How can I forgive & forget?

the bible says what god puts together no man puts assunder remember that its probably bothering her just as mush or maybe more the ring blessed by the preacher is nothing he's just a preacher he is not god but you and your wife have a holy union blessed by the father else the marriage would have never been in the first place darling life is to to to short to sweat the small stuff and yes you can forgive with out forgetting

in our life,there have so many things we felt regret,some passed away with the time,but some stayed in our mind forever.it remind us of the unhappy things.
wedding ring is an important thing to us,it is symbol of love,but from another standpoint it is just a ring,a metal ring,which one is more important?love or a metal ring?so if you love her,please foget that ring,forgive your wife,life is so short for us,so,why not to make life happy and relax?

well man ur wife is whom u luv and she too regretted of losing the ring. it happened by chance.. not really her fault

its just as simple as this.
time heals all wounds..
when the right time comes you will notice that you forgive then forget.

Jim,

I've been pondering and it seems that you are having the biggest issue of it being that its not the ring that was blessed in the service.

Would it help if you recommited your vows in front of a pastor and had him bless the new ring?

I know its hard not to forget something like that, and its even harder to forgive, believe me I struggle with forgiveness all the time on many different issues

I guess that would be my first suggestion, what about bying you a new ring as well and have that blessed at the same time.....

Mooch

Sometimes people do stupid things especially when were emotional and so angry with the person were arguing with. I think didn't mean to hurt you that bad, she's moved on after accepting that she regretted the way she acted and throwing your wedding ring down the toilet. Don't you think it's about time to move on,too and stop thinking about it? Thing is, marriage is not just about the wedding ring, it's about love and commitment for each other.

I think you should see the phychological doctors at once.Because there is something wrong with your heart,maybe you look well in the outside,however,in the inside heart,you could not really forgive your wife and forget what had happened.It is a dangerous and risky signal.Remember your wife also would not like to happen like this,she loves you very much.So you really should give her a chance or opportunity.Forgiving her is also forgiving yourself.

Okay I am probably the last person to give any advice on this forgiving and forgetting stuff as I am on the one hand very forgiving and compassionate(Irish) and then deadly vengeful(Sicilian) LOL..xoxoox
Well, Jim, let me ask you one thing here...how in the world can you ever expect to get around this memory when you won't even wear your wedding ring.
You really are being ridiculous there, I feel, because if one is married, one wears their wedding ring, unless it is in the way of work.
But to stay married and not wear your rings is wrong to me..this is just something I picked up on in your post..sorry if it seems harsh, but I thought it curious.
If you are not wearing it out of spite and to hold this memory within you, I think you ought to turn it around and go ahead and wear your ring, at least that would be a start..you see the very thing that hurt you, you became yourself.
Now some of my words here are not solving your problem with the forgiving, but if you truly love your wife, you will forgive her.
I have something in my craw as well with my other half, but believe me it is not a pretty memory and I don't know if I can ever forgive this one..I can't speak of it here as it is not appropriate I feel.
But you are not alone in this hard to forgive factor...some things scar and you don't forget..doesn't mean you can't, but it is tough..it can be done however, believe me it can..open your heart to love and love will find a way.
All I know is I can relate here, as my other half is a great one at throwing wedding rings and you name it all over the place..this is not something I do..and I find it strange, but really, I think it is childish, and I feel sorry for them LOL xooxoxoxo really look at it like that..it is so childish, so very funny! (((((Jim))))xoxoox Don't let this one thing ruin your happy, loving, sensitive heart. Get it off your chest to your wife..talk to her gently and tell her you forgive her, but make sure she knows how much she hurt you and once it is out in the open, you will feel relief as such okay? May you have many happy years and many blessings with your feisty wife. xo

I think the gusture of her flushing her wedding ring in the toilet hurt you badly,which you may never get over because if it was me i don't think i could forgive if my husband flushed his.To me is says its over and you mean nothing or your feeling,I would say talk to her about it,but there really isn't much she could do to change what she did.Some how you will figure it out and I really hope you do,It would be good for you to forgive not forget because you probably never will.

I know that this is something that has bothered you, but your wife had a momentary laps in judgement. Have you never had a momentary laps in judgement, would you like to be judged for it for the rest of your life? Yes this hurt, but if you want your marriage to move forward and be free of resentment you need to let this go. We all make mistakes. If the marriage has moved on beyond what ever problems you were having at that time, you must move past this. Don't let this ruin your marriage and stop punishing your wife, the situation must have been really terrible for her to do that in the first place, but things are better now and you have worked past what ever problems you were having. Let this go, for the sake of your marriage. Renew your vowels as someone else said. That is a good idea.