Oh youre Robbies mother or oh youre Garlands wife? but who am I?  

hi sid yes we are always being referred to like that and I didnt'really dislike it of course. I loved my husband very much;'and was proud of my son.It was just at the junior college where I wass getting my first years of college that I sometimes felt like I had lost part of myself.Yet I always told myself you are lucky you have a husband and a child you love.Yet a small part of me always wanted somebody to say well hi Patsie, or hi Patsie Hatley.

i agree to that, webearn. it happens to me a lot of times, as in, "hi, meet my wife" so at first instance, people will see her, as in "hi, neil's wife" or "hi, mrs. armstrong."

today you are not Hatley anymore, you're Patsie to us, Patsie.

hi my fellow mylotters yes perhaps its just a matter of semantics and once someone knows me they usually do call me by name.I am glad'that mylotters would refer tome as Patsie hatley or Hatly,either one.'Its odd that a times it should have mattered that much seeing that I had a very good marriage andwas proud of my son who was going to junior college at the same time I was.

ni enjoyworld glad to see you here again.yes we are always'bing called someones whatever. Maybe i should really treasure those'day now that I have been widowed for years. I am hardly ever called robbies mom anymore but lately people here have told me my your
'son looks just like you. and that was sort of nice too.

hi paula wow no I dont think I have ever heard a guy
being called Joans busband or Bobbys father. for one'thing I dont think any red blooded man would stand still for being'designated as
someones husband or someones daddy, they would turn on th'person and tell them to call them by their names. he he eh

You're also "kitty's friend" and even "kitty's hero". OR to be more specific, Mare's friend and Mare's hero, as well as Marianne's friend and Marianne's hero. ?

THAN YOU Kitty,mare, & marianne I really appreciate having you as a friend, & 'daughter' ..lori

oh lori I am sorry of course this would be almost painful for'you. and really I was proud to be called Robbies mom. Now after being a widow for many years I am once again just Patsie Hatley but in junior'college I was never greeted by my name but by being Robbies mom or Garlands wife. it used to get to me.now here at Gold Crest I am always told your son looks so much like you I just knew he h ad to be your son when I first met him.Thats odd to because he had verydark brown hair and dark brown eyes while i am whitehaired and blue eyed.

That is perfecly ok hatley... I'm sure u & ur son have the same facial features... i likeyour first name it fits you...Lori

thank you laurie i used to hate it but in the last'few
years I have grown to like it.my husband god love him
called Patty tricia as he knew I disliked patsie, andont
time a person said that tome,a perfect stranger,and I
almost fainted as my husband had been dead for a long'time.
Then he explained he was a teacher at our junior college'andhe had heard my husband call me that. It still was a little'scary
as that was a joke betweenjust us two.

hi roniroxas you just made me realize why some people'probably
called me Robbies mom, they had forgot my own first name but'knew robbie and my husband. that gives a better slant on things.'Oh I
am just horrible with remembering names. I will remember faces'and even connect the face with where I met the person but I have to go'hoh hello Mrs. uh Uh and sometimes they will say oh I m Joan remeber me from writing class and again sometimes they wont. embarrassment for sure.

see hatley, so its better to talk to Robbie's mom or Jack's wife or Jayjay's sister than to be recalling names that i am sure we will be feeling dumb trying to recall one. i am a singer and meets more thaan 10 people almost every after work and my goodness i can not recall all of them. the best way is to give smiles and just carry on talking. i am not really good on names. and thank you for telling me that you realize a good point in my response, that made my day. hugs for you hatley

hi roniroxas yes the best you can do when you just cant remember'the name is to change the subject and go on talking as usually the'
other person willbegin thinking about the new subject.I wish'I was not so bad about remembering names.

hi sanjana aslam Thats so true I was always myself when I'worked at the library save this one wonderful sweet gruff woman who called us'all by our last names.To her I was always hatley. it used to'really amuse me too as she bellowed hatley come here, how come you arent'home in bed,no dont tell me your okay,here take these,I have plenty more at home,oh you should be in bed.then she would give me a package of cough drops that had vitamin C in them. she mothered all of us,she had twelve children so she came by it naturally.

hi cwong yes I came to be identified with my son as He and my'hysband and i were all taking junior college classes. my son won over the heart of this one english teacher who always praised his writing ability to me, then he would say as his mom your son comes by his witing abiity from your own ability. you always get an a in my'classes which was true. I think he couldnt remember my first'name so he used robbies mom. and now I dont think it bothers me after all these years.

hi hvedra yes its kind of sad specially if women lose themselves
in being a possession of someone. what you just said was what
used to bother me in junior college as I wanted to yell no'I am Mrs patsie Hatley, dont you see that I make excellent grades too,yes'robbies my son but look call me by myright name.

hi sunnysmiles yes you have it in a nutshell Its okay now as I'am known here as Patsie or Patsie Hatley but when I was married I got called garlands wife so many times and I would correc them and say yes but my name is Patsie Hatley. it took a whole lifetime to get back to who I was really