I Need To "Find Myself"...

Yeah. I'd take her back on the side.....

No I wouldn't:) I believe there are better ways to find yourself. For all that husband know, his wife might have been screwing around a lot. It's unnacceptable, selfish even if it sounds like a lot of fun

I mean how many sain people could just leave their kid like that? It's incrediblly shallow. finding herself my ar*e

Seven years? no way. I wouldn't even recognize her. Wait? no. You could be waiting forever. You can find yourself ina family, or relationship - going away for that long time sounds like madness.

goodluck

I don't know... at the time of our break down, if he had emphatically stated that he wanted us to continue, I would have, but after a while, it just seemed harder and harder to do.
Pride gets in the way, and one gets used to going it alone.
But, I suppose, if it's "True Love" (whatever that is) things'll work out. We always hear of these couples who dated in high school and for whatever reason being separated, meeting up in their old age and getting married. Who knows? I don't.

Hell no i would not take them back if they were gone for several years to 'find' themselves!! Who knows what they were doing in those years? What kind of diseases they may have picked up along the way? Oooohh gross!! people that do that really have no life at all i do not think anyway.... WHY would someone wait several years for someone to 'find' themselves?? That's plum crazy, if you ask me....Lori

No I would not wait for my partner if he decided to up and disappear for 3 years.
Surely at the back of the husbands mind is uncertainly weather she will go and do it again. I could not live like that constantly worrying that my partner would take off at any minute.

Hell no. If someone walked out on me to go "find their self", then they just showed me exactly who they are and I don't want that "new" person in my life. Just saying that is how I feel about the issue. Maybe they should have stayed home and used the google feature on their computer. How far do you need to go to find yourself?


*Looks in mirror*


Yep. Confirmed. I only had to go to the mirror to find me.

I could never say never because I am not in this person's shoes. I think of the story of the prodigal son so anything is possible. Forgiveness is a powerful thing and is not so hard, once you decide to do it.

I have forgiven things worse than that, not getting into detail, so I might be able to accept back a prodigal spouse.

This sounds alot like the story of the Prodigal Son. The husband probably still loved her and wanted his daughter to have a mother. I'd like to think I would be strong in such a situation but I guess it would depend on my husband. I can't imagine him doing something like that but I don't know how I could live without him, and he is the one person who has the ability to make me throw out all my resolve. I imagine the husband felt the same way about his wife. Maybe he felt it was a good thing in the long run; maybe he felt she got it out of her system and would be a better wife and mother for having done it.

Maybe his love for his wife and daughter was stronger than his pride and hurt feelings.

It would depend on how much I loved them and how I felt at the time of return.
But my guess that after 3 years or more I would reallyt have to look at them good to see if I really wanted to get back with them!

This is one of those situations where I would have to be in it to predict how I would react. Many times life becomes just to much to bear for some, better to remove yourself than to take more violent action. Such as murder and suicide.

Hi twoey,

Deserting your family especially when a child or more are involved is the cowards way out. No, I wouldn't take back a selfish and self centered person like that. If two people really care about their relationship they will do anything to make it work. If you need to "find yourself"
then seek counseling for the two of you. If you want to travel then do it before you get married and have kids, or travel together. If you have post partum blues, then get help!! Leaving your family because things get a little rough is not the answer. If you have not exhausted all the ways to help keep your family together, and don't care to even try, then run!!
I believe in fighting for my family. I made vows that I intend to keep if at all possible. My first marriage was the most difficult and emotionally painful experience I had ever endured but through it all, I found myself. My now ex husband and I grew up together. We learned together and now are good friends with a wonderful Son. Hugssss
leenie