Do You Really Have To Always Complain?

I'm not a mother myself, probably several years away from being at that stage of my life, and very few of my close friends are mothers already, but I see what you mean. I have a friend who's pregnant right now, and every time we talk she's always complaining. "I feel so tired..." or "I feel so fat..." or "Being pregnant sucks so much..." blah blah blah, I never hear the end of it! It's like she's not even the slightest bit happy or excited that she's going to have a baby. I mean, I can't wait to have kids! Well... actually I can wait, clearly, cause I'm doing that right now, but you know... I'm really excited for that stage of my life. I know that being pregnant might be a pain, and that kids will be tough to deal with at times, but I feel like that's the way blessings function. Most blessings don't sit there and sparkle. Besides, if you're complaining about something in your life all the time, you're going to have trouble finding good things in it.

I figured out that being a mother was a huge chore and decided to not be one - at FOUR! Now, 55 years later, I have successfully avoided motherhood and I'm happy to not be a mother. I am always pleased when I meet a mother or father who decided to have a child/children and are doing a good job raising them. For the rest of those people... well, they should've not spread their legs!

As frustrating as my daughter could be at times, I also recognized that she had a lot of ME in her. But to be honest, once they're grown, all the complaining will change to whining about how they never see their babies. I know, because my ex has completely cut off my daughter from me-and since I'm not working right now, money is tight or else I'd be there to see her every day!

That may be the only outlet they have. Their husband, boyfriend, or whatever never wants to hear it. And their friends probably have children too so they don't want to hear it. I don't know. I don't have children and don't want them. Not because I don't like them.

I never could understand why people had babies if they were just going to complain about them and how hard it is ti care for them. I think they knew before they had them how hard it was going to be. I do not care for the complaining of those women. If you didn't want kids as some that complain didn't then like u said they shouldn't have spread their legs or use protection. I am unable to have kids of my own tho i wanted them so badly so it makes me feel even worse to hear these people complain. Having children is a blessing and they should be grateful they even have kids. For the ones that wanted them don't complain because you wanted the kids and now you have them so be grateful you do.

As you know, I'm not a mother... But I do have kids, and I have a facebook account. And I do sometimes get frustrated when my kids whine or misbehave. But never would I complain about them on public, or online. That I keep to myself. Because however stressed out I get when my kids get unruly, the happiness they bring is worth even 100 times the frustration.

It really points out how lifestyle has changed over the years. Man and woman used to raise children together. Now if people get married, many times they still think like the object of life is to hang out and, or party. I know many people think society is "progressing" but I just think it's falling apart.

This is why abortions and open adoptions should be legal! I agree , if you are complaining , the est thing is to let the children go . It is far better for them to be raised in a family that Want them than have to hear how their existence is a burden to their mother. But what is happening? Women are getting pregnant and keeping the baby and thinking the baby will fit into their lives instead that the baby and his/her needs will come first. It is so sad that many don't get it.

I agree...they are truly blessings but there is alot of work involved in raising them and that should have been given consideration before the fact like you said....not complaining about it after!

I see just as many fathers complaining too and you know what I wonder why they do not discipline their kids. Teach them to behave as they should not like the animals they portray them as.

I am happily childfree and I've often asked the same question! I've seen a lot of parents who complain about their kids, complain AT their kids and don't even seem to like their kids. If you look at most of what they complain about the fault isn't with the kid but the parent for not making the required effort in raising the little darling. Kids are hard work and I think half the problem is that the parents can't really look after themselves. Often the constantly "bored", demanding, picky, annoying, self-absorbed child is a reflection of how the parent is. Harsh but true.

I don't have any children myself but totally admire those (like your good self) who do..and I agree with you wholeheartedly. It's a bit late for these women to moan AFTER THE EVENT isn't it? They should do what I do and not bother if having kids is such a burden. Oh, and why are they on Facebook? I bet their kids are round their feet annoying them through lack of attention. I see it all the time when I'm out and about and the mothers are more interested in their Smartphones. I actually said to one woman, 'Get off yer phone!' but she ignored me of course. Her kid was totally ignored and I got angry and came out with my little outburst to the mother. I don't normally say anything but I had to on this occasion.

Well, thats what kids do. Thats their job to annoy us. We were all once young and we all did it ourselves. It is part of having kids. But to complain about it is stupid. Bragging about your kids is always a good thing. I agree with you about this. If they didn't ant kids then they shouldn't have had them.

People in general and I apologize for saying so women love to complain. I have a complaining mother. Nothing is ever good enough for her. If I don't clean something then I'm a no good kind of person (untrue), and if I do clean something I'm "like my grandmother" and want to be spotless (untrue). I hate people.

Lol there are mothers like that..and well it is true that our kids can really wear us out but i have to agree with you that constant complaining is not good too.. it is ok to complain oncein a while but everytime? i do not think so. But lucky for me i have not seen any of my friends complain about their kids ..yet..

First off, I have to admit that there are times that my children really drive me nuts. This is what happens when the two of them aren't able to get along and also when they have their volume set at an outside level despite the fact that we are inside. However, I've never felt like my children are a burden to have in my life and I couldn't begin to imagine what my life would be like if they weren't a part of my life. I believe that there are some people that shouldn't be a parent, but I know that I am not one of those people.

It is never an easy task to be a mother. Its draining and exhausting yet not enough reason for me to regret having children. They are sometimes (well sometimes but in daily basis)causing me stress physical and emotional but they are also my antedote. Children are so precious they are genuine source of happiness. So effortless they can make us laugh with their innocent gestures.

Hi LovingMyBabies Unfortunately, many people misunderstand and believe that negative things will always attract attention of others (and many a times I have found this to be correct). I dont know the women folk you mention but I do know some of their types. Such women would on one hand go on telling all ugly things about their kids, hubbies and even friends only to get attention. And facebook is a place where you need attention. I do agree with you when you say about thinking twice (before spreading the legs) or even using protection. Their putting up such posts on FB only indicates that they are unhappy souls who can never be satisfied. Being a mother is a HUGE Blessing and I guess these moms dont realize this fact.

Hi friend, i agree with you, it is not easy to raise a kid, we are in need to face a lot of issues. We must take every thing as casual and give our uttermost care to our kid. As a parent we must realize our importance and avoid complaining about our kids, we gave birth to them and it is our duty to take care about them, even though they are giving lot of troubles. Guide your kid in a good way with your affection, it will solve a lot of problems.

Haha. Yeah right, I agree, they should not complain over things that had happened. Maybe they are just airing and sharing their pains and disappointment. Maybe they just have no other way to express and release these feelings. So all they do is post it any sites there could be, like facebook or maybe here in mylot. It is just no different from those who keeps on complaining about the job and miserable they are in the profession and job they have chosen. I am really annoyed seeing those in my wall. So whenever I see my friend starting to complain and all, I just ignore it or put them in a hide mode so I won't see her/his posts anymore. LOL