Stabbed in My Back

Not much you can do. Sounds like this lady is a sort of loo-loo. I would just figure it is a lost cause and not use her anymore. Your bakings sound delicious. I would certainly buy some. I think you are a saint for doing what you are doing. Maybe the amount will just have to be a bit late. I think you are doing the best you can do.

People that steal are not always in need of what they steal. In fact quite often they are not. I would just tell her that there is some discrepancy in the cash flow and you need to investigate further as you are not sure what the problem is.Guaranteed this will a reaction out of her. Above all, do not let her spend another day handling the cash.

Oh Cynthiann, that totally stinks and this is a lady at your church? Have you considered talking to the other ladies or someone else who is in charge? This is so not right and if you can't do anything then I suggest that someone who is more trustworthy be in charge of the money. As for no proof, do you mean no proof that she had taken this money or proof that you are short? If you can't prove you are short on cash, then I am afraid you may have to let it go and move on to not participating until another is put in charge of the money.

I remember a discussion in college about the nature of people. I recall that the professor was of the belief that people are inherently selfish, have to be taught to be good (and often aren't anyway). Stories like this make me wonder if she wasn't at least partly right.... (grrrr)

If she did use the money for other things that is so wrong and horrible. I really hope she did not spend that money. You have been working very hard to help the woman with cancer. If you find out she did that I would find someone else to help instead of her, she apparently cannot be trusted.

Oh Cynthiann I feel so bad for you, please try not to feel bad because you trusted this so called friend, believe me God knows what she did and God knows that you were trying to do a good thing. I hope this all works out for you but please don't go making yourself sick over this, sometimes we trust the wrong people after all you are only human be kind to yourself. Take care Cynthiann, Oh yes perhaps you should talk to your priest about this it may take this large burden off your shoulders.

Unfortunately, even with people who claim to be Christian there will be people out there like this. I can't believe someone you trusted like this would do this, but then you really do never know. I would wonder how they can live with themselves and never stop to think about whatif it was them. But in reality if they never stop and think and take time to repent it could come back to bite them and where eill they be then.

Oh, that is so sad and underhanded. I know you have been donating out of the goodness of your heart and I would have thought that others would as well. If she is indeed helping others then I would say that is just because she wants the praise of others and wants a lot of people to be indebted to her.

hi cynthiann that woman is really hurting the lady you all are donating money to help her. what is she thinking that she will just use the profits for herself?? no way she should be honest and turn over the profits and not hedge on them. Watch her and maybe talk to her if you think it would help but others need to be made aware she is not doing right with her hot dog selling. Sometimes the scorn of others can make a wrong doer straighten up a md fly right. I really would question her as to the two hundred fifty shortage..She needs to come up with the difference.

"Don't Judge A Book By Its Cover" In our office, we have an auditor who is under contract and though does not station in the office has a full time assistant posted in our accounts department to oversee matters. After some time everyone could see that she is a rather organized and neat worker who is really a great person at the office. On top of that, pretty, very pleasant, soft spoken and easy to get along. She's like everything you would like to find in a lady and wife. In case there are some single bachelors reading - let me add that she's already married with 2 children. As all of us got along pretty well in the office, it is natural that we include her in when we have our after office hour drinks or meals together (strictly girls). On one occasion, she had too much for herself and to cut the story short, I had the task of sending her home (I am a part-time keeper). Together with my husband, we took her in our car and carried her to her house. Upon entering her house everything seems to be quite alright in the living room but because she had puke on her apparels and she was in no condition to change I decided that she be carried into her bedroom. Also, I understand that her husband is away on business and children are in boarding school - so I thought it would be better that I get her changed before I leave. It was really a sight in the bedroom when we reached her master bedroom because everything is everywhere. It is not something I would relate to what I see at work where everything is so well organized and kept nicely. But, surprisingly it does not carry to her home where I could even overhear how her husband is calling her on the phone asking where she had placed the bills for the house. In short, you should not take for granted that this lady would be organized and careful with money especially when it is in her hands. Earning money and managing it are 2 different schools. It is not just a left and right hand issue but 2 separate left and right hand - I think your people have said something about the left hand not knowing what the right hand is doing. I feel that she is just a little behind with her bookkeeping entries and you really cannot blame her. Perhaps, you can suggest that she keep tabs of the expenses by making a note in her mobile phone using the notes function (feature phone) or applications (smart phone) or take a photo of the item or person the money is given to - where she can recall by simply reviewing the notes or photos for the day. Since you have a BB, I am sure you can do more since there are so many management features inside or if you are lazy then take a picture - picture speaks a thousand words. Hope this tip will be of help.

That is sad and infuriating. She's taking advantage of you and of your sick friend. I would certainly not be trusting her anymore. You handle all the money yourself.. perhaps find a different business partner who will be more honest and caring. Seems you just can't trust anyone these days! GRR.

sounds like you already have a plan and thats the right idea. i would do exactly like you said you should. looks like you know how to handle it

I am very sorry that that person was not trustworthy. But what is worse ids that she stole (there`s no other word for it) the money that a person with cancer needed. The best you can do is to move on if she won`t actknowledge the money she owes and get someone else to help.

This woman you trust to keep the money, is pure evil she knew what, she was doing she might have spent the money, on herself you never know people, do this like this, the next time you raise money, for this sick friend you keep the money, your self to send to your friend who is sick, don't trust any one to hold, the money for you that way you know, how much money you have raised.

I would just tell her that she no longer needs to do it, and that you are taking care of the money. I would take that break, as you need one too. You never know what gets into people.

This is terrible...a lady with NO conscious, altho pretending to be Mother Theresa.... Yes, I understand "she" is from the Church, but that doesn't mean she is cloaked in goodness...seems to me, might be the devil in disquise. My first clue would be that she assumed the right to distribute hard earned monies without consultation with you, as you are one of the foremost contributors! I thinK I would politely tell her, after evaluating your costs and efforts, as you have a record of how much you SHOULD HAVE contributed...you are re-designing your efforts and will be in control of your contributions, she can control her own. But one thing really irks me, is this for her glory, under the guise of your good heart, in wishing to help a special friend...Scary, and not a player I would want to continue to have on my team!

What a bummer. I don't understand people at all...they can put the screws to you without even flinching. I know how tiring it must be....others might be able to help though if you asked them right? I wish for you that you find an good solution to the problem.

She sounds like a woman who cares about appearances... about looking good to others. It would be unfortunate if word got around about what a despicable little thief she really is... Find a way to use her weaknesses against her. It is unlikely that she would want for everyone within your little community to know that she is a fraud.

I really don't know what you should do in this situation. I think that when you are doing a fundraiser like this that everything should be kept on paper. However, I also understand that you really can't do that when you are not making all of the purchases yourself. If you need a break, then go ahead and take a break. However, when it comes to the woman that is lying to you, I would say that the best thing that you can do is to just forget about her and give your other friend everything that you've been able to save for her.

I read your discussion with Mike about going to the priest instead, I hope you've resolved this issue with them already. The assistant parish priest we used to have here (he's now heading his own parish some place else) was great at resolving these kinds of issues. He had a way with words!