was looking at them and trying to decide if I could alter them to fit my windows, and the lady gave them to me. It was a little after noon on a hot day. I believe she wanted to close up shop.
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@chertsy (3805)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Yes, I shop at thrift/second hand stores. I have two growing girls that are 6 years apart. I have found stores that sells clothes that are brand name, I mean $80 and up jeans for really cheap prices. With kids that are on the go all the time, and putting holes in them, I can't beat that. Yes, I have had been criticized because of this. Sad part, it's my husband that does it. He feels that only poor people should shop at these places, and we should pay the $80 and up on clothes. I'm so tired of hearing his mouth, I go there when he's at work. Just so I don't have to hear his mouth. I can get 5 pairs of nice expensive jeans, and 5 in style tops for 11 bucks. I plan on going again right before school starts to get more tops and bottoms for the girls. With the money I save, I can use on school supplies and other things they need. Now if I got a desk, my husband wouldn't be so upset over it. I guess it's just clothes and that they are 2nd hand. So tell your friend, Yes, I shop there and I saved a ton on this desk.
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Thats sad. That person must not be much of a friend. I shop at the thrift store all the time. Even when I had the money to spend else where. We are always finding great things there. Its nice to check it out every now and then. I like getting books from there. One time I found some really good DVD's there. Alot less then what I would pay for them in a store and nothing was wrong with them. They always say 1 mans trash is anothers treasure. Shop away and drop the friend lol. Just joking. I do think you should tell your friend how you feel about her saying something to you. I've been wanting to go dig in a thrift store for a while now. My daughters play dress up clothes are starting to get to small so we need to find somemore.
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@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
15 Jul 09
You buy a desk in an antique shop and people think you you are high stepping, the same desk in a thrift store and some folks say your slumming. There is nothing wrong with shopping second hand in my opinion. Second hand things are much cheaper than buying new in the full priced stores. If you hit tag sales you can also pick up some great stuff.
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@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
I do shop at a thrift shop. I don't mind and sometimes the goods there is good and nice. Moreover I can save a lot more and as long as it in good condition, I don't mind. Until now, my friends never say anything, maybe because they don't know I do shop a second hand stuff, and if they do, I don't care. Its not like I'm doing a criminal, and its for my own good, so, I just let them be. I'm not good at talking back, the most I will do, I'll just move on with what I'm doing and sooner or alter, that person will quite eventually.
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@kissie34 (2296)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Well, honestly I haven't tried buying in a shop or store which sells second hand but I had tried buying through online already. There is nothing wrong of buying second hand products for as long as that product is good and properly hygiene. I think it is more practical buying second hand than buying brand new since you can save more money and able to enjoy the product same as having a brand new one. What are more important you had save money, the products or item is in good condition and you didn't do anything wrong. If others don't understand it then I can't do anything about it. They are just too rich and can afford buying brand new products that's why they comment that kind of think and they don't know how to value products or items.
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• United States
13 Jul 09
I feel that there is nothing wrong with shopping at a thrift store. If u want something for a low price in good condition then the thrift store is the way to go. you should tell your friend to shop there some times because you never know what u may find. My friends use to critize me all the time and it use to make me feel like i was less of a person but now we all shop there and have a great time lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
13 Jul 09
Most of the thrift stores here don't really have a whole lot of good stuff to choose from. There is one that has some pretty good stuff, and I go to it occasionally just to look around and see what they have. I get some pretty good deals in that one some time, but the other thrift stores in the area pretty much only have a bunch of crap in them that the staff has picked over and taken the good stuff for themselves, so I usually don't buy much from the thrift stores here. However, I do have a lot of luck going to yard sales and flea markets. I went to a yard sale several years ago and found a small deep freezer for $25. We used it for probably five years until the lid started giving us some trouble. My wife's boss found out that we had gotten another one, but that the one I had bought at the yard sale still works, and he gave me $25 for it even though he knew the lid was messed up on it. They are STILL using that freezer in the restaurant my wife works at today, and it has been a couple of years since he bought it from me. I guess that isn't too bad for something I gave a guy at a yard sale $25 for. It works fine except that the lid doesn't seal quite right on it, but they are opening it constantly anyway, so they can keep an eye on it to make sure the food is still frozen in it. I don't mind shopping in thrift stores, or at yard sales or flea markets. I don't buy underwear or socks from them, but I will usually buy pants and shirts, especially if I am just looking for some to wear around the yard while I am working outside or whatever. With the price of things at places like Walmart and Target these days, I am surprised that more people aren't shopping at thrift stores and flea markets. I don't go to Walmart or other places like that unless I have to. Even when I have to buy stuff new, I would rather shop at the smaller, privately-owned places whenever possible. It is always good to support the smaller businesses when you can.
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@benny128 (3622)
13 Jul 09
I love shopping at stores that are well second hand stores or discount places. My friend goes out and buys everything new, she calls me a fool for getting 2 nd hand stuff or buying from discount stores. Yet she is struggling and working all the hours god send to make a living, where as I am semi retired running my own online business and buying nearly new items but if I want something new I can just go and get it even in this economic climate. I always wonder who is actuallyt the fool he he he
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@a_manick (880)
• India
13 Jul 09
I didnt find anything wrong for shopping at a thrift store.Its our own will and wish to buy things for us and why should we worry about others.Are they going to buy a new product for us from their own purse.When the whole world talks about recycling seriously,why not we buy a second hand product and save our environment as well as our money.
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