ajhenloc

@ajhenloc (35)

United States • Age 79

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My son fell off his horse and now he is scared to ride. He wants to know how to get over this.

kbkbooks @kbkbooks (7022) • Canada 6 Dec 06

My son fell off his horse this past summer. She started running when he wasn't expecting it and his feet came out of the stirrups. He flew off the back off the horse and landed on the ground, fortunately not getting very much...

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ajhenloc From what you have written it might be a good idea if you explain to your son that the biggest reason this fall happened was his momentary inattention. I must expect that an animal could at anytime be startled. It is like driving a car. What if someone...

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How much time do your children spend with grandparents?

Krysha @Krysha (48) • United States 6 Dec 06

My husband and I have 3 kids. 10,7 and 4. And honestly almost every weekend they are at either my parents house or my mom in laws house. Now we as parents don't ask the grandparents to take the kids - but instead the...

grandchildren

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ajhenloc There is no such thing as normal. Many kids don't have grandparents nearby or even alive. Some are busy working or emotionally unable to be close to their grands. Since there are no guidelines anyway...are you worried about something?

7 Dec 06

How many hours do you spend on the computer?

Swadey @Swadey (220) • Canada 1 Oct 09

I find that i spend alot of my time on the computer when i should be doing other things. I spend a good 2 or four hours on the computer a day i think. what about you guys how long do you spend on the computer a day? and what do...

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ajhenloc I find that i spend alot of my time on the computer when i should be doing other things. I spend a good 2 or four hours on the computer a day i think. what about you guys how long do you spend on the computer a day? and what do you do on the computer? i spend...

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My 20 year old daughter hates me.

birthlady @birthlady (5609) • United States 7 Dec 06

Oh, she says she loves me, but i know better. She was born at home, breastfed until she was 2, and a spoiled youngest child, my only daughter, raised with her brothers and her cousin (like a sister to her when they were little)....

children

custody fight

mother daughter relationship

my daughter hates me

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ajhenloc I can hear your hurt. You are a mother and your life has not been easy. I am a mom to and my son and I suffered a long emotional seperation. Although we were also many miles apart I will say that the hardship both you and your daughter suffered was very...

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Legal advice

KnittingAddict @KnittingAddict (6) • United States 5 Dec 06

I need help. my mom remarried to someone who, coincidently, I dont like. My mom had convinced me that my real dad had left because he didnt love my brother and i then she asked us if we wanted the man that she remarried to be our...

legal advice

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ajhenloc Adoption laws are different in many places but in Pennsylvania and some other states the natural parent also has to sign off their rights. If you father was unable to be reached, maybe a judge did it anyway. If you don't have the money for legal advice,...

6 Dec 06

going to prison at a young age?

sandlot @sandlot (38) • United States 6 Dec 06

See i grew up in a very abusive and alcoholc childhood,by the time i was 13 i was doing time in the youth home,my first crime was a stolen car.Anyways that set up my teenage years for some real trouble,so iwas in and out of the...

prison

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ajhenloc It is a great thing to put your story into a book. It will be good for you, an accomplishment that does not put you in jail again, and their will always be people who can learn something from another person's experience. You seemed to have learned your...

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Women rights!!

humaaaa @humaaaa (1386) • Pakistan 6 Dec 06

Women is always treated as second grade human in the world. Today she is doing everything that a man does and walks along with man, there is nothing left in the world that a woman can't do but still she's always seen as a weak...

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ajhenloc I find that most women still believe within themselves that they are not equal and are even less than men. To be sure the world has made many strides but until at least 50% of the women in the world actually step up and stop being afraid of what will happen,...

6 Dec 06

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Relationships: Dealing with an overbearing mother-in-law

nonconformingmommy @nonconformingmommy (49) • United States 5 Dec 06

Ok here's the problem. My mother-in-law is a complete psycho! I won't get into too many details here because I'd use all the server space on MyLot if I did. Instead I'll give a brief synapsis and go from there. My husband...

anniversary party

everybody loves raymond

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ajhenloc If she didn't ask you to do something but calls and gives you stuff, or if you have said no to her then what would happen if you didn't DO anything. Just listen to her, and totally ignore what she wants. Don't do anything regarding a party or anything else...

6 Dec 06

She’s Getting Divorced and It’s Completely Unexpected>>>please help her

pusibaba @pusibaba (1010) • India 5 Dec 06

After 20 years together, I am in the early process of a surprise divorce. I have 3 young children and want to try and work out any problems. My husband is unwilling and can’t get out of this marriage fast enough. He claims we have...

help

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ajhenloc I can say from my personal experience that the hurt feelings, need to protect him,etc. would be the same if you were together 1 or 50 years when it was out of the blue that this came up. It does not matter if there is someone else or not. There usually is or...

6 Dec 06

How long to wait?

kyliepops @kyliepops (269) • Australia 5 Dec 06

How long did you wait to have children? My hubby and i have only been married 2 months but been together 3 years and known each other 18 years. Im 28 (nearly 29) he is 33. I want to start trying for children after christmas but he...

children

kyliepops

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ajhenloc This is one of those discussions that the two of you should have had before the wedding. Any time you have a mature partner and sufficent resources is a great time to have a child to share it with. Your husband is afraid of something and because men do...

6 Dec 06

Daughter's Job

beautyoperater @beautyoperater (1890) • United States 5 Dec 06

My daughter was on only her second day on the job and go into trouble. Here's what happened. she was on the cash register by herself and a lady used her debt card. The register printed out the reciept and my daughter gave it to...

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ajhenloc I don't feel that it is your daughter who got in trouble. She is learning and one thing that will give her great reward for the future work she will have is to deal with awful managers and/or customers. A skilled manager would never yelled let alone in front...

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Should I stay in college?

nickjperez @nickjperez (5) • United States 5 Dec 06

Yes, I know that college graduates can get better jobs more easily with a higher salary, and I know that most decent jobs require a degree of some sort, but let me explain.. I don't want to be employed. I don't want to wake up...

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ajhenloc I started my own business a few years ago. I never went to college but I had 30 years of work experience which was really incorporated with ongoing training at my company. Once I started the business I found it to be a lot of hard work. I was sucessful and...

6 Dec 06

What would you do if you had 24 hours to live ?

soverdear @soverdear (16) • United States 19 Jul 09

There are so many things I havent been able to do in my life and if I found out I only had twenty-four hours to live I dont know how I would react. How would you? What would you do? Ive always wanted to be a risk taker and skydive...

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ajhenloc There are so many things I havent been able to do in my life and if I found out I only had twenty-four hours to live I dont know how I would react. How would you? What would you do? Ive always wanted to be a risk taker and skydive and bunjee jump front the...

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From where happiness can be derived?

anandbabu @anandbabu (14) • India 5 Dec 06

I was thinking happiness can b derived only when some big goals are achieved.But people were telling even small things in life give happiness and thereby we can enjoy every moment in life.So people,what are the small things in...

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ajhenloc Happiness is.....chosen! I take an unassited breath when I wake...happy The sky is sunny or raining, there are no bombs....happy I can walk, talk, I am healthy today....happy I have food to eat, a job, school, friends....happy I have much to learn, find,...

5 Dec 06

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How to control anger ?

SimplyJo @SimplyJo (1694) • India 5 Dec 06

Friends..I have this big issue. I really lose my cool quite often.. can't seem to control my temper. It often causes issues for me in my personal/official life. I keep losing boy friends.. apparently noone can 'stick' to me for...

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ajhenloc If you were my child I would take you to a doctor and have your blood tested for chemical balance.

5 Dec 06

Does God really exist?

dexterous21 @dexterous21 (1180) • Philippines 5 Dec 06

I am aware that we have different beliefs. No matter who your God is, do you believe that he exist? The first philosophical notion of divinity to be considered here is the conception of God employed by theologians of the...

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ajhenloc What do you mean by exist. God certainly exists in religion, philosophy, the minds and hearts of many. Because a belief is not a fact it cannot be proven. What are you really asking here.

5 Dec 06

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Responding

Gabs @gabs8513 (48686) • United Kingdom 5 Dec 06

People are asking a lot of times on here why they are not getting a response and yes at times it is genuine But I go back to the Topics I have responded to and most of the time there has been no acknowledgement that my response...

respond

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ajhenloc I just started with myLot. So far I don't generally feel that people would have a reason to respond to me. Most people have asked for thoughts and I respond to those that I feel I have experience to speak on. If they use my idea or get some help from what I...

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Should people only adopt children of the same race?

imadriscoll @imadriscoll (2228) • United States 4 Dec 06

My husband and I are planning on adopting two boys from Haiti. We are white and they are black. Do you think that whites can raise black children as well as black parents could? Do you think that since we are white we should...

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ajhenloc Do you think children (of any race) without parents are raised better than children with parents (of any race). Nothing is ever perfect or ideal even within your own race and background children can still be let astray by parents who are racist, uncaring,...

5 Dec 06

What is the job of a stay at home mom?

imadriscoll @imadriscoll (2228) • United States 4 Dec 06

I'm just wondering what your idea of a stay at home mom is? What should she accomplish throughout the day and what about what dad's job is? If dad works a "normal" job does he work 40 hours outside the home and then his job is...

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ajhenloc A mom or dad had the primary job of taking care of the needs of their children/family. They both do their best. It works well when their is no line drawn as to who does what. Both people can and should do what needs to be done, at the moment it is needed....

5 Dec 06

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What can I Do?

Marie2473 @Marie2473 (8512) • Sweden 5 Dec 06

My ex has 2 kids that I from the beginning didn´t know about. I found out about them after 2and a half years. After 4 years in total we broke up because it turnd out that he had lied about pretty much everything. The thing is...

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ajhenloc Your heart is going out to the children and mine would too. You are a kind person and would probably do anything to make this situation better. After having said this, I don't really see any way that you will be helpful to the kids by continuing a situation...

5 Dec 06

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